My boyfriend doesn't mind having sex when I'm on my period? Wtf?

[Ashheart]

Me and my boyfriend are both 17 and have been together for 6 months. We only started having sex about a week ago ( we lost our virginity to eachother ) anyways today we were having sex and my period just came. I got up straight away and saw the blood on the condom and I got really ashamed and scared that he'd tell me it's disgusting and to get off etc. But he actually kept kissing me and telling me he doesn't mind if there's blood that he loves me and that doesn't bother him. I was really upset because I thought I turned him off , like I was turned off myself :/ I don't believe him when he says he wasn't turned off like? How could that not have turned him off.. he didn't mind to keep going but I didn't want to so we didn't. I went home really upset that I bled on his dick like that :( I feel I ruined everything :/

[EpicDweeb]

There are two possible reasons for this, and I honestly don't know which one is more reasonable. First, everyone has somewhat of a "gross" factor. When sexually aroused, most people lose their sense of "that's gross," and are willing to do things they would normally never do under other circumstances. The second option, which, keep in mind is a very real possibility, he genuinely loves you and wants to make you happy. I had a girlfriend who asked me if I'd be willing to have sex with her on her period (we planned to wait until we got married) so it was mostly just a hypothetical, and at first I thought it sounded gross, but apparently it has a way of relieving cramps and such, and can make a period go by faster. So after she talked about it for a while I began to think, "yeah, I could do that if it'd be helpful." Again, I don't know what the reason behind your boyfriend's behavior was, but I honestly believe you didn't ruin anything. He seems like a really good guy.

[Red_Arrow]

Your period is a regularly occurring, normal event. A lot of men are mature enough to understand that and not be put off by it. And there is no reason to avoid sex while on your period. You are just preventing both of you from getting enjoyment you both like for about one fifth of each and every month. That does not make sense. He is smart enough to understand that.

If you ruined everything, it was not by starting your period, but rather by making a big deal out of it and stopping the sex.

[MeghanL]

Have you considered that he might be telling the truth? That it doesn't bother him?

Mu husband doesn't have issues with it either, although we are careful to put down a towel on the bed & afterwards he sometimes wisecracks about being stabbed in the crotch.

On a side note, you are taking precautions, right? A very good way to screw up your life is to become pregnant out of wedlock at your age.

[RaeSheBae]

Damn girl, it's ok.
Don't feel disgusted, it's going to happen soon or later... If he says it's ok, it really is...
Is normal to feel uncomfortable while making love and being on your period.
I don't like it either...
When you on birth control it will be easier to know when your period will come and you won't experience this situation ever again...
It happens don't beat yourself up...

[Watermelon15]

You obviously didn't ruin anything when he is like the best boyfriend in the world a doesn't want you to feel embarassed so he just keeps going. If he minds, then he wouldn't have been able to keep going - so believe me, he doesn't mind. I get that you are embarassed, i would be too - but you're boyfriend is sweet. Keep him close and forget about it. Nothing's ruined at all.

[samhradh_leannan]

My boyfriend and I have sex during my period all the time. It's not a big deal. We just put a towel down and hop in the shower after.

[Naruto_Uzumaki]

Calm down, there's no need to be upset. Some guys really don't care, relax if you still feel ashamed about text me 😊

[katiesmuff]

Calm down! Nothing wrong with period sex and lots of both men and women have what we call period sex.

[Stevie_I_Wonder]

Let me just say this every girl has her secrets and whatever happens on our periods stays on our period. Your not alone in the I'd had sex on my period category

[Tanuron]

I never cared, many dont. Had "period sex" with everyone I been with. Nothing to be ashamed, embarrased or digusted by. Just a natural process anyways as all know.

[ObviouslyBored]

My b/f will have sex with me too. It bothers me i'll do it though. The only thing he hates is when he gets it on his shirt.

[AndyOh]

You are over thinking the whole blood thing. Sure it is a little embarrassing for you, but for him, and many men, it is just blood and it does wash off. If it bothers you, then be mindful of when you might be starting, if you can know that. Otherwise, if he is OK with it, then you did not ruin anything.
He seems like a nice guy so I would not worry about it.

