Lost my virginity today, but she couldn't make me cum. Why?

I lost my virginity today and couldn't cum from her. I was very attracted to her. We were able to have sex for a really long time, she gave me multiple hand jobs and I still couldn't cum. Finally she asked me to just finish myself off. Why couldn't she do it? And is it going to happen every time?
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Most Helpful Girls

  • Hmm its can be a lot of factors, factors like it was indeed ur first time so u are getting used to the feeling of sexual pleasure given by other people.

    Your body was used to masturbation and your own way of pleasing yourself, so when she did it for the first time, it was mentally different feel for you

    nervousness can be a factor too, some guys ejaculate too early because of nervousness while others aren't mentally turned on because of nervousness.

    Either way, its just your first time, still a long way to go. I wouldn't worry about it... explore your body safetly with her and its all good.

  • Maybe you were just nervous. Just put it out of your head and keep trying. Oh and if you didn't cum, I think it's called one long handjob with multiple breaks. Lol.

Most Helpful Guys

  • It is normal to be way nervous your first time. Next time get naked with her and just spend a long time exploring every inch of each others bodies. The foreplay while naked is almost as much fun as the sex. Did you jerk off a lot before you had sex?

    Also have her get you real close to an orgasm with her hand or mouth before sex. Don't sweat it, you will do just fine. Practice makes perfect. Don't forget condoms. What are your thoughts?

    • I really like that idea of getting to eplore each other before hand. And I didn't jerk off at all before sex, and she couldn't even get me close from a hand job, vaginal sex, or titty fuck.

    • Just slow down, enjoy the experience and don't focus on the orgasm it will come... believe me. Slow down use tons of foreplay and enjoy being naked with each other.

    • I tried not to. And I think part of the reason was she was ready before I was and she said a bunch of times don't cum in me (Yes we were using a condom) so I kept focusing on when I was going to and how I have to be ready to pull out

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  • Just first time gitters. Don't sweat it. That is why sex is so awesome, you can do it over and over and over! Practice makes perfect. Now, did you make her cum?

    • I did not. I think i was close but I didn't.

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  • Nerves?

    • No, I wasn't nervous. We both talked about it for a really long time before we actually did it. We were both comfortable and ready to do it.

    • That doesn't mean you can't be a little nervous. I wouldn't think to much of it since it was your first time

  • Too much porn?
    Not good enough hand jobs?

  • Because you haven't learned to cum by someone else yet.

  • Was there any love?

  • okay I didn't cum my first time either
    it took me 2 weeks too bust my first nut

  • That's a good thing man