If it hurt so much and you bled the first time it probably won't hurt as much the second time. I only had sex once and it hurt a lot but I still am not scared off..I think the next time will be better. A guy who really cares about you won't push sex although eventually in your relationship you will get to that road if you stay together. Even if you are really conservative and don't believe in sex before marriage, you will get there with someone. Sex isn't avoidable forever. It sounds like your first time was very traumatic and I think that maybe you should speak to someone about it if you are that traumatized or scared by it.
I wish I could avoid it forever :( I didn't bleed it just really hurt!
I understand what your saying! It seems like that at the start but as you get more experience it gets A LOT better. Try more foreplay etc I think that really works. I also think that if your rushed into it from the beginning without a lot of prior sexual experience it can actually be quite traumatic! So get used to the other things before you dive into sex! :)
It will hurt for a few more times before it gets to feel good
You may be one of many women who have abnormally small vaginal openings. Don't feel embarassed about it your not the only one. Try stretching it out starting with the smallest object you can comfortably fit and slowly and gradually use larger objects. Went on google and found this for you vaginismus . com / products / dilator_set
You might want to ask a doctor about it first though.
Unless you plan on never having a lasting relationship, you will have to have sex so it's better to do something about it than avoiding it. Best of luck to you :)
Why do I HAVE to have sex? :( it's unfair. Maybe I'll just stay single then.
Sorry I meant to say "unless you plan on not having a lasting relationship, you will MOST LIKELY have to have sex because ALMOST every guy will eventually want to have sex. It's your choice if you just want to be single your whole life but if you change your mind don't forget you can see a doctor about it
Get over the fact that one bad experience isn't enough to form a life long aversion.
You're like a child who didn't like solid food the first time. Big deal. You can't stay on the nipple your whole life. Try solid food again. The rest of the world eats it, it's fine, you'll like it.
Solid food is a metaphor for sex in this case.
Ok but solid food & sex is totally different... I know you used it as a metaphor but... You didn't like sex for the first time . Big deal. (it was a big deal because it hurt so bad, guys can't even imagine the pain because all they feel is pleasure) You can't have no sex your whole life (YES I CAN). Try sex again. The rest of the world does it (Not everyone) it's fine, you'll like it (Probably not).
Unless your hymen magically grew back, then get over it. One bad experience is all you had. The hymen is there to make sure girls don't have sex casually. It's supposed to hurt and be unpleasant the FIRST time. Honestly, it's like no one told you what to expect from your first time...
it still hurts when I put anything in my vagina, even my fingers. If a girl isn't suposed to have lots of sex, why doesn't sex hurt for them every time?
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!It is normal to experience pain when you lose your virginity, and some girls, who happen to have thicker, stronger hymens, will tend to have more pain, as it takes more pressure to rupture the hymen. But generally, by the second or third time, the hymen will be completely torn away, and that pain won't return.
We understand that you don't want pain, and that it hurt bad, but it WILL get better, as the other girls who have posted can confirm. Don't give up yet!
I don't even think it's worth trying again. That's how bad it hurt.
If you get a boyfriend who loves you he will never leave you because you are scared of sex. If you explain that it hurts, guy who will love you will be gentle!
Just don't be scared. Continue dating and having fun like nothing is wrong until the time that sex issue comes up. And then believe in your boyfriend love and understanding. It'll be all right.
I don't even want to have gentle sex!
First time is not something you want to judge whole sex by. It'll get much better. And it might get better only after 5 times you try. So just be gentle while it hurts or while it feels bad. And it will improve considerably. It won't feel like this!
...try having sex again?
But it hurts so much :( it made me cry it hurt so bad.
obviously I have no first hand experience, but I think its supposed to not hurt after one or two times
I don't want to experience that again though it's torture!
it hurts most girls fitst type becuase the hymen broke, now that's done it will get better and won't hurt, if you don't want to have sex striate away, try with yourself with your fingers and a dildo/vibrater and you will see how good it feels
I've tried that it hurts to put things inside I just rub the outside when I masturbate.
just keep trying it, use a bit of lube or baby oil, don't give up on sex straite away or your just going to fear it
Go to a doctor and check that everything is okay. Then, go to a psychologist that will help you get passed that trauma...
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