Is wanting to kiss someone or show them affection more of a lustful thing or emotional thing?

is the desire to kiss someone or show affection (even to have sex) more to do with a lustful response like how good their body looks to you or is it more of an emotional, "i like them and feel a connection" type of of response?
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  • I've also kinda been plagued with questions concerning affection lately. In my relationship experience I have never been affectionate with a guy who I wasn't dating or with as a girlfriend. But a few months ago I started dating a guy who turned out to be more affectionate that anyone I've ever been around. However, after a month or so, he made it clear he was NOT into me sexually. Yet he continued to be affectionate with me in so many ways - hand holding, back scratches & massages, spooning in bed, cuddling on the couch. To me, these are all signs that he's into me. Why would you touch someone so much who you are not into?

    It's gotten even more confusing in the past couple of months because he acquired a young girlfriend who he is finally having sex with on the very rare occasions he sees her but things are still the same between us affection-wise. I guess it wouldn't be confusing if I didn't lust after him. The way I see it is all the affection stuff is just the building blocks for a close, intimate sexual relationship.

  • Affection is emotional. lust is sexual. if you want to f*** them to show affection, than you want to show affection, through a sexual act.

    lust & affection, are often intertwined. tho, I think you can feel affection superficially. I e for looks, or because someone looks vulnerable or fragile, or helpless, or lost etc.. not because you actually care about who they r. you care about the feeling you have around them. that's lust. caring about who they r, I e wanting to care for them, in a way they want, even if it is not in a way you want, is true affection, I think.

    Wanting to show affection, in a way you want, can be either lust or affection, or both. it depends on a lot of circumstances, I e if it has anything to do with actually liking then, & if they want the sort of affection you are offering, or if it is selfish.

    its certainly not black & white.

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  • Depends.

    Sex can be an immense way of making that affectionate emotional connection - or it can be lusty and raw because you both are desiring each other so much.

    Kissing can be just an affectionate connection - or it can be lusty and lead to other stuff.

    • i just wonder where it comes from. because I've wanted to kiss girls that I've only seen how they look and thought they were hot, without even knowing them personally!

    • That's more lustful - sure you probably thought of doing some other things to eh eh? lol :P - I've seen hot guys and thought about kissing them for lust reasons - but I've also talked with guys and got to know them enough to get the urge to kiss them outside of looks.

    • so to conclude this topic, affection can come from either place, and even both if you're lucky!? :) :P

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  • Well I felt the most intense lustful feelings for guy that I wouldn't consider to be attractive it was just his way and he had the sweetest voice. I didn't even know him he just sat next to me on my first day in college. I think it depends personally I think it's emotional because there are guys that are attractive that don't have "it" whether its emotional or physical depends on the person.

  • Lust and emotion... is there really a divide?

    • sure you can think someone you don't like at all is hot. a girl can be a total idiot but still look great.

    • Wouldn't that be rational thinking versus emotional thinking?

    • well if its rational, there is no emotion. but could a man still want to kiss her and show her affection even in this case?

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  • I don't usually daydream about other people. When I do, it's becuase of a strong emotional bond. With me, it's pretty much 100% emotional. But hey, that's just me.

    • yes but can an emotional bond come purely from strong physical attraction do you think? I'm the same way though. naturally you're going to daydream about someone that has left a great impression on you.

    • An emotional bond based purely on physical attraction or things such as status and prestige is what most people would call infatuation. And it's actually quite common. What many might call "Love at first sight". You don't know someone's personality just by glancing at them. But you might be able to get a good idea of what they'd look like naked. Not that there aren't relationships based on infatuation that have evolved into true love, but I wouldn't bet on it.

  • that depends on what this person is to you

    • what they are to you? what exactly do you mean by that?

  • for me it can be either it really depends on the person.

  • Here is my opinion on this. When you fancy someone you usually want to kiss them and have sex with them. Showing affection such as kissing, touching, is a sign that you want to have sex with them.

    However, if you love someone very much, you may not fancy them anymore.. it can happen after many many years together. (I'm not saying it always happens but it can)

    You may want to show them affection because you love them and don't want to hurt them. So, you would kiss and have sex with them still.

    • very true. I like this answer.

  • it can be a symbol of affection or lust depending on the type of kiss.

    • any kiss for me is a loving kiss.