Most painful sex position and pain with first few times having sex?

[Anonymous]

I just lost my virginity a few weeks ago and haven't had sex again. It was doggy style and it hurt me a lot. I am also pretty sure that he fully popped my cherry because I bled a fair amount and I was in pain for several days until it went away. Wasn't the best experience. What I want to know is if sex hurts again the next few times? My friend told me it gradually hurts less every time you have sex but I would think that if you fully popped your cherry the first time it shouldn't hurt anymore the second time? I know that sometimes it only partially breaks the first time or maybe not at all and that would be why it still hurts after the first time? Did it hurt you the second or third time as well and if so had your cherry been fully popped already? (Or if you are a guy substitute the "you" for "her") Also, what sex positions are most painful for the first few times? Thanks.

[sumina7]

It was painful for you because you were raped.

From the comment below, I see that you said no and he did not care. He forced himself and that by any definition is rape. He did not care that you were not ready. He did not care that this was your first time and needed to be handled gently.

Are you in a long-term relationship? Then, you need to think carefully about the future. Is it a casual encounter? Then better to stay away.

You need to work on your self respect, confidence and self-esteem. Don't allow yourself to be raped again.

[Asker]

It was a casual encounter and he is not a part of my life. The thing is that I really have a good relationship with myself. I am a very confident girl and that is why I am holding up okay. I know that if I had not been drunk this wouldn't have happened because I wouldn't have gotten so close to him. I just feel sad that I lost it to somebody who means nothing against my will.

[sumina7]

Dont look at it as losing something. You wanted to have a good time and intimacy and it did not go well. Treat this as a learning experience.

[moloz]

The most painful thing in sex was blowjob and teeth. There was another with jumping too hard on my knees... I couldn't walk for few days. Everybody made fun of me, even her. :/

Is he "big"? You probably don't know, lol. Anyway, penis size isn't really the issue. You might simply have a very tight vagina (which is very good, in my male opinion) and/or he didn't excite you enough. Just tell him to take it easier and do the other things before sex, like giving you oral first.

[Asker]

I saw him naked beforehand but he definitely wasn't tiny. Maybe it also hurt because I didn't really want it to happen? I definitely am not loose though I'm not in a new bed every night and I haven't been fingered that often.

[moloz]

You didn't want it to happen? :)

[Asker]

I said no and he didn't care.

[moloz]

I'm not going to state the obvious then. You should know for yourself where the problem is.

[Asker]

I know. I just feel like something was taken away from me that I can't get back, so I am hoping that since things happened like this and I also had a lot of physical pain the first time, the next time (probably in the distant future) will be enjoyable and I know it will be something I consented to.

[moloz]

.. the girls here that already replied should obviously answer better than me. If I may ask, what happened to him?

[Crimson_Petal]

It can take a few tries to fully get used to having sex and any pain to subside. I and most of my friends agree that by the 2nd or 3rd time it stops being painful or uncomfortable and starts to feel pleasurable.

Missionary is probably the least painful, girl on top is good because you are in control the depth of penetration, and doggy for the first few times can actually be the most painful. It allows you him to penetrate deeply and the angle can be more uncomfortable if you've never had sex before.

[Cosmogirl22]

Might not be relaxed if you're on top. Just do it Missionary and relax.

[Cosmogirl22]

Just saying, you don't want to be stressing or concentrating on what you're foing.

[Momamo]

What happened to you happened to me too. Doggy style hurts me a lot 'coz it was my second sex experience that time too. Now that you've mentioned it, i think second time hurts a lot to me too, maybe because the first penetration didn't really get in that deep.

Sorry for my English , i am not really good at the language.

[Anonymous]

doggy style does make the girl tighter and you've just lost your virginity so it would hurt more. stick to missionary until it gets easier

[Anonymous]

You would have been most relaxed doing it Missionary. Next time try it Missionary and see what happens.