Is this torture for guys?

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Guys, do you find this as torture and sexually frustrating? Okay, so I’m a virgin. I never had sexual intercourse, but have done everything except for sexual intercourse. With my ex-boyfriend, we did everything then drew the line at intercourse and he would be erect and pre cumming all the time and I’m glad he didn’t rape me or anything. I mean we basically would make out naked and then draw it at intercourse because I said I wanted to remain a virgin until marriage for personal reasons. And he respected that and didn’t rape me, but then a close friend of mine told me that I am doing the “wrong” thing and that he can get so sexually frustrated to the point where he can’t think with his mind anymore at that point and just rape me all of a sudden in the middle of that because he won’t have control of his hormones… like can guys actually control themselves when they are so deep into that state? Or will they force themselves onto a girl in that instance where she is so vulnerable? I hope I made myself clear in my question and that this all makes sense…. Oh and for me, it was not torture. I didn’t feel tempted at all and could control myself very easily. I was the one covering myself up with my hand down there to make sure he wouldn’t go in and rape me. I heard that what I am doing is like “playing with fire”, and very dangerous.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Did that back in high school with my boyfriend, I wanted to get out of high school as a virgin at least - didn't want to be "that" girl since I knew most of the guys I'd meet in high school were probably douche bags anyway, or at least at the time they would be. I always kept my underwear on just as a safeguard - when you're in the moment and both entirely naked it is very easy for sex to happen - and our evenings always ended with me giving him a hand job. A couple friends of mine who had agreed not to have sex but made out completely naked ended up having it anyway... Technically he can control himself, but it's a matter of whether he wants to or not, and sexual desire makes people make irrational decisions. Most everyone knows that 'If I weren't horny I'd probably do something different but right now I'm so f***ing horny I just don't care about the consequences!' feeling.

Bottom line...Just keep your underwear on - he can still finger you, you don't have to cover yourself with your hand, you can still grind him, if he's precumming technically you can still get pregnant or STIs from that (if your underwear isn't on). Case closed.

girlbehindthechair · Accepted Answer

I bet he sure is having some questions, as you are. I could go ahead and read all the opinions below what I'm typing but I find answering questions unbiast, is a better route to go. First off, men who tend to have premature ejaculation, NEVER have good stamina. They are quick and easy to finish and start. FYI, this site is for everyone's opinions whether they are what you want to hear or just plain rude. Nothing you can do! This is a mature site, for mature people. Except there isn't a line that checks your actual birthday or who you are, this is the internet...

As for you "pushing the limit" I think that in the entirety of what you and he are doing is just rediculous. What is the point of being a virgin if your husband isn't the first man to see you naked, or to be really intimate with you? There isn't much of a point is there...Good for you for not doing the other things though, as in oral/anal/etc. Kudos for that, because at least there is some sense in that...anyways...I have nothing else to say but, don't post questions, if you don't want everybody's and anybody's opinion.

toulouse · Accepted Answer

IF HE DOESNT CUM from fooling around & you are OK with H J then just do that w/e he needs a release- if a guy orgasms he shouldn't care too much about how as far as blue balls or needing to come - he's cuming so what's the problem. I don't think you feel comfortable. If you did you'd just play with his thing till he came. & I noticed you were naked on his behalf because you did not want to lose him. Not good. I could see you both frustrated & uncomfortable. Its nice to be naked bit only if you're comfortable.

Basically you're saying its OK to be tortured yourself but not for him to be uncomfortable. Its not on equal terms you are letting him rule the situation... That's why you feel guilty, there not control over the situation, & virginity is also about you keeping control too so you probably are projecting worry about him losing control because you are dong things before you are ready..

I'd be more concerned about keeping track of your boundaries & sticking with it. Then you don't have to worry about him losing control :)

anynymoooooose · Accepted Answer

Honestly, if you say you're doing everything else, then I figure he's reaching orgasm with you. it can be frustrating, but all we need is a release, not intercourse (well, we can hold off on that...).

There's no excuse for rape. There's this girl I've been seeing who will do everything but have sex with me (and her personal reasons are much more frustrating because they are kinda convoluted), but we do everything else and that's OK.

