Is she a slut or what?

[Anonymous]

My wife slept with 15 guys before she turned 14, by the time we met at age 22 her total was about 35 or more (possible 70) Her parents did not set many boundaries for her which gave her the freedom to sleep around.

[rainydaydreamaway]

I have read through the comments and your responses to this.

First and foremost - seriously, don't think of your wife as a slut. I know you didn't call her one - you are just asking if she would be considered a slut. But if you are thinking of her as one, you are probably not able to treat her very respectfully or lovingly. And you probably won't be able to trust her not to sleep around anymore.

That many guys before she was 15 sounds like sexual abuse - without a doubt. And leaving a girl that young to that kind of situation sounds like neglect by her parents. It's their job to protect her from that. At some point she began to feel like her only worth was sexual. If you are staying with her, part of your job is to help her heal from that (or help her find resources for dealing with it) and assure her you won't judge her for it. I promise you your marriage will benefit from it. It's now your chance to be the night in shining armor who frees her from it. I assure you it was sexual abuse and I assure you it has been nothing short of a nightmare.

I also have to wonder if substance abuse (including alcohol) played a role, and maybe still does? This needs to be addressed.

I am sure it came from a sense of shame and feeling like she could not be loved if you knew the truth, but she should not have lied to you. I am sorry that happened and that you didn't have that information to consider before marrying her. I think it's great that you've decided to stay with her, though staying with her does not entitle you to treat her with anything less than respect.

You are in a small town and yes, many people do know about her history. You have 2 choices there, and I strongly suggest a comb of both:

1: While you are there, it falls on you to defend her honor. Period. That is your job since you love her and are choosing to stay with her. I am not saying to assault people and get thrown in jail. I am just saying to tell people to stay out of your (and her) business. They are basically judging an abused/neglected child for being abused/neglected and a good man for being there for her, so f*ck what they think.

2: Get out of there. I am sure it was sexual abuse and she doesn't need all those reminders of it and you don't need to deal with people's judgment all the time. Get a fresh start somewhere else.

If you are sure you want to stay with her, your job, as is any husband or wife's job, is to be compassionate and understanding. Judging her will only hurt both of you and your children.

[juliem521]

This is the best advice I have seen on this entire site! I was thinking she was abused as well! She didn't have to admit to him that she had done those things but she trusted him enought to confide in him! Don't betray that trust! Many girls that are sexually abused come away with the feeling of low self worth and that all they have is sex to feel loved.

[katiesmuff]

I am 26 and will be 27 in August. At 13 I was freely giving oral to the guys I hung with and at 14 was f***ing just about any guy that wanted some. This continued until I was 24. I was certainly a SLUT! I know that more than 100 different d***s have been inside me and many of them much more than once. This was my life, then for whatever reason the guy who has become my life pulled me out of the gutter and has loved and cared for me like a fairytale. We have been together for 30 months now and are planning a summer wedding. I have not once had the urge to stray since he came along and love him with all my heart, and believe he loves me the same. I thank god every day that during my SLUT years that I never contracted an STD or HIV or got myself DEAD. I do not consider myself a slut today and life is great.

If you feel your situation is somewhat the same then NO your wife is not a slut and I hope the very best for the both of you.

[kcm_05]

Why does it matter at this point... you guys are married now can you see past her number and still love her.. do you think any less of her because of it? I sure hope not marriage is a lifelong commitment. and why does it matter what people on here think of her. they don't know her they don't know you and they don't know anything more about her than the amount of people she's slept with. its a pretty one sided judgment... also, has she been faithful to you? because that's all that should matter...

[Asker]

SHE LIED TO ME ABOUT HER PAST & I ONLY FOUND OUT AFTER WE HAD CHILDREN, I LIVE IN A SMALLISH TOWN & SEE HER PAST IN MY FACE IN A REGULAR BASIS. IT DOES CAUSE ME SOME GRIEF BUT I DO LOVER HER.

