Is it weird for the guy to get clingy after sex?

[Anonymous]

A few days ago I was out of town and ended up hooking up with a guy. We had sex, but it was a one night stand and I figured it would end there. We had exchanged numbers beforehand, and he's been texting me all the time ever since, and he's very flirty and keeps talking about us being "together". He lives halfway across the country and I have no interest in talking to him, I know I'm never going to see him again. What do I do in this situation? We're both in our mid 20s...I didn't expect this to be an issue.

[rachiee]

Talk to him, tell him how you feel and that you don't see things going any further. Of course that's not an easy conversation to have with someone but you need to do it. There is no rule as to who becomes more clingy after sex, everyone is different. Although there are researches that say when a women has an orgasm she releases emotions that make her more attatched to the guy. But also keep in mind that everyone is different and every situation is different. A guy may see you as being perfect for him and becomes clingy. Also I've noticed that how you treat them afterwords also has a lot to do with things. Sometimes if you treat a guy like he was just a hook up and that you don't want anything serious they feel like they can't have you so they try hard to get you. Its like the concept "you want what you can't have" in certain situations.

[statlor]

well a guy that just had a one night stand feels pretty good with himself. no doubt you were cute and flirty when you were there with him, and he may not get that very much so he now pictures himself with you and feels more than you did. some guys get there hope up quick is all. make sure you tell him that's not what you want and the quicker the better. it won't be any easier for you or him if you wait a week to tell him

[The_Supid_Genius]

You're probably hot and good in the sack...or he's desperate. This sort of thing happens.

[Asker]

Obviously I'm both of those things ;)

[The_Supid_Genius]

Giggity!

[TWins16]

Hes prob just doing it for a booty call and thought you where great in bed?, does he have a reason to be clingy? ha ha . Usually its girls well virgins that get very clingy after they have sex with a guy.

[Anonymous]

I believe that sex just releases chemicals that makes us bond with our partner. Even if I've had a very strong verbal fight with my partner (happens sometimes), after good sex we're often both clingy to each other. This is a very long relationship, so we do have strong fights, but sex draws us together!

It happens. Which is why I'm reluctant to try out casual sex. It might seal things for the current relationship... and there's no such thing as "free sex".

[Anonymous]

Some people bond through sex. That is why so many FWB don't work out. Just be honest with him, even if it hurts him. You don't want to lead him on.