Lately I've been SO horney. wtf do I do?

[Anonymous]

seriously it's driving me nuts! (no pun intended lol) I didn't even sleep last night because it was that bad. I can't make it a day without "relieving myself" multiple times. and while I only consider myself a guy that does serious relationships and wants to save my virginity, a casual relationship is starting to not sound so bad. or even having a fling or at least messing around with a girl. but I'm so bad with girls, I can barely talk to them effectively. what do I do? it's really bad lol.

[Anonymous]

Well that depends. I'm a virgin as well and sometimes I too wanna f*** the living sh*t outta some chick, but I can assure you my non virgin friends also go through that. So don't listen to your peers or anything who think losing virginity is the solution. If that were true, married adults wouldn't be as horny, and God knows how many sex maniacs I know of.

Have you had lots of free time lately? Vacations perhaps?

You usually experience such intense sex drive when you have time off from usual work load and stuff. My suggestion is a, find something interesting and constructive to divert this 'energy' of yours. Sports, such as swimming, or hobbies that physically exhaust you are beneficial in this regard and good for fitness anyways. B, don't jerk off because you're bored or 'unsatisfied' and it makes you feel better (just like Macdonalds makes obese people feel better).

Also, is there some phase going on in your life? A crush on someone perhaps? These issues too tend to somehow or the other sexually frustrate you.

Jerk off because you genuinely require sexual gratification.

Lastly, if your body really says so, do it. Even if it seems odd. This is a biological mechanism and is healthy if you really ARE that horny and this isn't a 'bored' reflex of yours. Because like eating just because you're bored and not because you're hungry, ejaculating too much does weaken you physically, and this is not just medically observed, you experience it happening to you as well. But other than that I think you're fine.

[CrazyKid2011]

Best answer^ :)

[Opinion Owner]

Thank you Ms.

[normalice]

learn to dance. learn to talk. with these two skills, you can get any girl you want.

acting lessons will teach you to fake confidence, which is indistinguishable from real confidence..

[CrazyKid2011]

No pun intended loll...

I been feeling crazy about sex lately too but I'm not a virgin and could easily have it lol ya know..

but congrats to you for being one(: not many guys out there that are.

[NoOneListens21]

Get a friends with benefits or keep masturbating. But if it is as bad as all that then you should probably get a fwb.

[Asker]

what would be an effective way to go about that?

[NoOneListens21]

I would just ask a friend who is close to you who is open about it and see if she would be interested in hooking up. Ask her if she finds you attractive and would she ever consider hooking up with you. Ask her to friends with benefits and if she would want something like that with you.

[kheserthorpe]

Start talking to them.

Are you 'ineffective' or are you not, actually, trying?

[Asker]

I am usually around girls a couple of times per week to where I would talk to them. so I talk to them on occasion but otherwise I don't talk to them a whole lot and I never actually hit on them. I'm bad at flirting.

[kheserthorpe]

Are these girls you know, or random girls? How far do you get 'where you would talk to them'?

[Asker]

usually girls I know, not always very well though. what do you mean about how far I would get? I'm not really the type that gets a lot of girls.

[kheserthorpe]

Do you - not say hi - not get beyond hi - not attempt to flirt subtley - not attempt more involved flirting - not attempt to break touch barrier - not attempt to get number/ask out - not attempt to actually ask on a date - not get on a date

[Asker]

i don't usually go as far as to touch them. and as I said, I am bad at flirting. it makes me uncomfortable even.

[kheserthorpe]

Not surprised by this. So can you say 'hi' to random girls? If not, you build THAT skill first.

[cyrus7]

you have to be really smooth for the touching to not be awkward

[kheserthorpe]

I'll say you have to be smooth. "Really' is putting too much pressure on. But you need to be genuinely pretty comfortable. On the other hand, nobody is without doing it. Yay, practice. But start at one stage till you are 'comfortable' and doing it regularly, then try to build on that skill.

[Asker]

yes saying hi isn't really a problem. it can be depending on the situation though obviously.

[kheserthorpe]

Great. Start saying Hi to 10 new girls a week. Not a problem, right?

[Asker]

if the right kinds of situations present themselves, not a problem.

[kheserthorpe]

If the right kind of situations aren't presenting themselves, then THAT is a problem you need to fix. If you're not running into girls (and it can be anywhere, the mall, the bus, wherever) then how are you going to be dating?

[Asker]

I guess I won't be. saying hi to girls at the mall isn't hard at all, especially if they're working and they come by to help you or something, or you ask them for help.

[kheserthorpe]

Max 5 hired guns (i.e. people who are paid to be friendly). Try just saying Hi to random girls at the mall. Seriously, what's the worst thing that could happen? You don't even have to wait for a response. Just smile, say Hi, keep walking. You gotta do that till its second nature and doesn't make you at ALL nervous.

[rakayln]

I plan on saving my virginity as well. And I agree with you it is really hard lol. So keep hanging in thee. Your not the only one haha:)

[cyrus7]

More p*rn!

Also distract yourself, movies, video games, etc.

[Asker]

I've been looking at more than enough of that :/

[cyrus7]

then distract yourself