[kcm_05]

It was wrong of her to lie to you about it because of possible STI's etc especially because of the number of people there's a higher risk of other semi more serious STI's. I'm sorry she lied to you because that was really wrong on her part.I don't believe women are sluts. I hate that word just as I don't think men are sluts. As long as you are careful with what you do and you aren't having unprotected sex with a lot of people then that's your business not mine. I just don't want to catch something

[Asker]

I DON'T REALLY CARE AS MUCH ABOUT STD'S AS A DAMAGED HEART, I AM A ROMANTIC AT HEART & I HAVE LOST THE CAPACITY TO BE ROMANTIC AS I WOULD LIKE TO BE & ALSO RESPECT HER LESS. I AM A BIG BOY THOUGH & HAVE & WILL CONTINUE TO LOVE HER THE BEST I CAN, ITS JUST A REAL SHAME, THAT'S MY POINT NOT THE NAME CALLING.

[kcm_05]

I can see how that would be really hurtful towards you. how did this all come up? were you guys talking about trying new things.. or... ??

[Asker]

LIKE I SAID SHE LIED TO ME, I HAD ALARM BELLS RINGING, I ASKED QUESTIONS AS IT WAS ONLY A SHORT TIME BEFORE SHE WAS PREGNANT, & SHE EVENTUALLY TOLD ME THE TRUTH, I AM NOT PERFECT BUT I WOULD HOPE THAT ANYONE IN A SIMILAR POSTION WOULD TELL THE TRUTH BEFORE LIFELONG DECISIONS ARE MADE,I HAD WAITED A LONG TIME TO MEET MISS RIGHT, LOL

[kcm_05]

Would you not have married her had you known before?

[Asker]

THIS IS MY LAST COMMENT BEFORE I CALL IT A NIGHT, THANKS FOR YOUR INPUT, I BELIEVE I WOULD HAVE LOVED HER ALL THE SAME, OF CAUSE I WOULD PREFER HER TO HAVE LESS PARTNERS IN A PERFECT WORLD, GOODNIGHT.

[Anonymous]

Dude! First off how can you call your wife a slut in this way? Yeah I call my wife a slut but its in fun and she likes it. It sounds like you're totally disrespecting your wife. The reason you do this is because you lack respect for her because she's been with a sh*tload of dudes. Are you secure with the sex you're giving her? Or are you jealous because you know she’s had more d*ck, bigger d***, longer lasting d*ck, and better d*ck than you give her? Don’t blame her for your insecurities! Don’t blame her for your insecurities! What’s really f’d up is that you actually married her even though you lacked respect for her. This reeks of immaturity on your part. Really if I were you I’d either (1) come to terms with her past and work on making your relationship beautiful or (2) get a divorce immediately. And please don’t have kids until you’ve sorted this out. Your view of her past is not going to change though. You will always think she WAS a slut back then but maybe if you understand why and the reasons she is no longer a slut you’ll be able to deal. Lastly, I think most girls that are this promiscuous have issues with sex/power/relationships. You need to show initiative as a man to mutually address these. If you don’t I GUARANTEE your relationship will end with infidelity. I hope all this helps. It comes from my years of experience. I’m a happily married man btw.

[Subotai]

15 wow are you sure that's true I mean where did you hear that from rumors have a way of growing with time. 35 possible 70 that's a big spread dude. Its clear you don't know the real number so why guess. The short answer is yes she was a slut But why is that a bad thing now so many years later? Guys that sleep with lots of girls when they are young are called players studs real men and considered cool for it. But does it matter now. She got married, as long as all that happened before then it really doesn't matter. I mean do you two have a satisfying sex life I mean think of all that experience she has, I bet she's got some killer moves you didn't complain about enjoying. Pardon my pun but unlike some pure Christian woman she probably doesn't suck at blowjobs. If you two weren't having sex and she was being really cold I could see why you would maybe be a little jealous but if that's not the case and you really do love her you just need to forget about it. She moved on from that lifestyle, for one guy you, quite a compliment really, clearly she knows a lot of men and she decided you are the one who satisfies her. Besides if you married her I assume you must find something about a woman who adventurous with a strong sexual appetite a turn on even if you won't admit it

