Is there any way to tell my boyfriend he isn't good at eating me out?

[Anonymous]

It's not a huge deal for me but it would be REALLY nice if he was more skilled in the art of cunnilingus. It's not that he doesn't like it or isn't into it - he's told me he loves the taste and he gets off on me sitting on his face. He focuses purely on my clit, and it makes me wonder if he KNOWS he's allowed to lick the rest of my pussy. I would love for him to do a little reading and learn better technique, because he's just not getting me off. But of course I don't want to hurt his feelings or crush his ego or make it an impossible challenge. Should I even tell him at all?

[Minxxe]

tell him what you like, he can't read your mind!

of course that entails you knowing what you like, that can only be gained with experience. so, explain to him that the vagina has more than 10,000 nerve endings and that he can lick, tease suck the whole area - lead him to it!

it'd be a shame to waste this your man's enthusiasm and the longer you leave it the better he thinks he is at it. you're intimate enough to be sleeping with him and sharing god knows what else, (bodily-fluid wise) then you should be able to bring this topic up sensitively. not during sex though, tell him a couple of hours before-hand and make sure he knows you love him going down on you but he just needs to explore & include the other areas...

good luck

[normster]

You're so right Minxxe, you have so much knowledge.

[heatherlu]

Don't send him off to do homework on the matter - that's just going to have him thinking that you don't appreciate what he's doing at all.

Just tell him while he's doing it. It's not rocket science and most guys are happy for you to get involved. I mean, if you're lay down, and he's eating you out from that position, it's easy to just move his head slightly, or angle your own hips - he'll get the message eventually.

Just subtly move him in the right direction.

Or just ask him to lick your p**** too - it's probably just going to turn him on hearing you ask for something that he'll do it straight away. Don't over-think things.

[FASTERonfire]

I had the same problem with my guy. I think what makes it a little better is to not say what you don't like but tell him what you actually want. Let him get started and between broken breaths in little more than a whisper tell him what you want him to do. ;)

[Anonymous]

You absolutely should tell him.

I personally find it the worst thing in the world, to be trying to please my partner and for her to give zero feedback.

Only YOU can know what you like. He's not a mind reader and every girl is different. He might be trying a technique on you, which worked gangbusters on his last girlfriend.

You have to tell him. Men aren't psychic.

[hALLDAY]

Perhaps you could communicate and direct him on where exactly you would like to be licked and touched..

[RedStiletto]

Men aren't psychic. You have to tell them what feels good, but not be demanding and bitchy. Be respectful and say something like "I'd love it if you worked your tongue ALL over my pussy. You did that once (even if he didn't) and it felt amazing!" He'll do it for you I can almost promise. And when he does it make sure he knows how good it feels to you. If we can open our legs to a man, we can open our mouths and ask for what we want! Have fun :)

[Married-in-PA]

You sound like a genius, Mademoiselle. Extremely well spoken. Wow... I don't think I've met a women this clear, since I got married. LOL

[Shaun]

Thing is, every time the question comes up, everybody makes jokes about pointing out where the clit is. Seems your man has read all that advice and took it.

[Jesterface195]

Dam. That sucks lol just tell him what you want him to do while he's eating you out duh lol

[Kaiser10]

You sound ungrateful, no disrespect. Most people doesn't even eat p****. Go easy on your boyfriend.

[jefffinn]

Yes tell him tell him when he is doing it suck on the lips lick up and down the lips no book or video will tell him how to get you off better then you