Once we were naked and grinding, and I lifted her over my hips so I could put it in. I didn't, I realized it and stopped. It wasn't an uncontrollable urge or anything like that. I just went to do it like I normally would if the girl were OK with it. But I stopped right away, and lowered her to my stomach and laughed. We hugged for a second and relaxed, then we continued with other things. That's the closest I've come to making a move like that, and it wasn't uncontrollable, I just lost myself in the moment. I have never been so horny that I could rape a girl. NEVER.

martyfellow · Accepted Answer

I sure wouldn't recommend makking out naked if you aren't going through with sex. but guys can control themselves.

See the story A game for the Ages I just wrote--I was in this type of situation recently myself.

Guys can always control themselves when there's this sort of agreement. Hormones aren't all powerful, people who use them as an excuse..

But again, this is a bit of a dangerous game to play! I'd stop that sort of risk taking, all the same!

kateakanne · Answer

Can I ask what you get out of making out naked? If you are not going to have sex, and you are not tempted in the least bit, why take off your clothes at all? What purpose is there? It doesn't sound like you're getting any benefit from making out naked than you would making out with your clothes on.

Obviously, guys are visual creatures. Getting naked will enhance his desire and create temptation for him. I'm not saying any guy will rape you, but creating that temptation and not fulfilling it will lead almost any man astray after so long.

I don't think you're at risk physically, but I feel like you're making it harder on him than it has to be.

rdabby · Answer

You re not a virgin, cause you ve done everything except losing your hymen, virgin means pure and innocent, doesn't sound like you re innocent to me.

and yes you are playing with fire, because even if you trust that he won't rape you, aren't you afraid at one point you might get caught up at the moment, he could play mind games with you and ask to do it and you may give in...

But if you really want to keep the hymen till marriage, then make out with your pants on and don't go anal.

passive_agressive · Answer

Sex is a very wrong and dirty thing to do. I wouldn't advise you to perform it...

I mean c'mon, if you want to be virgin, it's not only physical, it's both spiritual and emotional and virgin "by knowledge". You could also tell him to perform anal, to preserve virginity, couldn't you?

Stop being hypocrite, either f*** him or don't!

Yes, of course it can develop frustrations...

anonymous2121 · Answer

I am amazed at all the insults you received by this question. So much has been said to you. Instead of repeating everything, I will give a "final" comment. I am glad you want to remain a virgin for your future husband. You may want to re-evaluate the clothes issue. For instance, from now on keep your clothes on and save nakedness for your future husband. Thank you for asking this question online.

TheAnswerer · Answer

You're not playing with fire. At least, not in that concept.

I doubt that any male (other than the psychologically twisted ones) would rape you. If he didn't 'till now, he won't after this.

It gets easier to control sensations over time, because you get used to the "torture".

But, you are playing with fire in another context.

Think of him as a river. If youdon't let him go through you, if you block his pathway, he might keep flowing toward another direction... perhaps another girl... That is why the virginity issue is a perfect "Loyalty Test".

Other than that, there are 2 types of virginity:

1-) Physical virginity: You don't lose this one until you have intercourse and your hymen is broken, because it is purely physical and is focused entirely on the hymen. (This one is the ethical version of virginity.)

2-) Psychological virginity: You lose this one as soon as you start masturbating or having oral/anal sex with a male, because psychologically, you have received the pleasure. (This one is the religious version of virginity.)

So, if your reasons are coming from religion, try maintaining your psychological virginity, but if your reasons are ethical (like "it is inappropriate to lose your virginity before marriage" or etc.) then I guess you only need to hold on to the physical virginity.

I hope this answer helps you. =)

peace-love-couture · Answer

You are stupid. You are an idiot. This is one of the dumbest questions I have ever read on here.

toulouse · Answer

"He had an erection for many hours going without me giving him a blow job or vaginal sex, but I did give him a hand job. Would for a man having an erection for hours without sex physically hurt him? I don't know which is why I ask "

-If he ejaculates he doesn't need sex-its not mystical- that's why guys wank.

LittleImapler · Answer

Your friend told you that? HAHAHAHAHA If he knows your not ready and you are pleasing him where he feels good.  It is not a problem. Matter of fact that their guys who can control themselves.  If you wanted too, you could give him head just put a condom on and have fun exploring each others bodies.

clovisx · Answer

I understand what you are saying and won't be rude or inflammatory in my response.

What you are doing is what you are comfortable with.

I would hope that at some point, you helped him finish and he would finish you also either manually or orally. It doesn't sound like that happened so I would say that it is not torture, but it is very difficult. The fact that he is dripping means that he is very aroused and excited. I wouldn't expect him to rape you, but he might want to masturbate to orgasm or have you help him get there. It can be very uncomfortable for a man to be aroused for long periods of time with no resolution. More than likely he is masturbating when he gets home to relieve the pressure.