[rdabby]

first of all you shouldnt call your wife a slut, you should respect her.

second of all, what happened in the past is non of your busniess as long as it doesn't affect you, I don't see how would it affect you, unless your number was like 2 and it hurts your ego that she beated you with her number!

third of all, if she was the Husband, no one would call him a slut they would actually high five him to that.

fourth, what's in the past is in the past as long as she is not cheating on you, that doesn't give you the right to disrespect her by calling her a slut!

if you can't live with it then perhaps you need a girl who would lie to you about it because obviously you can't handle the truth or perhaps a closed minded chick who is saving herself for your majesty!

grow up and respect the mother of your future children

[dx021]

A girl is closed minded because she only sleeps with someone she is in a committed relationship with ? really?

[rdabby]

No read closely, a close minded chick is the one who who would LIE about it or perhaps she could be conservative. My Opinion! not that I agree with sleeping around, I don't support that whatsoever whether its a girl or a guy.. almost every chick wants a commited relationship she is not cheating on him so I don't agree with the fact that he called her a slut. point

[Fayeree545]

Why would you choose to air your wife's past online? To shame her? For a weak sympathy ploy?

Your wife told you this in confidence most likely. Shame on you! I'd rather be a slut than a blabbermouth, which you obviously are.

[Capricorn]

This is a big deal and he's not gonna ask his personal friends for advice on this situation.

[Rose-Red-Sunsets]

This behavior doesn't matter as long as she is faithful to you now. Put the past in the past. Because who really won in the end... People aren't always proud about this type of thing and since you are married try not to worry about such things which will never change.

[JustHateTheGame]

SLUT AND CHEATER ARE 2 DIFFERENT THINGS SLUT=sleeps with a lot of guys. CHeaters cheat. faithfulness isn't the question here

[lonepoet]

No, unless she is still sleeping around, she is not slut. You might say she was, but not is. But even then I think you need to considr her past. She may not have known better, and in my opinion, sluts know what they are doing.

[Jocko]

Id say that's a pretty big number and it be hard not to question the integrity of a girl like that. However from the outside id say yeah she was a lying slut,but is she still that person today? That seems to be the only thing that should matter now.

[Bexiie]

She is your wife what happened before you two got together shouldn't matter if she was still like that or admitted to having an affair yeah I could imagine why you are upset but is this really necessary if you love what does it matter if we say she is a slut. She must have obviously changed if she is now married to you but the answer to your question is no she isn't a slut but most likely WAS one but it shouldn't matter what anyone on here say if your married to the bloody woman and love her her past shouldn't matter.

[spicyavacados]

My parents set no boundaries for me and I was a virgin until 20.

Anyway, enough about that. Does her number bother you? If it does, either man up and get over it, or dump her if you're too immature to handle it. If it doesn't bother you but you're worried about how other people view her... well stop telling people, that's her business alone.

[CakeGirl02]

What difference does it make now? That was what, 15 years ago (approximately)? Why judge your wife on past actions from over a decade ago. She probably confided in you about what happened and now you're taking opinions on whether or not she's a slut. She's your wife now, dude! You really think she would appreciate you posting her business on a website for thee whole world to judge what she had done as a teenager?

[jeeperss]

the question is, do YOU think your wife is a slut?

if it bothers you, you should have thought of that before marrying her. afterward, you've already made the decision to love and cherish her. it shouldn't matter what other people think.

[gravygirl]

That big a number before 14 doesn't mean slut, it means someone who's messed up. A 14 yearold isn't making those decisions with the same clarity someone older would. I think there's a pretty good chance she was sexually abused. Do you know if she was? It really would explain a lot of her behavior. A lot of victims spend their adolescence and early adulthood reliving their abuse. I think the psychology behind it is that they are trying to get to a point where they can control it.

