Laughing at a man who's penis was tried to cut off, is this okay to do?

[Anonymous]

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SERIOUSLY..this is DISGUSTING...and the mostly female audience seemed to eat it up too...And No, I don't buy their watered down apology...I think finally someone comaplined so they got forced (nice to see someone did though)...What the hell is wrong? Btw...i don't know the specifics of this case...but whay do women alway assume the man "had it coming"...Okay 1) HARDLY ANYTHING justifies doing THAT...only a few really bad things could make a guy deserve that 2) think for a moment..why did he divorce here? well..she cut off his penis...u ever think amybe she was INSANE before that too and that's why he divorced her? geeez...how would you feel if you got sexually mutilated and then watched a talk show were membetrs of the oposite sex laughed at you?

[7gnat]

During the night of June 23, 1993, John Wayne Bobbitt arrived at the couple's apartment in Manassas, Virginia, highly intoxicated after a night of partying. According to testimony given by Lorena Bobbitt in a 1994 court hearing, he then raped her. (In 1994 he was tried for and acquitted of spousal rape, prosecuted by the same district attorney who prosecuted Lorena for attacking her husband.) Afterwards, Lorena Bobbitt got out of bed and went to the kitchen for a drink of water. According to an article in the National Women's Studies Association Journal, while in the kitchen she noticed a carving knife on the counter and "memories of past domestic abuses raced through her head." Grabbing the knife, Lorena Bobbitt entered the bedroom where John was sleeping and proceeded to cut off almost half of his penis.[1]

After assaulting her husband, Lorena left the apartment with the severed penis, drove a short while, then rolled down the car window and threw the penis into a field. Realizing the severity of the incident, she stopped and called 911. After an exhaustive search, the penis was located, packed in ice, and taken to the hospital where John Bobbitt was being treated.

The penis was reattached by Drs. James T. Sehn and David Berman during a nine-and-a-half-hour operation. Lorena Bobbitt was taken into custody. During the trial, the couple revealed details of their volatile relationship and the events leading up to the assault. She stated that her husband sexually, physically, and emotionally abused her during their marriage. She added that her husband flaunted his infidelities, and had forced her to have an abortion. Several witnesses provided testimony supporting her claims. Her defense attorneys maintained that John's constant abuse caused Lorena to eventually "snap" as she was suffering from clinical depression and a possible bout of post traumatic stress disorder due to the abuse.[3] However, when Lorena was arrested the night of June 23rd, she told the police, "He always have orgasm [sic], and he doesn't wait for me to have orgasm. He's selfish."[4] John Bobbitt denied the allegations of abuse; however, when he was cross-examined, his statements often conflicted with known facts, severely weakening the prosecution's case.[3]

After seven hours of deliberation, the jury found Lorena not guilty due to insanity causing an irresistible impulse to sexually wound her husband. As a result, she could not be held liable for her actions.[5] Under state law, the judge ordered Lorena to undergo a 45-day evaluation period at Central State Hospital, located in Petersburg, Virginia, after which she would be released.

In 1995, after six years of marriage, Lorena and John divorced.

[promethius]

The moment a story of a women getting her clit bit off is reported on the news and the entire country finds it hillarious. I willing to bet women would protest it. " haha did you here about that chick that got her clit bit off by her boyfriend because she was cheating, hahaha! Stupid bitch had it coming. Ya i know good for him, now maybe women will stop being such whores!" Women would be sooo pissed. But yheyre women so people actualy give a shit. Oh but men are privilege.right.

[nollie33]

The reason there is a double standard is because women still obviously have it much worse in this country with regards to sexual harassment, rape, ect. From the time a girl is born her parents practically ingrain within her this fear of ever being raped, abused, molested. There's not a day where I don't at least worry once or twice that while I'm walking alone some guy could jump out of no where and rape me or kill me. I don't think guys have to walk around with the same fear. So when we hear about something like this happening to a guy...your inclination is to feel like its somewhat justified for all the stress and trouble women have dealt with over the years. The fact is that harming that man in this case was wrong. It's wrong to joke about and it's wrong to laugh about...but I'm just letting you know where the laughter and cruelty is coming from. It's coming from the frustrations women have had over sexual harassment, abuse, rape, cat calls, groping, ect.

[Asker]

u know I know plenty of girls that aren't hidnered by that threat...theres a lot girls don't have to worry about too ya know..and for the record...I would rather go through even single thing you mentioned than have my genitals permanenty removed...its much worse..and that never happens to girls in western countries. But REGARDLESS...this guy didn't DO ANYTHING...she was jsut crazy and mad that he divorced her..she never claimed he did anything to her other than that.

