Is Victim Blaming ok?

I was recently at a party got really drunk and got rapped:( I told a friend and he said it was my own fault fro putting myself in that situation and has not talked to me since. What are your thoughts?
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  • Alcohol and Drug Facilitated Sexual Assault

    Sexual assault is considered alcohol and drug-facilitated when the survivor is unable to give consent because she or he is under the influence of drugs and/or alcohol.

    These substances inhibit the survivor’s ability to resist the sexual act and sometimes even prevent them from remembering the event.

    These assaults occur in two ways: the perpetrator will either take advantage or the perpetrator will force the survivor to consume drugs or alcohol without their knowledge or consent.

    Many survivors will blame themselves in these situations; sometimes they are told that they “drank too much” or “shouldn’t have been partying,” and this causes them to feel guilty. Remember that even under these circumstances, the assault is not the survivor’s fault.

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    To Create Awareness Good Indian had written My Takes.

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    Few Steps must be Taken into consideration when Rape Happens. Me and My Friend had recommended few things after discussing with few experts and had written My Before few months. Please check it out.

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    Hope it Helps. I can understand your concern.

  • There are two separate issues in play here. Did being vulnerable entitle someone to rape you? No. Did you take every reasonable precaution to keep yourself safe, given the dangers that we all know about? Only you can answer that. Either way, you are not to blame for being raped. Nothing justifies rape. To blame you is ridiculous. To suggest that you could be more safe is something that someone who cares would do.

    I wouldn't go to certain places at night without a damn good reason. Would I deserve to be shot or stabbed if I did? No. Would I have been wise for disregarding known risks? No. We are responsible for assisting our own safety to the best of our ability. We are not responsible for the crimes of others, no matter what our choices might have been.

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  • Well you’re friend isn’t 100% wrong... like...99.9% wrong. I say that because every female should know not to put herself in a vulnerable situation especially when it comes to alcohol. Doesn’t matter if you have female friends around you or not. You’re only a female that can easily be dominated by a man... never put yourself in a situation for that to happen.

  • You need to stop being their friend immediately. They are not a good friend. They do not have your back. Also, it's up to you, but I think you should report your rapist, because if they got away with it for you, they'll try it again. I'm sorry for what happened. This is not your fault.

  • No, victim blaming is not okay, and it was not your fault. Rape is always the fault of the rapist.

    I'd reassess whether this person was truly a friend if this is how he treats you when you had someone horrible happen to you.

  • That's a horrendous statement to make. Especially from a
    " friend" It's NEVER the rape victims fault. Being blind drink doesn't justify being raped. (nothing does). That's why someone who has been raped is called a victim.

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  • What the fuck is she saying? Yes, you fucked up but that is not excuse for getting taken advantage of or for your friend's comments

  • You're friend is totally wrong, go to the police. And stop talking to her.

    God I wish this wasn't a rape thread so I could make a joke about the way you spelt "raped", but I'd just feel awful if I did.

  • That's kind of an insensitive and classless thing to say to a rape victim. Whoever said that might as well be defending the rapist!

    Never allow yourself to think it's your fault you got raped. A lot of rapists like to make that excuse. They'll say something like Hey, she was wearing a short skirt! She should go to jail for being a cocktease if you'll pardon the language. The fact of the matter is that there is no excuse for rape. It can really affect the victim not only physically, but psychologically as well.

  • There's never an excuse for rape. It's up to you how you want to handle it; if it was me, I'd press charges if warranted, though your description of the events is a bit vague.

  • Nope drunk is a non consensual sex. Yes you got drunk but it doesn't mean its okay to take advantage of you

  • No no no. Go to the police. It isn't your fault.

  • Although we are responsible for our behavior, rape is rape and any scumbag that would take advantage of incapacitated woman should have his penis removed 20 minutes before 911 is called.

  • NOOOOO god ofc not ur fault this is not a real friend wtf

  • Your Friend Is Not A Real Friend...
    You Did Nothing Wrong, You Really Need To File Charges Against The Guy Who Did This To You, Go To The Police...

  • I'm not going to blame you for getting raped. I am going to blame you for being dumb and getting that drunk.