[trukita]

I hope you're not serious because this is your wife who you've just called a slut. To me, number doesn't really matter because it's the past and what really counts is the relationship I have with someone.

[rdabby]

Thank you!! he shouldnt have called his wife a slut!!! wtf?

[JustHateTheGame]

THE NUMBER DEFINES A SLUT (AGE/AMOUNT OF PARTNERS) stop putting gay emotions into it a slut sleeps with a lot of guys that's all it does not mean she is a bad person or a cheater it just means she screwed a lot of randoms

[trukita]

Chill out, brodie. Stop using gay as a negative adjective. And maybe the guys she's slept with aren't random. You really don't know what her story is. And actually, as far as I'm concerned, "slut" is more than just a number. It's an attitude that goes with it. Not all women who are very sexually active have a slutty attitude. (For the record, I don't really like using the word slut at all. It just reinforces the notion that guys can sleep around but girls can't)

[Olivia9]

That's sexual abuse if a fourteen year old has had sex with over 15 guys they were probably men taking advantage of her and you married her so you obviously don't think she is a slut. So the answer is no I don't think se is a slut I think she was probably molested as a child and yes I do think that you are a HORRIBLE husband and overall person.

[JustHateTheGame]

SLUT does not mean your a bad person or a cheater it just means you slept with a lot of guys, whether she was abused or not is completely irrelevant and to call someone a horrible person without even knowing them by definition makes you a bitch

[Olivia9]

You obviosuly have trouble with definitions since your the only person who thinks that slut is not a derogatory term. Since you have no problem calling women who are abused sluts it seems to me that you will be meeting up with a real bitch soon named karma. lol

[ready2sacrifice]

i don't wanna call her a slut but it would suck to just take her out and run into guys that have slept with her, imagine its your buddies, her boss, your neighboor, the waiter bringing you your food, you get the picture, either way id hate to have them say yeah you gotta keeper she's got a tight p**** and gives the best head

[Reeses-pieces777]

yeah that's a lot. but calling your wife slut is mean and she probably isn't religious.

to me, I can't do that cause I feel my spirit is linked to my body. if anyone hurts or takes that for granted, it hurts my spirit as well.

maybe she doesn't have a connection that way. she doesn't care perhaps.

[ArizonaRX]

Um, how many children does she have?

[luciaa]

the question is why are you asking this now husband? Perhaps you have made up your mind. Judge and you will be judged.

[proud_bostonian15]

she probably didn't tell you because she was embarassed. yea she definitely sounds like a slut, at least back then, but honestly she probably really loves you and didn't want you to be disappointed in her or upset. you broke a boundary with her when she told you. I get why you're upset and I totally would be too, but cut her some slack. it was a long time ago and she's most likely trying to get closer to you by admitting her past. don't hold on to this for too long :) if you can help it

[nenemomo]

First, as long as she's a faithful and considerate wife now, that is really not your business. As someone pointed out before, I think at 14 there could've been a lot of psychological pressure on her. Second, why do you need to label her? So you can think less of her if people do think she is a "slut"? "Slut" is a socially constructed term to make the people who use it feel superiors to the ones they give the label to. Maybe she really liked sex back in the day but didn't want a relationship. So what? It's not like she was hurting you the.

[CrazynKinky]

Do you love her? If she's your wife I hope you do. If you love her it doesn't matter, plus when people are young and don't have guidance you don't know any better. Plus sometimes it's the only way you can make your self feel wanted and loved so you don't hate yourself

[JustHateTheGame]

The question was is she a slut or not ANSWER THE QUESTION

[CrazynKinky]

No she's not a f***ing slut she was clearly abused as a child since when your younger than 14 it clearly wasn't her decision she didn't know any better. Which would cause serious mental problems and emotional ones she probably just did it because that's the only way she knew how to make people happy.