[promethius]

The fact that young boys can be kicked in their genitals by a girl and be Laghed at while al the girls in the class cheer it on is sexist, besides the fact that the girl will probably experience a slap on the wrist is bs. Now these same girls grow up to find a man being castrated hilarious. Most men dont want to show that it bothers them, but it does. In my opinion women get off on this, not because he had it coming, but because as a girl grows into a women, they realize they are physically weaker, not biologically dominant, have periods, and can't really rape men. So girls that are comfortable in their own skin and dont covet the biological advantages that men have because they find it attractive so they dont find sexual torture of men apealing. Unfortunatley, many women out their do see a human being brutaly tortured. They see a man, and men are not seem as human beings with feeling s, women on here that think its funny when a man has his genitals removed, are insecure and week.

[jamesbarton262]

very well said.

[sarah-a180]

Well Lorena Bobbitt is still my hero. Her husband raped her, and she freaked out and cut his penis off when he fell asleep. In my opinion, that was totally justified, and I was glad when she got off.

Obviously I'm not going to go around cutting people up, but I think every girl who has ever been abused can relate to this. That's why people laugh: they understand the impulse. A lot of guys *do* have it coming (even if I don't actually condone it).

And I think the tables are turned all the time. How many times have you heard "women--can't live with them, can't kill them?" We all have frustrations with the opposite gender and sometimes have joke fantasies about going overboard in retribution.

[7gnat]

You honestly believed that story of rape? He was cheating on her and being a scumbag. Now is the punishment just? I will leave that open for another question.

[Asker]

first off...this woman even calimed that he abused her...there no reason to believe he did..and if she was capable of this...she was probably an insane person to ahve as wife I'm guessing..i don't blame him for divorcing her. secondly...im sorry but removing a sexual organ is not equivalent to rape...id defintely rather be raped than mutilated like this...i honestly think this is yet another case of women elevating wahtever happens to them over any crime committed against a man.

[Asker]

i also don't recall lorena saying she was raped..just other forms of abuse...when she was first caught she said it was because he was selfish in the bedroom...and I've NEVER heard that phrase...the one I hear is "Women: can't live with them--can't live without them" but after seeing responses to this from insane women like you...i think I can live without women...i think I better. and blamign it on frustrations? would you buy that if I laughed about a girl getting FGM?

[queenofpeen]

Even if her story is 100% true, her reaction was irrational and insane. I have way more respect for the victims who have the dignity to simply leave the abuser and call the cops.

[sarah-a180]

If you don't recall Lorena was raped, you don't remember the story at all. Look it up. Battered woman syndrome is very real. And I'm sorry you just have no idea about rape.

[Asker]

i still don't think its jsutified if she was..btw..she never proved she was..when she was first caught she said she did it because he was "selfish" and would orgasm before her.

[7gnat]

again she claimed she was raped. HE was tried and found NOT GUILTY again he was found NOT GUILTY. Read my answer from court records(too long to post on a comment)

[promethius]

she's your hero, because you are a sick individual. You hat the fact that women aee seen a physically weaker and hate the fact that men have basically invented almost everything that you use in you comfortable life. The act of rape understandably pisses you of but so does the act of sex because men have the strength to controll the act itself.ost normal men and women enjoy this. But in your sick mind its a victory for women. When in fact it just prooves how menally unstable some women can be. Making gendered jokes and having you genitals cut off for it is not turning the tables. Turning the tables would be having your clit ripped off and thrown in the microwave. Then having the story played on the news only to have people find it halarious that your clit was ripped off. Then you go online and see prople saying " wow that guy who ripped off her clit is my hero!" Im sorry but you come of as a girl with serious insecurity of your sex. So you ridicule men who have been sexualy mutilated.

[promethius]

Sorry about all the typos, my touch screen is really bad, but not as bad as the case of penis envy you have.

[promethius]

I actually knew this girl who lived in the town where it happened. She had a serious crush on me and would always stop by have a few drinks and hang with me and my room mate. But evertime she came over, she would make lorena bobbit jokes. She would talk about how funny it was and how the men were all acting weird after it happened. And how she loved it and thought it was halarious. It got to a point where i had to tell her she sounded like she hated men and it was a turn off. She got a little anoyed and left. She went from being the kind of cute girl next door, to being an absolute joke between my roomates. She continued to come over but it wasn't long before she realized that she was what we were laughing at. One day she came by and said i just took a self defence course. So i said ya what a turn on it is to kick a guy in the crotch did you climax or was the guy not in enough pain. She was sooo pissed, she dosnt come over anymore. Thank god

[queenofpeen]

Yeah, if the tables were turned and it was a guy laughing about a girl being sexually mutilated, people would attack him. But oh, it's a guy who got hurt, so he probably deserved it because guys are a**holes! (sarcasm) Long story short, our culture sucks.