Subotai · Answer

Of course it wasn't torture for you it was torture for him.  You are an absolute co.k tease and your friend might be right.  Except it sounds like you sort of want him to "rape" you. I have met girls like you before.  Maybe its because you want to have sex but have some hangup that won't allow you to do it honestly.  Or maybe its because you love a feeling of power and torturing a man    Why get naked then hide your vagina with your hand? There's a better way to cover up your vagina its called wearing clothes.   But the fact that you set this up to happen probably won't change the fact you will call the cops on him.  He should dump your butt delete your number and never talk to you ever again.  No having an erection won't hurt him per se but male sexual arousal is a progression, womens is too but its a much slower one.  Its not reasonable for a man to expect sex from a clothed woman but making out with a guy on the bed that gets the hormones going.  So if you don't want it to go anywhere else let him know ahead of time.  Now your naked making out and touching his penis those homones are in an extreme raging mode his whole body is tensed and prepared to "do" the act and continue the human species, humans are way less dependent on instinct than any other animal but your playing with instinctual triggers.  In the early stages of that progression its easy to stop but in the late stages of arousal it is sort of like a train.  And its not about whether or not he's a nice guy or an asshole.  At the very least your boyfriend will be having a miserable time.  Your also playing with the law and playing with sending someone you claim to love to jail and potentially ruining his life.   Being a slut is not about whether or not you have intercourse.  Maybe you are a technical virgin but you are also a huge slut.  Grow up first before you try any more dating

Inthemightyjungle · Answer

If you don't want him to accidentally slip, I would not make out without bottoms on.  Because you CAN NOT call it rape, if you were pretty much humping naked and it slipped in.  That is NOT rape.  keep your damn pants on if you want to stay a virgin, your practically not one anyway hun.  There's not really a difference in God's eyes of humping, naked, w/o penal intercourse, to humping naked with intercourse.  If your going to go that far, you might as well just put it in, it's the same thing.  Your weird, and very confused about sex.  If your will to lay naked with a guy, why would you not be willing to have it in you..  This is stupid... if your too that point with a loved one, your to sex.. it's all sex sweaty, even hand jobs and humping naked.. You shouldn't be naked with a guy unless your ready to have sex with him anyway.

luke28 · Answer

your friend is very wrong. guys can control themselves, I wouldn't want to have sex with a girl that didn't want to. it would be a total turn off.

HaroldO · Answer

That's the biggest load of bullsh*t I've heard in days. You shouldn't be glad he didn't raped you. He's not supposed to! That's like being glad your parents didn't poke you in the eyes with hot iron rods. Really girl, the way you talk it seems you think you've given reasons for him to commit a barbaric crime against you.

If you both are having making out like this there's no reason for you to stop doing it. You're aren't doing wrong and that close friend could watch a little less p*rn and frat movies.

Zen-Master · Answer

guys can control themselves just like you can.  there is some truth to the saying  blue balls  although some guys will use that as an excuse.  what I mean if you have never heard that before is that if a guy is teases and kept hard for a long time and there is no    release   then it can become painful.   but its nothing that a quick handjob won't satisfy.   as long as you get him off  your fine and he should be happy with that.     I respect your choice   but remember  you can get std's etc from other things besides intercourse too     that pre cumming can be a hazard and if your kissing naked then there probably is contact too.          So I guess I should say most guys can  just like most women   there are some that are monsters  and they ussually get locked up   and there are some women who are sluts      but if he's lasted this long     id say you have a keeper

islands7 · Answer

OK, this reads like someone under age or has legal issues or has plans to cash in on a rich playboy that will marry only a virgin to get his gold. I hope this is not your case - perhaps you could state your personal reasons, which seem to be the most intriguing part of this question.

My answer: I applaud you both for your restraint and love needs that bring you together in a naked intimacy that rivals even those "going all the way". Sure, your friend can be correct but what works for you two may never work for others. Perhaps your special pairing allows you to do things others can't imagine, perhaps others don't have that special connection that forges such a strong will of resistance ... that permits such intense hedonism w/o dire consequences.

I am sure that before anything blows, you both are sensitive to each other to see it coming well ahead and prepare to deal with it. Congratulations on a most unique & special bond. I had one just like that once.

sinful1620 · Answer

Uh... it sounds like you're saying you got him off with your hands or mouth, yes? It is torture for you to get him excited and then not get him off.