[CrazynKinky]

And even if it was all her wanting to sleep with those guys clearly knowing what she was doing. She would only be a slut by some closed minded prudes that are pathetic and need to get in to this century. Slut yes means someone who sleeps with many guys because it's a sexist term used to insult woman and make them feel dirty and insignificant because guy can sleep with a million woman and not have and word insulting them.

[CrazynKinky]

Woman that have many different partners aren't slut they just have a healthy sex life, which is nothing to be ashamed of. What's the matter with have multiple partners as long as your safe it doesn't matter and if it does actually matter than that girl deserves to be with someone much better cause you need to accept her for who she is. You should just be happy that she told you the real number to begin with she could lie and say she only slept with 3 or something.

[JustHateTheGame]

What do you call a girl that sleeps with a lot of guys then since you don't like the word slut, give me your word for it; and don't say she just likes sex because you can have a lot of sex with one or two people.

[CrazynKinky]

I call it a girl with a healthy sex life.

[Nutz76]

Yup, pretty much the definition of a slut.

Not your fault for not wanting to have married the village bicycle. Did you know about this beforehand?

[CrazynKinky]

How many woman have you slept with?

[tex151]

Sorry man but yup your wife is a slut.

[curiosa18]

she probably was because damn 15 guys before she was 14 wow!

im 24 and I haven't slept with that many..but she is your wife now and deserves

respect overall you chose her already. and unless she cheats on you I think

you should just get over it.. the past is the past.

[Clair]

No she's not.

You're a jealous nut case.

Just cause a girl slept around a lot in the past doesn't mean she is capable of cheating on you.

[tex151]

He didn't ask if she was cheating he just asked if she was a slut and the answer is yes, a major slut she had 15 guys before she was 14. That is a sluuuuuuuuuuuuut

[Clair]

No, she's not a slut.that word is meaningless. its just a term men like to use to insult women, and now this arse hole probably feel justified in treating his wife like sh*t, for things she did before they were together.

[dx021]

Because a man shouldn't feel like being intimate with his wife is something special right

[JustHateTheGame]

Dude he's not a jealous nut case just because he wants to know peoples opinions Stop mixing up cheaters and sluts my mom only slept with 2 guys in her whole life: my dad: and the guy after my dad, my mom isn't a slut, but she is a cheater, but every girl that says "at least she not a cheater" or "the past is the past" or some other BS is whorebag too, SLUT=SEX WITH A LOT OF GUYS. A CHEATER CHEATS ON SOMEONE THEY ARE EXCLUSIVE WITH by definition, his wife is a slut. and clair is too

[Clair]

There is more to intimacy than acting out biological urges to reproduce. Men really p*ss me off with their fixsation and over dramatisation of this most common act. Fucking primitive morons. 'A girl that says "at least she not a cheater" or "The past is the past" is a whore bag. and so is clair," well this is precisely why I believe that listening to male opinion is as useful as a bucket with no bottom. Cheaters make me sick. People that enjoy sex, I have no problem with.

[JustHateTheGame]

You can enjoy a lot of sex without a lot of partners, if you f*** a lot of different people, with no commitments, you are a slut, its not an attitude. okay clair, you don't like the word slut? what do you want to call a girl who screws a lot of guys? because my girlfriend has sex twice a day, and she isn't f***ing more than one guy, you can love sex without being a slut. So what is your definition clair? what do you call a girl who f***s a lot of different guys? since you don't like the word slut?

[Clair]

I have no word for girls that like to f*** around.Just as I don't have a term for the equivelent male versions. frequent sex with the same person can cause a lot of emotional entanglements some women and men are just not ready for at certain times in their lives, but they both have high sex drives. Haveing sex and enjoying sex responsibly isn't a bad thing, it's no ones buisness and if you have a problem with others doing it or haveing done $in the past, it's your failing, not theirs.

