Masturbating does nothing for me?

Seriously, it does not turn me on in the slightest. My guy can do the exact same thing I'm very turned on, but if I do it, nothing. He guided my hands, it still did nothing except when I felt him. So instead of being in post-orgasmic bliss, I'm feeling like crap cause I can't even please myself. Help?
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I told him, though it didn't do much good. He basically just said "Kay". P*rn is out of the question; I wouldn't like him looking at it and I'm not a hypocrite. Main reason why I want to is I am unable to finish. At all. And I've heard masterbaiting helps with that.
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Most Helpful Guys

  • If it doesn't turn you on the don't do it.

    It may be popular but it's not mandatory.

    Unless you're saying you WANT to. There can be many concepts involved.

    Stress - kills the mood quite quickly

    Depression - can make things more difficult

    These are only two examples. Sometimes thinking, perhaps about him or looking at a picture.

    I say that because his presences seems to play a major part in your pleasure.

    Regardless of all this, it's not your fault. Please don't blame yourself.

    I can't say anything that will guarantee that you feel better. But have you tried discussing it with him?

  • This means that it is not about anything physical (because if it was, your boyfriend's hand wouldn't do anything either). It is a psychological issue (or at least it seems to be one).

    A possible reason is that the thought of masturbation might not be as much of a turn-on as your boyfriend's hand touching you. (A thing you can do is to raise your level of imagination. Pure touching is almost never as enjoyable as fantasizing at the same time. Try and think about your boyfriend while you masturbate, or imagine that your hand is his hand, or if you have any fantasies, may be think about one of them. It might help.)

Most Helpful Girls

  • wait until you are horny b 4 doing it. that might help. you are having a bad problem because if I couldn't mbate id probably die from frustration being as I'm not a slut but if I'm horny a girls got to get some.

  • have you tried watching p*rn or anything like that? maybe you need more then just yourself to get turned on and p*rn might give you that little push that you need haha

    • What is a masterbaiter...someone to go fishing with me? (:

    • taster rofl

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  • Get your man over there and tell him to do his job!

  • Have you tried masturbating to p*rn? Or the image of someone you wanna sleep with?

    That's kind of weird.

  • doing it wrong

  • Try having his fingers in your anus, get him to kiss you then start masturbating, it's a big turn on, it works wonders.

  • You need to get Horny first. That why people watch p*rn. Then you'll be in the mood and should be able to masturbate.

  • You've probably got to stimulate your imagination more. It's always exciting to have someone else do it on us, because that brings in an external element... and all the feelings involved.

    Like the RedHeadedGoddess, I too think p*rn could make a vital difference. Only thing is, you need to treat it as some fairlytale, and not allow it to cause guilt, believe it is infidelity or whatever. Why not talk to your guy and explain to him exactly what you told the rest of us? This isn't very strange; younger women are yet to hit their sexual peak; and this h appens in their 30s and 40s. So don't get too tense about this. Try out some other solution instead...

  • Seriously, p*rn does wonders. Maybe you need to work on using your imagination too!