As for never allowing someone to have sex with you, that's a clear rejection of intimacy. So while you might protect yourself from a player, you'll also be pushing away any decent guy you're with.

DaveMicharl69 · Answer

That's not torture, and the statement that the guy won't be able to control raping you is ludacris BS, unless he's an animal & a piece of garbage. If that's the case, he wouldn't be able to resist wether he was sexually frustrated or not, and probably would have tried it already when he had the chace. I SERIOUSLY doubt he will! As far as a long term erection, it's not PAINFUL! It can sometimes be fri=ustrating & make you wish you could "satisfy the urge" but not so much if it's  because you're with your girlfriend & especially not if she's doing something for him. I've never had intercourse either, but I've done everything you have, plus oral both ways. It's all sexual experience, and all satisfying. In fact, I was sometimes MORE turned on & satisfied just rubbing her back or stimulating her clitoris, becasue I knew I was making her happy at the same time. As far as the hater comments, they're selfish & immature & you don't deserve them. A decent guy, and it sounds like you have oen, ill respect your wishes & it'll be more important for him to satisfy you, so I'm positive you're safe. Try to ignore the BS & enjoy yourself, & I think it's AWESOME that you're waiting for marriage. There's something old fashion and lady like that, to me, would make the girl all the more desirable & attractive...

beans · Answer

I think you're pushing this, but obviously, he will still be able to control himself...rape is never about sex. Rape is about the act of exercising power over somebody who is helpless.

katiesmuff · Answer

You are certainly playing with fire here!  If you are dead certain that you want to go no further than what you have already done, I would suggest backing off!

l-hedoniste · Answer

"he can get so sexually frustrated to the point where he can’t think with his mind anymore at that point and just rape me all of a sudden in the middle of that because he won’t have control of his hormones"

Ludicrous, just super-ignorant. This does not happen. Ever.

Guys can control themselves, though some choose not to. We can respect boundaries, though some choose not to. If he's not crossing any lines, you have nothing to worry about.

Erections don't give men fits; we'd be flopping around in the street humping lampposts if they did.

iamallstar · Answer

Your ideas about sex are so warped, I have no idea where to begin.

KarKingJack · Answer

If you go for a prolonged time without sex and end up being so consumed by it you can go to extreme measures - such as rape, as you said - that's not like, a normal thing. That's actually a serious illness, man. Stuff like Hypersexuality or Perversia. That's an obsession, usually stemmed from sex-related trauma in earlier life. But I mean, there's usually a way around that anyway. If you let him get himself off while you fondle and be all naked, and stuff, then usually that's enough. This is talking from experience, too ^_^

I'm also assuming that when you say intercourse you mean any form of physical sexual connection? Like handjobs, so on. Cos if you dont, then that's another solution. You can be sexually active while saving yourself, you know?

alioup · Answer

I don't think what your doing is that wrong, but maybe keep your underwear on instead of keeping your hand down there. that way you can touch him with two hands yay! lol.

But I think if he had a problem he would say something. but it's awsome that you want to wait for marriage not a lot of girls do that these days. Which is sad.

so yeah I don't think anything is wrong with this, I have done simular things. but then again I am a girl so its a girls perspective.

Littletad · Answer

It might be a bit stressful, but ANY guy can control themselves in the bedroom. If they do not, they are certified rapist and messed up in the head. It's that simple. No, means no.

bathtubbuddy · Answer

i say its like teasing a lion with a nice big juicy steak...i would find it frustrating. we either do it or we dont! lol

Phoma21 · Answer

He probably won't rape you unless he is just that type of guy. Well he may try to guilt you into doing other things but no I don't think he'd hurt and rape you. He may be one of those break up or sex kinda guys but rape sounds a little extreme.

gkny88 · Answer

I don't know about  the rape thing, but 3-4 years ago when I had a relationship just like yours, I did cheat on her many times... Just because we were not having an intercourse...

gotc147 · Answer

It's not playing with fire, it's being an idiot.

Whatever your personal reasons are, if you're trying to remain a virgin until marriage but doing everything except letting him put his penis in your vagina, you've already discarded your innocence and are no longer going to be someone's "first", you're no longer "giving them a gift".

Personally I can control myself and would never rape someone for any reason, however I do kind of hope you get raped one day just for being such an airhead.