[promethius]

I wish all women were as sane as you. But most are insecure self centered products of being coddled by a society that excuses sexist feminist indoctrination of young girls, which in turn teaches them that men are the enemy. And dehuminizing them Through shaming tacticts like castration, false rape accusations., and considering kicking a man in the groin ( sexual assault) is all justified as well as humorous. Its my opinion that women would never be able to tolerate this behaviour directed at them. Yet most will tell you that they're opressed. I seriously almost puke when i here women say theyre oppressed. When boys are taught that jaming theyre tthumbs in a girls vagina is funny and wayching them in agony is enjoyable. How would women feel about that?

[selfishstars]

No, it's not okay to laugh about. The opinions of the women on "The Talk" aren't representative of my opinion.

[Asker]

yea I only got one answer that kinda defended them..so I'm guessin a lot of girls find it wrong...btw your pofile pic is hilarious lol gave me a good laugh

[selfishstars]

:D!

[Asker]

ugh...now its 2...but still the "it was wrong" response is still winning thankffully.

[selfishstars]

Well, I think part of the problem is that we live in a society where some people still believe in an-eye-for-an-eye justice. So, you will find women who think that the guy probably deserved it (i.e. if he was abusive or raped her, etc.). The other problem is that some people have a hard time putting themselves in the shoes of the opposite gender. Sara Gilbert was the only one who brought up a decent point on "The Talk", which was that no one would be laughing if a man cut off a woman's breasts

[selfishstars]

But guys can fall into that trap too; like guys who make jokes about slipping roofies to a girl (I've seen a number of jokes in the form of demotivational posters like that), when that's something that most girls see as really horrible and serious.

[Asker]

i think she was too soft thought...she kinda eased into it...i would have walked out and calle dout sharon osbourne to her face...yea..ur right about rape jokes too...but the thing is...this womnan NEVER even said she was abused...she was angry he divorced her..if he raped her...i could see how women would kinda think it was justice (id still disagre tho) but they just had to ASSUME he deserved because he was a man.

[promethius]

Im sorry if a roofie joke offended you... call me back when a guy you break up with rips your clit off and mutilates your labia.

[FitNix92]

I think that's absolutly horrible.

[Asker]

it totally is...do you think amybe most women do achknowledge its horrible but when your in a studio adudience and maybe one woman alughs or jokes..maybe they get pulled into a group think type thing and might laugh or finds humor when they really think it isn't?

[promethius]

It seems to me thay women see it as pay back. But for what? Any girl who laughs at a guy who has to go through life as a man that got his genitals cut off for just wanting to get a divorce. Is sick and i personally beleive women that laugh do so becaise they are jealous of the fact that men have accomplished more than women who have nothing but support so they are willing to make a mockery of a pore guy while he basically had is sexual identity taken from him, AND ITS TREATED AS A JOKE. But what gets me is that if she cut of some of his fingers. It would be seen as a violent crime. But because it was his penis oh ya lets ridicule the victim and make fun of him. So many girls online will say oh thats wrong but every other form of media made a joke of it. I've dated enough women to know that men are expected to have absolute empathy for women. And if you look around women have basically no empathy towards men. And im sorry but women have no excuse for that.

[TwistedLogic]

Ahhh, those women, a bunch of uneducated, immature, brainless morons. And people actually watch the show! This made me feel sick. -_-

[moloz]

That woman is still alive?

[Asker]

yes

[brenster]

I really don't understand this because if she had cut him anywhere else, people would be up in arms saying it's a disgrace and she should be locked up for a long time and what is wrong with society that things ever came to this. However, because it's his penis, it's hilarious? Some people are wired completely wrong. Go figure.

[Lupianwolf]

There was a woman who cut off her guys d*** and he still stayed with her afterwards

I think that video is bad, other way round and women would be furious

[dudeman]

well did we ever think they were not dumb bitches to begin with

[dudeman]

and sharon is from the man hating 60s feminist stuff, she was the one laughing really

[7gnat]

There is an obvious double standard when it comes to women abusing men. Even in commercials it is now funny to see a woman beating up on a man. Sadly some of this behavior is tolerated and even acceptable by our disturbed society.

[promethius]

Its gotten to the point where its almost a challenge to find a commercial that dosnt glorify man shaming, or the stupid man trope. And yet you have women fighting for rights because they dont get enough respect. It seems like if somebody is being sexually mutilated its seen as a hanous crime. Unless its a man that had his penis cut of by a women than its fine, i mean look at the evidence a man ( automatically are always seen as a victim, even beyond a reasonable doubt ) its almost impossible to arest a women. All she has to do is play stupid and claim insanity. Maybe i should remember that the next time i feel like mutilating someone. ... Oh wait, im a man. I have to serve an actual prison sentence? Damn, i really fealt like ripping clits off with my bare hands. Oh thats right only women can basically get away with murder. Hmm maybe cassie anthony can give me a few tips.

[butterflyknives]

jeezus, that's friggin aweful! I'd be mad at the show, not cool.