My boyfriend always want me to go down on him but he won't return the favor?

Hummm odd question...but that about sums it up, he wants oral but I won't give it to him Because he refuses to do the same for me. Doesn't sound cruel to me and its not like I've never don't it for him, when we started dating I did it for him almost daily and it dwindled to wear not I only do it on special occasions. We have been together for 4 years and he's never even tried once, he's never done it at all ever and he won't try...ugh what to do? Why won't he even try? My vagina isn't gross lol he just says vaginas in general disgust him :-/ kinda hurts my feelings that he thinks I'm so gross
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  • What the hell lol. If he is so disgusted by a vagina like that he shouldn't even want to put his penis in it. If you're keeping it clean which I'm sure you are there should be no problem with you, it's all him. Maybe he thinks it's submissive on his part to give you oral so he doesn't like it, maybe he's intimidated by it because he's never done it and not sure what to do, or maybe he's just plain lazy lol. I think you're right to have hurt feelings. Tell him it hurts you that he is not willing to even try it once. If he says it smells and tastes bad (probably just a lame excuse) tell him you'll change your diet to make it smell/taste better and if he still won't do it then dump him.

  • That is sum bullsh*t ! If he thinks vagina's are gross he may need to study on his own sexual preference, and as far as him wanting head and not giving none back is not right at all nor should be tolerated. It's not all about him it's about you too.

    I have been in your position before with my (ex-wife) and I stopped having sex with her all together. The way I see it if you don't care to satisfy me why should I care to satisfy you.

    To me the whole point of having sex is to fill your partners needs if you( won't )do that then there is really no reason to have sex

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  • Oral sex is a beautiful thing, & if he can't see that, he has problems. The key to truly enjoying giving oral is truly enjoy giving pleasure. You should love oral because it brings your partner pleasure. He is not looking at vaginas in the right way, he needs a new outlook. You need to have a serious talk with him, & if doesn't stop being so selfish, maybe he's not worth keeping.

  • 4 years? I can't imagine how you can still be with him duh! He sounds selfish and shallow.Why would he wants you to go down on him but refused to go down on you? Another thing is if he thinks that vagina is gross tell him no need to have sex ! .I don't see reason for him not to go down on you since you guys have been together for quite long time tho.

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  • Your boyfriend sounds like a grade "A" whiny b**** who wants to have his cake and eat it too. I'm surprised you'll still do it for special occasions. Assert yourself, woman!

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  • Get rid of him and find a muffin-munching expert. If you are willing, close by(within several hundred miles) and don't mind my age, I'll go down on you until you can't walk for two days without you giving me back anything in return! Not even hugs or kisses!

    Oh DO try me dammit! I consider myself a master of the art! Sixth degree black belt with endorsements! Only a few others are of higher level than I am...those guys are Grand Masters.

    Oops, I am bragging and should not do that.

  • Just tell him that if he doesn't give you oral, it's not fair for him to expect oral. And tell him that him avoiding doing it hurts your feelings. It really isn't fair for him to want oral and not expect to have to give in return. Especially after 4 years.

  • any "straight" man that is disgusted by a vagina is a latent homosexual

    • any girl that is disgusted by penis is lesbian.

    • that's true

  • You're in the right here, if he won't do it to you don't feel obligated to do it to him. Do it if you like doing it and you're comfortable with it but if you aren't or if you think he's not doing enough then don't. Fair is fair. Tell him to be a man, suck it up, and do it for his girl.

  • This guy is a giant douche.

  • Eh..he is outside the range of my understanding for I am the reverse..I would be fine with not receiving oral...but when I wish to give..I want a female that wants to receive (I don't mean 24/7...just that likes it routinely if not daily).. This isn't really any of my business...but...I guess my opinion would be sharply different if: he wanted you to go down on him yet would not go down on you...or...going down on him was something he did not care about..same as he did not care about going down on you...only you can decide this issue...I made the decision years & years ago that my lover was going to like receiving...personal preference...(:

  • If he doesn't care about your pleasure, dump him ! OR you could just stop giving it to him.

    • <3 Oral Rocks!

  • That's too bad... I have your problem as well.

    I will ALWAYS go down on a girl but I damn near have to beg them for a blowjob... not that vaginas are gross, but penises are usually MUCH cleaner

  • Do you shave around your vagina

    • I don't grow pubic hair or hair in my arm pits...lol like seriously.none at all I'm bald

    • Well I don't know why he wouldn't want to go down on you but I guess everyone has somthing differnt lol

  • perhaps he's just stingy. I don't know why, I love going down on my girlfriend

  • Sounds like he's selfish. In my opinion, a partner that only wants to recieve is a partner I'd rather not have. The fact that he won't even try shows that he doesn't about pleasing you at all. Sounds like he has the ole 1990's "You better get yours before I get Mine" mentality. I hate to say this since you've been together for so long, but you need to find you another man who isn't a little biotch about pleasing his woman! Seriously! There are millions of men out there that would love to please you. Like Katt Williams Said "Stop getting wid deez Bitch Niggas" lol

  • Either he does it or kick his lame ass to the curb. What a douche IMO

  • Not fair. I can't give and not receive... why should you?

    Why would a vagina disgust a straight man anyways?

    • "Why would a vagina disgust"...isn't that the $500,000,000,000,000,000 question?

  • Go for sixty-nine if not he just going to have live without oral.