0004matt · Answer

him having a hard on for a long time won't hurt him. but if all your doing is giving him hand jobs he may become very frustrated. his self control is unrelated to his sexual hormones and if he is a good guy he won't rape you but my advice would be if your willing to roll around naked all day you might as well go ahead and give him blow jobs or something because this could end up making him feel like he isn't good enuf for you or something and getting him off will let him know that even though you don't want to have sex yet you still do want to please him.

Angantyr · Answer

Your friend is an idiot. Sorry, but that is a disgusting view of men. So men suddenly flip and rape people when they are horny? Even the one they love? Shouldn't you know him better than that? If you think that scenario is a possibility then you two shouldn't be together.

ladsin · Answer

i personally have never been in that situation. it depends on the guy I typically have such a high teestosterone level that sometimes I just see red during sex.. on a few ocasions I'll snap back to find that girl really hurting... at which point I apologize deeply but that typically ends in her running... I don't know if its a testosterone thing or what but my mind sometimes goes blank and yeah... so I would be careful but if he hasn't yet you're more than likely ok

kinkynconfused · Answer

Friends don't give friends blue balls.  Finish him!

09bmimpreza · Answer

Ok my biggest thing is yes its OK to want to stay a virgin til marriage.  But Why is  it that you can't finish him off with a blow job or a hand job?  Make him happy by doing that cause he is respecting your wish to stay a virgin.

TheGodEmperorLeto · Answer

There's nothing wrong with that. I mean, I've been in his shoes and it was fine. I have my own damn hand if I get sexually frustrated. And if she's willing to give me a bj and I can go down on her, that'll do for now. But you wouldn't do oral or anal so.. ya.. handjob would still be fine.

We can control ourselves fine even if we're really really horny. At least most of us. Some are truly immature and have something wrong, but ya. It's only if we're in the middle of screwing a girl and we're about to blow and they say "stop" is that kind of a "sh*t" moment that might not exactly stop. Like with Julien Assange (or however you spell his name) and that one girl claimed was rape. That's not rape...

And they won't force, they might ask or make it seem like more and then if the girl seems OK with it, keep going, but if she isn't (especially if she says something) he'll stop. For the most part it's not "playing with fire." It is a bit "bah" for the guy, but he'll deal with it. And if you told him up front at the start this is how it's going to be, he has no one to blame but himself if he has a problem. I wouldn't worry too much. Just don't rush into it so you can be sure the guy isn't the kind that's unstable or going to force himself on you.

jaycon · Answer

SUPER frustrating but if he's gonna rape you its not because he can't control himself.. its  because he's a sh*tty person

hlm1034 · Answer

i think that if he honestly loves you you have nothing to worry about honey.

itsharkley · Answer

Personally I think the guy would leave if he didn't love you enough. Leave for a sexually active girl. But I'm pretty darn sure he won't rape you if he has respected you this far.

ITLSTL · Answer

I too am a virgin and I too plan on waiting, but this is a tough subject, personally I'd go with all or nothing, I mean if he hasn't already, he's probably not going to rape you.

AkilJoseph · Answer

Guys can control themselves,I know I can.I haven't had sex in about 2 years I have been single but that has nothing to do with it but going out and getting a one night stand to me is not all justified and really wouldn't not help in most ways.The cravings get worst over the weekends but I take my mind off it and it goes away.

To answer you question no it not torture it just that you have morals and you are keeping them,I wish my ex were like you,your a good girl and do what's right for you.

I was with a girl who was a virgin and she did the same thing but the difference is the thing that makes you better than her is that you had an agreement but we didn't.

She would start grinding and touching and telling to rip her panties and to touch her and she wants me so bad and to get un top of her but then she would back down and stop kissing and touching and her breathing would slow down and then we would lay there for hours naked talking and waiting for her to turn 16 4 years later to do it.Thats torture but I loved her so I didn't care,I loved her.

mortablunt · Answer

It would be torture, because we're trying not to put the key to the lock and you're holding us back. GAR! cockblock!

Kevin · Answer

Just give and receive oral sex with him.

