Masturbation is never enough anymore?

Question

I am single with no mate and no desire to have booty calls. Masturbation is my only outlet. But lately it's been ineffective. Or at least not as effective as I would like. 

I have upgraded my vibrator twice, going for a third model. Watched porn and tried different positions. It isn't working. It's not like I'm NOT horny or having orgasms it's just not as mindblowing or it takes FOREVER (last night like over an hour).

I did have a LDR about 2 years ago and our Skype sessions were so hot. I haven't had orgasms like that since. 

What could be wrong and does anyone have advice on how to improve this?

Intraluminal · Accepted Answer

You answered your own question in part. I hate to be sexist, but for many women (and men too) there needs to be some relationship in order to enjoy sex. When you had a relationship the sex (through masturbation) was good. As the relationship became mo=wa nd more if a distant memory, so did your sexual satisfaction. I suggest you find some sort of relationship that meets your sexual needs even if it remains solely expressed through masturbation.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Maybe try to restrain from masturbating for a while. Then it will build up, and will be better when you do it.

Maybe try getting back to the roots. Instead of amping it up with a new vibrator and porn, try to go oldschool. Take your time, be patient, and savor it.

mooky06 · Accepted Answer

I think it's normal to feel like masturbating isn't like "the real deal" it's just fingers, or some form of sex toy. It's not a guy who you desire to fuck his brains out. Like just momentarily I don't blame you. You just need to find someone to have that. If you're fine with casual flings seek to that, if you want.

rescuemyheart · Accepted Answer

Sometimes you just need to feel warm skin against your skin and lips agaibst your lips and neck. Just human contact. Masturbating is supposed to be a snack and you're tryna have it for dinner. Then bitchin you ain't full.

lollipopsicle · Accepted Answer

It is really hard to masturbate unless there is a guy on a phone walking me through it. Even then, sometimes I don't get wet at all.  Some people need the physical being there to get them off.

AndyOh · Answer

Try a butt plug with the vibrator. Oh, also try and find a boyfriend by getting out and doing things you like to do.

reptocarl · Answer

Yeah, get a partner

prada16 · Answer

I honestly can never cum masterbaiting. If it feels comfortable with you there's nothing wrong with a little help. I mean I never had sex except for with my boyfriend but you're over 21 so maybe go hit up the clubs