[Michaeldurrant]

I Agree with babykins89..

She won't want to talk about it man..

but she was looking for love in all the wrong places..

Just show her your hers.. Sex isn't how..

[boriquadiva]

Are you single?

[ModifyThis77]

thats messed up wife you got there no offense but it seems that is an act of SLUT!

[babykins89]

If she slept with 15 guys before the age of 14, she was probably sexually molested as a child, I worked at a teen clinic and that was really really common in the most sexually active teens.

[versusxiii]

I 100% agree. It's slutty behavior but like I said in another post, girls don't just have sex with guys for no reason, ever. There's always a deeper reason, even when it appears they are just a slut. Talk to your wife about her childhood, maybe it's something she has blocked out or just hasn't told you. You two need to work through that together and do it with NO JUDGEMENT.

[jacquesvol]

You could be very right

[lefthand]

Nope. She was a little precocious but some people are.

I would strongly suggest you get on your knees and thank her for choosing you as marriage worthy.

[JustHateTheGame]

You are a total sissy boy

[lefthand]

You had to comment the whole list with sex negative comments, why? Does the idea that someone actually has experience intimidate you that much? Have you ever actually seen a female breast? I'm sorry the idea of women having sex frightens you but I would suggest that you not draw attention to your inexperience, it makes you look frightened and reactionary.

[pearl1979]

This happened b4 she was with u. You are labeling as if it was present. Usually when girls at that age are sleeping around she was probably not getting much attention at home but found with these boys. At that age ur young and naive. As long as she comes in terms with herself now and respects you there is no reason you need to judge her past.

[mikesaracino]

Can't turn a ho into a housewife. He better watch out is all I can say.

[pearl1979]

Yes you can. all that happened when she was a teen. Teens are naive and sometimes misguided. she deserves a chance to make it right.

[jacquesvol]

"Teens are naive and sometimes misguided. she deserves a chance to make it right." Indeed.

[JustHateTheGame]

HES not judging her, he's asking your opinion and a girl that sleeps with a lot of guys is a slut. not a cheater not a bad person a sluuuuuut.

[pghcrew]

Honestly, as long as she doesn't cheat on you I wouldn't consider her a slut now. I think it's a good thing for people to sleep around as much as they want before marriage. Maybe not as early as 14. But still, that's in the past. She may have been considered a slut in the past, but people change so in my mind I see no problem with it.

[Littletad]

If she's your wife, why did you marry her with such a negative attitude towards her past?

[JustHateTheGame]

Your a pansy

[Standingpretty]

If you think she's such a slut, why did you marry her? You should never treat someone who you're spending your life with like crap just to bring them down. She probably has some deep,emotional issues that she tried to fill with sex. She obiviously had parents who ignored her so that's already a rocky start in life. She probably regrets having sex with so many guys and would probably take it all back if she could. You should love her and treat her with respect and ignore her past because when you put that ring on her finger, that's what you promised to do. Now, has she ever cheated on you? Because that's another story. Cheating is slutty. But if she has been faithful to you, you should make the same sacrifices for her.

[mikkie180]

Did you find out about this before or after you married her? How old is she now?

[Asker]

AFTER, I WAS LIED TO & BECAME A FATHER TO 2

[armyant]

Are you sure you're the father to those two? Just saying.

[Asker]

ABSOLUTELY, SHIT HAPPENS.

[mikkie180]

It is a shame that she lied to you and I can understand the hurt that you feel. All people make poor decisions often at a young age. Your wife unfortunately did not have good guidance and that is not her fault. What matters now is what is going on now, people can and do change. I hope with time time the hurt will diminish and the bond with your wife will grow stronger.

[coolbeens]

Why do you care?

it was all before she met you.

if you had slept with all those women before meeting and now she is wondering if you are a man-whore, do you think its fair?

As long as she's faithful to you NOW, that's all that matters.

