Is there anyway you can redeem yourself from being just a booty call

Is there anyway you can redeem yourself from being just a booty call or is it, once you've done it that is forever what you are though of as just a piece of tail nothing more.
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I think the guys got it but the girls got a little side tracked I meant can you go from a FWB relationship to a real relationship. What are the odds that someone you've had just sex with would be interested in having you as girlfriend.
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Most Helpful Girls

  • I'm actually in the same situation as you. I recently had sex with a guy I've been friends with for a few years. We hadn't seen each other in ages and it just happened. The thing is I really like him and want something more meaningful. There are very good ways to turn it around.

    1. Let him see the non-physical side to you, e. G. That your fun and energetic - guys love that.

    2. Make him wait. If he can see that you're harder to get hold of he'll want you even more (this can be tricky to get the right balance but if you do it right it'll work wanders - basically make sure he knows you're around but don't be available every time he wants to see you)

    3. Make subtle changes in the way you behave around him - it'll throw him off

    4. DON'T talk to him about how you're feeling about this right away - it WILL put him off (wait till you see a change in the way he is around you)

    5. Make him feel good about himself. If you boost his ego when he is around you he will sub-consciously associate this good feeling with you

    6. Also have a good balance between No_5 and teasing him slightly, he will like it and it will also show him you're not bothered (even if you are)

    In saying all this - make sure he's worth it

    you can also look into NLP (neuro linguistic programming) in search engines on the internet - they have good info on how to read people - that way you can tell if he does like you or not & you won't have to put yourself out there without any idea on how he may be feeling - e. G. Ask him Q's you know the answer to, see what his body language is like then see how it differs to when you ask him something you want to know - there are always tell tale signs (it'll help give you a better understanding of how he works & how he really feels bout you - I know its a sneaky way of doing it, but when a girls gotta know something anything goes! )

    Good luck - hope some of what I've said is useful

  • Yes, just stop allowing guys to use you for sex. Say NO next time. You can always change no matter how many times you do something. If you don't like it, change it. It never defines you unless you allow it to by feeling like that's all your good for. Your not. You are a person who deserves as much love and respect as anyone else does. So, start making changes and let yourself. B more than a booty call by cutting off the guy who's calling for that. First step. Then don't accept booty calls anymore with the next guy. Drop him like a bad habit as soon as you notice a him calling just for that. Let him know your not like that. Good luck!

  • Absolutely! You can "redeem" yourself by showing YOU how awesome you are. Like by not answering booty calls and doing something really cool that you've wanted to do for a long time (like run a race, etc). I don't want to sound like an after school special, but if you make yourself proud than you will become more than "a piece of tail" in your own eyes. Once your own view of yourself is higher, you won't even want to answer booty calls.

  • Of course you can redeem yourself. People only do what you allow so stop allowing them 2 subject you 2 their standards. We all do questionable things and make split decisions but if 4 whatever reason you decide that games over (meaning you had enough) just walk away with ur head held high. Its all about how you feel about you.

Most Helpful Guys

  • That's a really tough question. But I think the answer is YES. A booty call is all about pushin', love is all about tenderness and honesty, tough conversations and tears, great moments and small ones too.

    Sure, what kind of guy doesn't dream about that hittable ass. But then, we all dream about that special breakfast, too. The one that includes your eyes, and great conversation, maybe even a chance to understand a woman (even for just a few minutes). Men like me dream about that. When my wife is on her game, there isn't a piece of ass out there that could knock her off her perch. Why? Cause she's just all that. See, you ladies have that "special ability" to just mess-up a man so badly, we can't put you out of our minds.

    So, yeah. Wanna come back from your booty call? Be more than just booty. A lot more.

  • Absolutely you can redeem yourself. just begin to change the way you behave and don't let guys treat you like crap. if you respect yourself and begin to think differently about how you approach life, people will think differently of you. now you will see some opposition to this change and you'll definitely face temptation to fall back into you old lifestyle, but you definitely don't have to obey that urge. if you want to change, there shouldn't be anything holding you back from that.

    feel free to message me for further information on effecting that change... i'd love to help you out in any way that I can.

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  • Many folks here may not believe this, but a woman can easily upgrade from a 1-nigher to someone special. With me, a woman better tell me that exactly what is going to happen AFTER the sex, otherwise I will become attached to her simply because...well...only a few women have ever expressed desire for me. Yet, if all she wants is a booty call, she can talk to me about it and achieve understanding from me.

    Personally, even though I would never turn down a booty call, I hate one-night-stands. Why? Because the following day, it is the same old shit: alone, lonely and looking. I like keepers. Redeem from a booty call? You bet, especially with older men.

    Yes folks, you did indeed hear that from me.

  • Yes you can. If it's with that same person, you can tell them that you want something more meaningful, and they'll have to respect it ,or leave.

    With someone new, just don't do it even one time, and you won't have to worry about it.

  • Well people who've been friends for years quite often end up in relationships when they suddenly realize there feelings so the same could happen but it depends on the guy some are surprisingly old fashioned and would tend to right you off

  • Yea. You can redeem yourself, but you gotta move out of town. We men will neve,never,never quit trying.