My 9 year old daughter caught me and my boyfriend?!

I honestly though she was asleep. I would never have had sex if I knew she was awake. But my boyfriend and I were having sex in my room and she came in to tell me she had a nightmare and she was scared and I was on my boyfriend. I don't know how to explain to her what we were doing. He's not her father so its even harder. PLEASE HELP! And don't troll.
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Time to explain the sex thing. So don't tell het about the boyfriend not being the father, if she asks simply say no he isn't.

    Or else just make something up ( I had asn itch, it was an accident, doing what?, something grown ups do ).

    On the plus side I think she forgot about her nightmare, but on the downside what has been seen can not be unseen.

    • I do not know about girls elsewhere, but here in Oklahoma girls as young as 8 have had sex and know about sex and masturbation, so it all depends on the girl. If her mom is having sex in the living room, I am guessing the daughter has had her own sex education at school or somewhere else

    • That's Oklahoma for you.

    • I live in Moore, Oklahoma! My daughter is so innocent though! She can't know about sex. I didn't.

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  • Well... you need to have the talk, or else you're modeling that a) it's okay to have sex regardless of the circumstances (ie if you don't explain that she's too young and all), and b) it's okay to hide it

Most Helpful Girl

  • you should just explain to her what sex is. I knew what sex was when I was very young. just explain it to her so she won't worry or freak or be confused. good luck.

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  • Two things;

    1- give her the 'chat' at the age of 9 I knew what sex was.

    2- invest in a lock

  • What you and him were doing was having pleasure time together. If she presses you for more info, that's when you say you'll tell her more when she is older.

  • what did she actually see ?

    • She saw us both without clothes on, I was riding him. I pretty much jumped off and grabbed a blanket. I don't know what to do.

    • if she saw you riding him, tell her that's what people do when they want to have a baby and tell her that's what you were doing, trying to make a baby so that your daughter could have a sibling. Making sex into a procreative act is the best thing you can tell your daughter so she does not view sex as just for pleasure but an act with responsibility attached to it

    • or you could tell your daughter that when adults ( who are dating and want to get married ) they sometimes take off all their clothes and wrestle for fun

  • Once, my boyfriend at the times daughter walked in..we were original and said we were playing twister..lol. Don't give her the talk.