Losing my virginity to someone who's not my boyfriend?

So I know this guy who really wants to have sex with me, and I kind of want to do it with him too, but I'm still a virgin. I am a little embarrassed about this because I'm 18, a senior in high school, and still a virgin. I used to want to wait for the "right guy" but I'm not really the relationship type anyway. Would it be wrong if I did have sex with him? He's not a boyfriend, and we're barely even friends. He's just some guy at my school. And might I add, the hottest guy at school. He is a little bit of a player because he's so attractive and isn't looking for anything other than sex. So now I don't know what to do. I don't want to seem like a prude, but I'm afraid I'd regret it later on. I don't want to graduate a virgin, and I highly doubt I'll be in a relationship any time soon where I'd be able to give it up to someone who I can trust. I'm so confused about what I should do.
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Don't do it you will regret it for the rest of your life, but again if you don't care about your Virginity go ahead but if you really do DON"T DO IT. I did it with a girl that I knew for less then 2 weeks and I regret BIG time. Even to this day when I'm meeting good girls who really worth waiting I think to my self goood what a dumb fuk I was to do something that basically my friends pushed me to do. By the way I lost my Virginity at 20 and I'm a GUY. I'm not a nerd or stupid ugly mofuka. I'm a handsome Russian who listened to his dump fuk friends to do something I i REALLY didn't want to do because I REALLY had a believe and wish to loose my Virginity to another Virgin girl who I REALLY loved and cared about. But guess what it is not happening because my fuktup friends pushed into something that I was totally against. Now I'm paying the price of caring that burden.

  • Why don't you think about this hot guy that you are thinking about doing? You said he " isn't looking for anything other than sex". Well if that OK for him, why isn't it OK for you? You know guys avoid much of the hurt that girls endure after sex because they enjoy sex for the fun, not for emotional attractions. Perhaps you could have sex because you are feeling horny and not make the connection to a relationship that many girls do. You are entitled to a sex life, whether you are in a committed relationship or not. I say if you want to, then do it.

    I am assuming you know how to avoid pregnancy and disease and keep yourself safe. :)

Most Helpful Girls

  • Probably not the best idea. and 18 isn't so young. It's nothing to be embarrassed about. There are people in their late twenties and older that haven't been with anyone. If he's a player, this means of course he's been with a lot of girls, and just remember, whoever you sleep with, it's like you're sleeping with the people they have, because that's how disease and whatever spreads...so keep that in mind. If it's your first it may be better to do it with someone you really know. But it's all you're decision, so take what ya will from all of our comments..

  • I'm a virgin, 18, senior & two years ago I considered loosing it to a guy who wasn't right for me. I'm glad I didn't. Now I'm going out with a guy who is right for me, he's a virgin too, in fact I'm more experienced ;) yes, this does happen & yes there are good looking virgins still out there :P I might loose it to him, I might not... but when I do its going to be for me, & I'm going to remember it happily.

  • You should do what you feel is right for you. being a virgin in high school isn't bad at all. it means you have no chance of getting pregnant. it means you made a good choice. so have sex with him if you want but please use a condom at least. I personally think you should not have sex with this guy and wait until the right guy comes along.

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  • Your first time is something you will NEVER forget, for better or for worse, and won't you always REGRET having your first time just be a status play for supposedly 'the hottest' guy in school?

    Usually meaning he's got the 'hottest' car, or more money than anyone else?

    By defintion, almost, someone lacking in maturity and intelligence ,(or he wouldn't have such popularity in high school), someone you won't have a future of any kind with? Someone you won't even want to maintain contact with? Someone youwill be ashamed to talk about in a year with any future boyfriend?

  • Losing it to a guy who isn't your boyfriend isn't the end of the world. Just be VERY sure you want to do it before you do (you can't un-do it later). And be VERY sure you are OK with this particular guy to be the one.

  • What everyone else said. Well, everyone who wasn't wrong.

  • If you are going to feel better about yourself as a woman, and believe that it will make you a better and stronger person, then GO FOR IT!

  • oh wow, your not a slut and you're feeling bad about it...what's this world coming too!

    • The service station in paradise, eyy

    • Bffr. She could be using her mouth.