Making a guy put on a condom to give a blow job?

Question

this guy was a complete stranger and I wasn't even really interested in giving a blow job but he clearly really wanted me to. so I made him put on a condom because I don't know who he's been with and I do NOT want an STD. that's acceptable right? I feel like condoms for blow jobs aren't very common but making him wear one is still an OK thing to do right?

Dargil · Accepted Answer

Giving a BJ to a complete stranger makes no sense to me (shouldn't you know, trust and like him?) but given this circumstance and the prevalence of STD, your instincts are good. It's OK.

I am just starting out (well, not even that) with sexuality. I want it to matter to both a girl and me. Like some amount of love should be involved. You and others write like it is a social commodity that is exchanged simply because it is there. I do not understand this. It almost sounds like drug culture. Sooner (I hope) or later, I will become sexual with a girl. I will want it to have purpose and meaning, not just ships passing in the night. This is why I do not hook up and am a virgin at 25. It just all seems so self-centered, impersonal and depressing, like a feeding frenzy. The ending will be sad and I'd rather do without than feel that.

Do you know him? Who is he? What does he want out of life? How does he feel about you? Will he remember you in December? Will you remember him?

Cryostatic · Accepted Answer

"this guy was a complete stranger and I wasn't even really interested in giving a blow job but he clearly really wanted me to."

Your sexual philanthropicness is rather shocking, to be honest. I don't think I've ever met a girl who was willing to give complete strangers blowjobs when they weren't interested in doing so, condom or no.

To answer your question, yes. It's perfectly okay to make a complete stranger wear a condom when you're giving him a blowjob that you didn't want to give in the first place.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

That's smart of you. If you don't feel comfortable giving head without a condom, then don't do it. F***how he feels about it. He should be happy to be getting any type of head. Which is better for a man - a BJ with a condom or no BJ at all? Especially if he's a stranger!

However if you aren't interested in doing it then you shouldn't have done it. F***how he feels, its about you and your level of comfort. you shouldn't do things that you don't want to do

Turtleluv · Accepted Answer

I would never have done what you did.  Not because I think you are a slut but because you don't have enough confidence, self worth or whatever to tell some strange guy no.  That's what I don't like about what you said.  I don't think you should be doing anything with anyone until you understand your own boundaries and have the guts to make them clear to others.

pickledxtofu · Accepted Answer

Is it an OK thing to do? Yes, absolutely. Is it a great way of protecting your health? Yes.

My overall opinion however, is one shouldn't give someone oral sex if they feel it necessary to use a condom or dental dam.

I think society is way too clueless nowadays as to the reality of STDs and condoms

Betwyn · Accepted Answer

I never use condoms for oral... it seems... pointless? If I don't feel comfortable putting it in my mouth without one... Then I don't.

3gmoney3 · Answer

I'm only answering because there aren't any guys on here and to reiterate what the girls are saying.

A) It's absolutely okay to make him wear a condom. Herpes, HPV, and gonorrhea are all commonly transferable from oral sex (others are too, but less likely), and if he was a complete stranger you have no way of knowing whether he has anything. It's less common for people to use barrier methods during oral sex, but I think that's mainly because people don't know the risks or they find it awkward. Really, people need to get over the awkwardness; their health is much more important.

B) You should never feel obligated to do something sexual if you don't feel comfortable doing it. Of course there are times in committed relationships when we might do something we're not jazzed about because a partner wants it, but in this type of situation he should 100% respect your boundaries. If not, he can feel free to go blow himself.

EntropicDecay · Answer

What is not acceptable is having to give a blow job to a stranger when you don't want to.

The condom was a very good idea though, it is basic precautions for your own health.

If he's not OK with it, he can definitively get lost ! You are giving him pleasure, you get to draw your own rules.

Turtleluv · Answer

You do what makes YOU comfortable.  If you weren't interested you should've said no?

katiesmuff · Answer

Why would you even consider sucking a penis of a guy you were not at all interested in or really didn't want to suck it?

KimmyB · Answer

I've personally never done it, but ya that's def an OK thing to make a complete stranger do! :o)

madhatters4 · Answer

i guess if you are giving a stranger a bj you probably should use a condom...

But I can say this I wouldn't even accept a blowjob from "sexual philanthropist" such as yourself if they required condom. probably would rather wank it myself

ferny313 · Answer

Girls? Come on ofcourse yeah it feels great to get oral with out a condom but to do it to strangers? YOu you can get stds with out one. I can't believe some women suck d*** with out even a flavor one.

yaddayaddayadda02 · Answer

It's as acceptable as giving a complete stranger a blowjob just because he "wanted you to".

Hamburgers · Answer

Guys, would you want this to be your wife? Mother of your children, kissing your kids in the mouth? Condom doesn't change much, may as well have taken it to the f**e.

hannibal214 · Answer

you're right, only classy broads with standards and morals blow random guys with condoms on

hannibal214 · Answer

not really.  in fact, it's the dumbest thing I've ever heard.  if you're willing to suck his cock, you should be willing to do so without plastic wrapped around it