Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
When you’re young, your hormones are raging. It’s kind of funny in retrospect, because I remember being super horny as a dumb 17 year old. Not saying every teen has little self control, but I know I sure did. Unfortunately I didn’t have a boyfriend then so I couldn’t really experiment like some of my counterparts. This turned out to be a pretty GOOD thing. Here’s some advice that I have for all my GAG teens trying to make it through high school with these horn dogs.
1. Everyone is horny. Everyone.
For whatever reason, the boys thought that the girls in their classes weren’t as horny as them. They used to talk all the time about masturbating 2-3 times a day in a sock, assuming their female friends didn’t have the same problem. ISSA LIE. Most of the girls in my classes were just as horny, they just didn’t show it as much. This was a blessing, as we didn’t have to worry about random boners. But our freaky nature would come out in the most unexpected ways.
Example: eating a rainbow popsicle and trying to see how much we could stuff in our mouths. Yes, we were simulating fellatio. Did it get the guys’ attention? It sure did hehe.
2. Everyone is not having sex.
As I mentioned before, we were all going through that rough stage where everything was sexual. But not everyone was channeling that energy and actually having sex. Most weren’t actually. There were only a few girls in my graduating class that were getting some action, which is funny considering they got slut shamed for it.
Truthfully, some of the girls slut-shamed them because we wanted to be them. We wanted sex too, and we weren’t sure how to go about securing said boyfriends to achieve this goal. Some of us eventually figured it out and others didn’t.
So to all the guys and gals: STOP feeling pressured to have sex whenever everyone else is. Because 80% of ya friends are lying. Or at least exaggerating. Take your time and don’t worry about looking lame - everyone does at your age. It’s a part of life.
3. Sex ed in school is irrelevant as hell.
Apparently not every school even has sex education classes. Which is wild because 12-20 year olds are the demographic who need it the most. High school is ideally the best time to educate kids about sexual choices and consent but it just doesn’t happen. So let me fill in a few gaps:
Abstinence is not the key, it’s not even realistic.
Blowjobs are as fun as they look.
Always ask for consent and hands-off if they even LOOK like they’re about to say no.
Privacy is key.
Sex is only fun if both people are getting their needs met.
Contraception is diverse so learn a lot as quick as you can.
NO SEX WITHOUT A CONDOM.
Get checked regularly for STDs. Like every 3-6 months at least.
There’s a lot I’m skipping over but those are the general points that many high school students just don’t get? Don’t worry - there’s plenty of online resources that end in .gov (reputable) so you can learn the science of sex. Also, experience is the best teacher.
4. You will mess up and it will be awkward.
No matter your level of skill or experience, a new partner is gonna be a little weird. The learning curve is steep and you’ll make plenty of mistakes. So what? The right sex partner will understand and you’ll be able to laugh about it.
Don’t put so much pressure on yourself to be cool and suave. Because no one is in the beginning. Focus on making the other person have a good experience and learning a lot. As long as you don’t take yourself too seriously it will be okay. Relax!
5. Being a virgin isn't a bloody affair exactly.
Some girls have horror stories about how much blood came out when they tore their hymen. Listen. Don’t worry about that.
Granted, there are disorders that can make intercourse painful but it’s unlikely you have those. Pretty unlikely. I’ve noticed that many women experience discomfort during penetration because they are nervous and not prepared.
Relax. Sex is scary or intimidating the first time. But he won’t able to thrust properly without hurting you if you don’t relax a bit. Don’t tense up.
You need lots and lots of lubrication. Depending on how turned on you are, you may not need lube. I generate enough to be as slippery as possibly (LMAO TMI BUT YOU NEED TO KNOW THIS IS A THING). Your first time may affect how much natural lubrication you can produce. So you need a container of lube on hand. Preferably water based. It will make things much easier, trust me.
6. Sex may be short but it's not a race.
It is a journey. It is a journey. It is a journey. It’s not about who can cum the quickest or the hardest. This is why it’s important to care enough about your partner to make it good for them. Respect each other and it should go swimmingly well.
The reason being, you should take time to explore each other’s bodies. Touch and feel and grab and play with whatever. Gently. It’s all part of the experience, and it’s how you learn what the other person likes. If you don’t know what you like, that is perfectly fine.
Example: If you are a heterosexual dude, go slow with your lady friend. She is not your sock, she’s a person. Go slow and kiss her quite a bit. If you want to try the vaginal intercourse stuff, make sure she can take 3 fingers. Work up to that. If she can’t, try again the next day. The goal is to slowly work up to the main event. It’s not a race. If you take your time, you will be rewarded with a good time with a girl who won’t hate you afterwards lol.
7. Protect yourself and your partner.
I already said this but I’ll say it again. PROTECTION IS ESSENTIAL. Always use a condom. No excuses. And for the girls, learn a lot about birth control before you try it. Talk to your doctor and your parents, an adult you trust before you go on this endeavor. Get all the info you need to make a good decision.
8. Know what you like and don't like.
For both men and women, it’s important not to rely on porn. You need to have a good idea about what turns you on naturally. Is it a specific scent? A look? A body part? A touch? Think about that. If you rely on artificial simulation, it can reprogram your brain. Porn isn’t bad, but in excess it can hurt you in the long run.
Please touch yourself. This is a plea. Figure out what you might like or love. Ladies use your fingers and toys. Anyone under 16 shouldn’t be buying toys but over 16 is old enough in my opinion. It’s not like you weren’t already thinking about sex anyway lol.
9. Understand your boundaries and don't push them.
Dont have sex with anyone who makes you feel weird or uncomfortable. Never that.
If they try to force you, persuade you or manipulate you into having sex, SCREW THEM. Get the hell outta there. Men can be assaulted too so if a girl tries to keep touching your penis, remove her hand and get tf out if possible.
A huge boundary for teens is alcohol. I’m not dumb enough to assume you don’t drink, even though you shouldn’t. You are minors but at parties you will see and drink alcohol. NO SEX UNDER THE INFLUENCE. It’s easy to assault or be assaulted under these conditions. It can ruin your life so be very mindful of the consequences.
10. Talk to an adult about all the stuff I just said.
If you didn’t get anything else out of this, know that there are adults like me who have been where you are. We know how sex works and what to do in hairy situations. Ask for advice or help choosing contraception. Ask for help about boys or girls your age. Never be afraid to speak up if someone takes advantage of you or makes you uncomfortable. Seriously.
HOPE THIS HELPED. I couldn’t talk about everything here but this should get you started.🤘🏽
What Girls & Guys Said
13 11Or just focus on things that actually matter in life and make you truly happy. Like my career ambitions and hobbies.
Also, only desperate sluts buy toys.
I bought my girlfriend a toy. And sex is one of my favorite hobbies. If it doesn't make you happy, then you're probably a lot less sexual than the average person; maybe even asexual. Good luck with your career and ambitions. I'll be working at a factory and having lots of sex.
GOOD ALL AROUND!!!