[JustHateTheGame]

He doesn't care he's asking other peoples opinions, HOW MANY GUYS DOES A IRL HAVE TO SLEEP WITH BUY THE AGE OF 14 BEFORE YOU CONSIDER HER A SLUT. CHEATERS AND SLUTS ARE 2 DIFFERENT THINGS HE"S NOT ASKING IF SHES A CHEATER

[CrazynKinky]

Clearly if he's asking this question he does care, you don't just ask a question like this if it doesn't matter to you.

[urstrully]

Major slut.

Why would this type of woman attract you?

Seriously...

[ixi10]

She's not a slut. She probably had a horrible childhood

[rainydaydreamaway]

Yes, that's what I'm thinking.

[loverorbestfriend]

There is an old saying: when a good girls goes bad she ain't coming back.

I dated for along time a girl who was formerly a slut. She loved me so she remained good but after years I could tell that she was itching to get back to her old ways, but she held back and held back, and all the while our relationship was going down the drain...that wasn't fair so I let her go and she went back to being a slut. It wasn't her fault, like your wife's parents, her parents set NO boundaries.

Hope that helps.

[CrazynKinky]

Good girls come back they just have to meet someone they love and care about enough to come back for

[enlightenment]

slut is just a word, a person can sleep with one person and still be considered a slut. That is quite a few guys though at a young age. I would suspect there was some self worth reasons behind it.

[GIntrovert]

You sure it's safe to touch her?

[nobleziba]

If you're already married, you made a decision one way or another. Either you chose to marry a slut or you saw her past activities and figured they didn't merit the label. Either way, though, you have nothing to gain on here by asking that, and all it does is highlight the fact that you have little or no notion of the intimacy and confidence of marriage. I pity your wife because you broadcast her past. I pity you because you married a woman whose past and status you still question.

[willy199]

shes only a slut if she's cheating on you.

[Ceesa]

Well, maybe..but suddenly you're thinking she's a slut? she didn't sleep with anyone else after you, right? if she doesn't have morals or religious beliefs would it make a difference..a guy or 10? ok maybe the number you mentioned is a lot.. yet, she's your wife..why did you marry her then? at least she has been honest with you! Don't call your wife a slut.. it makes ok for others to say that too!

[darkknight1x]

Of course she's a slut. I wouldn't marry a woman like that.

[theross]

yea if she's a one guy girl then what's the problem now... if it was a problem I hope you knew about it before you got married

[INeverLovedU]

It doesn't matter for one she was young and did not know better since her parents obviously didn't teach her right from wrong. Also if you love her which I guess you do since you two are married why care now you are married you love her she is only sleeping with you now so it does not matter at all.

[Marrryyyyy]

UH if you're calling your own wife a slut you should seriously rethink your marriage. I think you should move on from her past - nobody is perfect

[Cartiphilus]

I agree Marrryyyyy. That issue should have been dealt with long before getting engaged let alone marrying the girl.

[kiwicoconut]

Gotta agree with this as well!

[dx021]

i wouldn't want to be intimate with someone like that

[ericneo]

Same

[JustHateTheGame]

she's a slut dude for sure 35 to possibly 70? she doesn't even know how many? what a whorebag! (no offense)

[jacquesvol]

Look up 'prescription'! Here: link or : link

Simpler: link

And that's about crimes, not about having sex.

The persons you should attack are not your wife but the adults (if any! ) who abused her when she was only 14. They committed statutory RAPE.

If it concerned only guys her age, all that happened YEARS AGO. Forget it.

[Jamz62]

definitely yeah she was or she had a problem . ask her?

[DemsBones]

how do you have sex with 15 people before you're 14? I mean jesus, I have nothing against it, if I had the option to have done that I definitely would've, but I didn't even know that many people. also, judging from the adverse reaction from most of the females here, you probably want to refrain from using derogatory sexual terms like "whore" or "slut." try using the term "promiscuous," I bet she'd love that. but I must say her sexual past is hardly any of your concern, unless she's riddled with disease or something, but then again you'd probably know that by now. so why would what she did in the past matter now?

