My boyfriend is aggressive during blowjobs?

Recently, whenever I'm giving my boyfriend a blowjob, he'll have me sit between his legs with his legs spread open, and he'll grab my head and thrust his dick in and out of my mouth without me moving my head much. He does this every time now. It's really hot at first, but I don't understand why he does this? It's like he's doing all the work and I don't get to do anything besides swallow at the end. Isn't the point of a blowjob for the guy to sit back and have the girl do all the work?
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Most Helpful Girls

  • hmm I would not be okay with that becasue then you can't control how it goes in your mouth or your limts. Don't get me wrong I give my boyfriend at least 2 a day and sometimes he does move my head but that's usually becasue we found a spot that he wants me to go back to. so I get the point and he stops and go back to it. no facefucking for me though. I actually think its kinda a jerk thing to do! tell him to sit down shut up and enjoy it. I'm very serious! I totally understand guys liking it and pretty much getting screwed with our mouth but boundaries have to happen. Honestl I think maybe you need to try working on your bj skills or listen and watch what he does with your head and take notes. it sounds like your not doing what he wants. NOT meant mean at all! just take control :) good luck

  • Does this bother you? Are you uncomfortable with this situation? There are no specific rules for sex such as "boys must allow girls to give blow job and NOT do any work whatsoever". It sounds to me like you would rather have your boyfriend lay back and let you to the blow job. You should try to talk to him about it and say something like "_____________, whenever I give you a blow job, you always do the work for me by shoving my head down on your _________. I don't like that because I am the one giving you the blow job, and I feel like you're doing all the work. Just sit back and relax, okay?"

Most Helpful Guys

  • for some it is about laying back for some there is a turn on in sort of being able to control the situation a bit more. I imagine he learned this behavior from p*rnography because that aggressive nature is somewhat common in p*rn.

    If you don't like it just let him know. maybe say you like it to a point but that you don't like too much of it. just talk to him and express your concerns or desires if you feel strongly enough about the matter

  • There's a difference between receiving a blow job, and facefucking your girlfriend.

    He's doing the facefucking.

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  • I prefer it that way too.

    For some people the point is to 'sit back and have the girl do all the work'.

    For some people, the point is to screw her mouth.

  • A BJ is often about power and submission to power.

  • "It's like he's doing all the work and I don't get to do anything besides swallow at the end. "

    That's a win-win situation in my book.

  • that's part of the thrill we get sweetiepie , it has to do with a feeling of penetration . although your way is pretty good to especially the swallow part . WOW

  • Everyone is different. Some like to be active participants, while others like to just sit back and enjoy.

  • my boyfriend does this too!
    i know my bjs aren't bad but it makes me feel terrible. my boyfriend won't start thrusting but will grab my head and take control and what he does is way too fast and hard for me to ever do on my own. makes me feel like i don't do it right and now i hate to give them to him