Flamingo-chan · Answer

I don't think it's toying with him if you get him off somehow. :P But if you really want to know, the best answer you're going to get is if you ask him yourself. c:

freefall7 · Answer

No... I have heard stories where the girl has started intercourse with the guy, and then while the guy was finishing she said stop but he didn't and she cried rape. I think that's not a common situation though.

ezekiel2517 · Answer

yes it would hurt him. it is torture - at least give him a blow job. He can give himslef a hand job, and no offence, he's probably better than you at it...

hoodni99a · Answer

ya your being a tease basically, that's like giving him a taste and then pulling away, that's gonna make him really frustrated for a guy, and he'll just be so annoyed.  because hell be so excited and in the moment, when something grreat is gonna happen, and then you just stop it immediately that kinda pisses people off and disappoints them. stop doing that

guacamole8774 · Answer

It is probably frustrating for him, but he's not going to suddenly become possessed and try to rape you. But don't compromise your morals for anyone. If you want to wait, don't let anyone push you into it.

noclueman · Answer

Why would you get naked with him and tease him like that if you aren't at least going to give him a blow job and swallow?  Is that so bad really?  your still a virgin?  I think your really..what is the word..well just worse then anything I can think of to do what you do.  If your going to get naked and get a guy all worked up, be willing to at least give him head or let him do you anal.  he can do a hand job by himself.

jacquesvol · Answer

Been there, done that, for a long time, well, it seemed like an eternity ;-)

With inventivity, one gets used to that kind of sexual pleasure and gratification.

Update: NO, having an erection for hours doesn't hurt physically. "blue balls" are a legend to make girls feel guilty and give in.

Raping NEVER crossed my mind.

I can't vouch for other guys, of course.

dudeman · Answer

if you did everything but vaginal sex then your not a virgin. to me you lose it once a d*** is in your body that includes you mouth and ass so you are not a virgin your just fooling yourself

Simba501 · Answer

I think that it's awesome that you're saving yourself :). Guys can control themselves, I certainly can. If a guy pulls some crap like that, it's bull. If he cares about you, he'll respect your wishes. However, I do think it's going to far to be making out naked if you're not going to the next step. If you have no intention on having sex, don't get completely naked. If I was the guy, I'd want it so bad at that point. If you think he might rape you, then something is wrong. You should trust the guy and KNOW he won't do it...if you don't trust him, you and him shouldn't be at a point where he could rape you.

Making out completely naked = toying with him

and yes, it is torture...

unsungzero · Answer

yes guys can control themselves. they don't get worked up into some berserker frenzy and lose control where they have to rape a girl.

but this is a major tease for the guy. I hope you at least let him screw you in the butt or blow him. you'll still be a virgin that way.

flammabledude · Answer

I think you've quite got the wrong picture of men.. we don't go into an uncontrollable state of sexual being... every man has full control at all times over what he is doing.

Rape is still Rape!

But I think he is leaning towards the plan of breaking down your defences, coaxing you into having sex, but at the end of it all... its your decision.

Maybe just stop teasing him with the entire nakedness. Make your mind up woman.

aaronante · Answer

just put yourself in his shoes..what do you think..sure its not like  cia torture..but..we are all human..think about it

Turles · Answer

yes it is torture...you are being a tease...BUT if you want to avoid intercourse then you can become a technical virgin...i.e anal

lilced12 · Answer

its not torture but its messed up

MagnumXXL · Answer

I think that if you care about each other and you have a way of giving each other pleasure you can make it work.

quint · Answer

It is hard not to want to have sex with you when you are naked but he knew that going in that you had your boundaries. How often does he do anal with you? He will only want more. Hand jobs are a must if you get together to let off the steam and also to make sure he does not wander off to another willing person.

It will happen, if you plan on saving this for marriage then you need to cut off completely because you really haven't saved your self for marriage by letting him have you anally and all the other things.

factotum · Answer

Rape is an act of violence. If your boyfriend is not someone prone to violence, then he is unlikely to rape you. Note that the key word there is unlikely. More likely is that you may find, at some future date, that he is no longer your boyfriend. You said everything, but I have the feeling that this does not include hand jobs or oral sex.

If not, why not? Clearly this would reduce his sexual tension.

You may also wish to consider why you do not feel tempted.

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WhiteTopHat · Answer

You shouldn't get so close to sexual intimacy if you want to remain a vigin. It IS a risk, for you and him. Its not good to play so close to fire, but you already know that. <3

Anonymous · Answer

So have you had sex with him yet? Blown him? Still with him?

To answer your question, nah you should be fine. Keep jacking him off though to relieve the pressure. And yes, having an erection for too long damages the penis, so be sure to jack him off when he's been hard for awhile.

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