[impimiki]

well if you think she's a slut why the f*** did you marry her?

[KarKingJack]

Sexxx. LOL

[impimiki]

Lol that's a little weird

[shanna1221]

i don't think you need anyone to answer that. no affence to though.

[catrin1986]

atleast she slowed down a bit between 14-and 22 lol. this is ur wife?! didn't you think to disguss these things before you settled down :S um, before 14 is extreme..alotttt of men! I'm sure she had a bad repuatation. but...if she wasn't brought up right and her parents did a dam..and she maybe wanted the attention or love..and found it in the wrong place..how you can blame someone for that?! :S I'm sure she regrets it. that ISSS a lot of men..is she insecure? does it bother u? you should love her for HER anyway, flaws and all.. and why is it ok for men to sleep with huge numbers or women and a girl should accept it. me personally...id be horrified if my 'husband' had slept with that many people, think its not v.nice and I donttt think I could be with someone like that. but don't judge her, doubt she's a slut, jus lost her way a bit. happens to lots of women =) Sit down and talk to her I think. see how she feels. x

[KayBear]

that doesn't make her a slut . most guys by the age of 22 have slept with way more than that

[JustHateTheGame]

SLUT= SLEEPS WITH A LOT OF GUYS, so define a lot then

[robbierawr]

Average sexual partner for a guys life time is like 7-8.

[Anonymous]

SLUT

[Anonymous]

is this seriously a question? ur wife is a slut, sorry to say tht. but if she slept with 15 people before the age of 14 she has a problem . hopefully she doesn't hav any std's ... I would get her checked

[Anonymous]

someone's past says a lot about their character. if a girl slept around with that many men, I would see her as an empty and dirty person. how could sex possibly feel intimate or "special" with someone like that?

[CrazynKinky]

Sex doesn't define a person!! Some that's the most helpful, kindest, most wonderful person in the world and still f*** a bunch of different people. Guys sleep with hundreds of women without judgment so it only matters when women do it. Randoms don't mean anything they're there to make you feel something or to help you go numb. When you actually love someone and are intimate with them it is special and not the same at all.

[Opinion Owner]

Riiight... bullsh*t. i don't sleep around and I would hold a woman to the same standard. the thought of sharing something intimate like sex with someone that freely gives it away to "randoms" is disgusting. apparently you are one of those "modern" hedonistic women that wants to believe that her actions don't say anything about her character. sadly enough its always the case that girls like you bitch about how there is a double standard... and how you can't be a slut without being judged

[Anonymous]

I'm trying to calculate 15 men before she was 14,...a Sophomore in high school...? !

Just where and when would she have sex with 14 guys ? Did she have a mother and father at home...did she attend school...Just how in the hell would any adolescent girl that had any kind of F##$%^^&& adult supervision at ANY point it time be in that position ?

What you are saying makes no sense at all, and I have to question your creditably in your statement...What you are describing is an abandoned child on the street in some Ghetto of Los Angeles etc

This is probably the most insane thing I have ever heard regarding an adolescent child...

[CrazynKinky]

Lots of girls have had lots of men before they were 14 it just because they've been abused.

[Opinion Owner]

You are most likely correct in that .............

[Anonymous]

She's a slut.

[Anonymous]

Why would you want to put that kind of label on your wife? Does she sound like a woman who made mistakes when she was young? Yes. That is highly promiscuous behavior, no doubt, but not need to call her names over it. Further, it is in the past. What is your goal asking this question?

[Opinion Owner]

No. I personally try to have compassion for people. Perfect people don't need our understanding and compassion. It is people who have made mistakes but want to do better that need it. Sounds like a woman who had a very lurid past who wanted to change and did. Not sure how this information came out now or is a topic now, after marriage and children.