Mark your territory?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend told me that he gets really turned on by the idea of cumming on me and asked whether I would let him do it. I thought it was great cause I think its really hot to see and feel him do that too. But then he explained to me that the reason he wanted to do this was because he sees it as a way of "marking me as his sexual territory." So I was wondering whether that is the reason all guys like to come on girls or maybe he's just especially territorial.

[jdcpa]

I think your boyfriend is just weird.

No.

As easily persuaded as girls might be to jump on the "ah men, they're so animalistic and territorial, it's like he's claiming me" band wagon, it's not true.

Maybe it might be true unconsciously, who knows.

But on the concious level, the thoughts he's actually aware he's having inside his head when he's doing it; have nothing to do with that.

I would try watching porn one day. Like a full 26 minute movie, that ends with the girl receiving a load over her body or face.

While you're watching it, keep the following thought in mind:

"she's trying her best to please him. in every single sense of the word. visually, her touch, her softness, sounds, etc. that's the male version of romance, what she's trying to do for him, and just for him. and for what? to try and pull that load out of him. not just whatever comes out, but as much as possible. and that's sexy. she's trying the best she can, to give him the stimulation and experience he needs, to release as much of his load into her as possible? why? because she wants him. what's important to her is what's important to him. and right now, that's his sexual pleasure. and with that mentality, she becomes completely submissive to his every desire, trying her best to give him what he wants."

those are the redundant themes in porn.

that's why things like facials, guys blowing their load on different body parts, the girl getting down on her knees, doggy style, or other unusual requests, are such a turn on.

it shows the girl wanting the guy, and trying her hardest to give him the best sexual experience and the most pleasure he can possibly have.

simultaneously, it also shows the girl being sexually confident, like this fountain or source of beauty, caring, and pleasure.

after all, the main theory in S&M philosophy is that the submissive is the one in control and with all the power. if the dominant is the pleasure seeker (and it can be either a guy or girl), and the submissive is the pleasure giver (again, it can be either the guy or girl), then it is the giver who holds that power for that moment, or during those moments during sex.

so on top of seeing the girl trying to cater to the guy's sexual pleasure; there's a kicker.

guys also get really turned on by seeing "his girl", feeing super-sexy and great about herself in that role or position. that's why, if you go through enough porn, you'll be able to tell the difference between good porn and bad porn.

bad porn is where the guy and girl are just having sex. good porn is where you see both the guy & girl, but for the sake of discussion, especially the girl, feeling sexy, gorgeous, sexually powerful, beautiful, and basically confident in her ability to give her guy pleasure..

so the act of him blowing his load on you externally, is both of you getting to see how much you were able to get him to enjoy that whole experience.

[Asker]

Yeah, I thought the "marking my territory" explanation was weird. I agree with you completely. Also, that whole thing was just really sexy.

[Time4fun58]

It's about marking her and letting her know she's your woman. Plain and simple.

[JayCas]

Dont try to speak for men as a whole. You're really bad at it. My wife and I both love cumming in and on each other. Reveling in our partner's most intimate sexual and vulnerable expression of love and knowing no one else in the world gets to experience that expression. Her wetness and my cum are the tangible signs of that expression and how much pleasure we take in our partner's orgasm. There's certainly "territorial" aspects in play on both of our parts as well. Secretly wearing your partner's cum when going out and doing things during the day is a hell of a lot hotter, personal, and intimate than wearing a friggin ring. It's got nothing to do with porn. It's about love and intimacy.

[s3tupMayne]

I think that cumming on a girl isn't really about showing off your territory but more about showing sexual worship. I know that's another weird word, but honestly I can't think of a better one. It's showing that you are willing to give your body to the other person's sensuality and that's really really hot.

Like I'm going to write a sort of sexually explicit answer but hopefully this will explain how I see it...

Imagine if you were alone masturbating and you were extremely horny and dripping wet. Then your boyfriend walks in looks you dead in the eyes and you're like "oh snap you were not supposed to see this" and you get really nervous. Then without you saying anything he tells you to keep going, he walks over to you and holds you down, and eats you out until you come. And then after you're done, you see him lick his lips and suck on your fingers.

Without a doubt you'd be like "oh damn I'm pretty glad he walked in" lol

That's what I mean by sexual worship and that's what it's like cumming on a girl. It's showing that you give yourself to the other person's sex and honestly it's extremely hot. Not to get too graphic but I think seeing anybody girl's juices on the guy or the guy's juices on the girl is visually appealing just by itself on top of being very hot hah.

I think the reason why he came up with the "marking his sexual territory" answer is because whenever you speak about this idea to girls, they always go "yea sure w/e but why" and it's the only thing that a lot of people can come up with. It's hard to logically explain your instinctual drives sometimes and it honestly took me a lot of pondering before I came up with this answer (which isn't exactly very scientific but it's as good as I can explain it).

If you feel up to it, try tasting some of his come that lands on you, that'll send him on a trip...

(And please I know this answer is very sexual but I mean it's the nature of the question, I tried to be as not-creepy as possible, I swear)

[Asker]

Pretty hot, dude. Lol but yeah, that makes a lot of sense.

[38rakia38]

I heard the same thing from a guy friend of mine many years ago when I had the same question.

I think it depends on the guy personally, in some cases it's probably psychological, a thrill of some kind. I agree with Meedo in any case.

I've been cummed on plenty of times, frankly, I enjoy it. Whether it's territorial or some psychological thing buried in a man's subconscious from the time of our ancestors.

[Meedo]

I think we guys think like that but we don't express it in the way he said it. It is the same for swallowing. One wants the girl to take his fluid and make it a part of her in some way . Weather he puts it on your face, in your p**** / ass, or that you swallow it , it is just the man trying to fill you with his mark. Pretty animalistic and instinctive but hey.. that's men. What are you upset about exactly?

[Asker]

No, I'm not upset about any part of it. I was just wondering if other people like cumming on girls for the same reason.