[TruthOfCoral]

some guys are squeemish but most guys aren't and won't care

[masterfree]

Period sex is fine.

[slatyb]

He sounds like a good boyfriend. Why should it bother him? It's totally natural. It doesn't bother me. I've given head in the shower when a woman was menstruating. I've had period sex more than I can count. We just put a towel down to protect the bedding.

[abundantlyrich]

He already told u the truth. Why are you acting skeptical? The insecurity is a turn off.

[bg1987]

Some girls don't mind either.

[Katie2244]

I've never known a guy to be bothered by it

[Nadzzz]

A man who hates his woman's blood... I would rather not call him a man
consider yourself lucky

[italian_stallion]

oh ya? what about poop? you like that too?

[Nadzzz]

@italian_stallion hhaha you're one of them? Poop and blood are the same? ok haha then your veins are filled with poop/shit

[ShaeNielson]

@italian_stallion A "man" who can't handle that his woman bleeds is nothing but a little boy who does not deserve her.

[italian_stallion]

how about a women who doesn't do whatever her man wants her to do is not a women? would that make sense?

[Nadzzz]

@italian_stallion you're a dominant? Then find a submissive female Pretty simple

[BillieJean1070]

A man's degree of horniness is not tied to you period.

[Listening5]

Dont worry about it, good thing u asked. See some couples dont mind this while others do, its really depends on the both of you.
Having sex while the girl is on her period is not bad, could be a little messy sometimes while other times it won't even be a problem. So just talk to him and if u feel confortable then go ahead, if not then its perfectly fine.

[TheWantToKnowGuy]

Doesn't sex during period make it hurt even more?

[ShaeNielson]

I don't know, maybe because he's not an asshole?

[badboy666]

If you are close enough to let him into your body, you should be close enough to believe him when he says something.

I don't get turned on by period sex, but it does not horrify me.

In the end, sex is sex, and his dick is going to get your bodily fluids all over it anyway, so it ain't that big of a deal if some of the fluids are red.

[litty]

Why not do it?
It alleviates women's cramps.
That's close to unconditional love you have.
Might want to reflect once there is doo doo on the dick tho. 😂

[Bleepasaurus_RexEwww]

Chill lol some guys mind but your boyfriend obviously doesn't mind... it's no big deal. Be happy he's not an asshole.

[cutemz]

I didn't know some guys like that , ew.. I wouldn't do it with my period on... More pain

[Ben38]

if he says he is fine with it then he is. and you ruined nothing. it's okay to have sex during the periode. no big deal.
if you don't like it, then of course don't do it.
but i'm sure it really doesn't bother him.

[mT2359]

You should make it clear to your Boyfriend. Having sex while on your period is not ok with you. If he can't respect your discomfort, he probably doesn't deserve you.

[mT2359]

A man likes my opinion. A woman doe not. Why no reason given. How can I explain myaelf, what's wrong?

[samhradh_leannan]

I am not the girl who downvoted you, but I think she took your response the wrong way. You are saying that if a girl doesn't feel comfortable with period sex, her partner should accept that. But it may have sounded like you were saying that girls should not be okay with period sex, or that period are is bad. I think your answer could be interpreted that way because the OP is not saying that she doesn't like period sex, she is just worried that her boyfriend was grossed out. I hope that made sense.

[jakeofalltrades]

if he said he doesn't mind, he doesn't mind

[ihserxv]

nah we don't give a fuck lol

[Dantheman101]

Guys are not as bothered as girls about this matters

[goldenqueen122]

damn that's bad but I would feel disgust if I was sex while on my period your boyfriend is a gentle man though

[whynot92]

It's natural and not disgusting.. People are just making a huge mess around it but it's plainly stupid. He was genuinely not minding

[italian_stallion]

it's not natural. disgusting sob

[batman1994]

I think guy needs to continue his job..

[merang]

no its natural, so dont be sorry. i think 70% boys wouldn't mind with it. so keep going...

[Anonymous]

My ex didn't care. He would finger me too. We just would put a dark towel down and I would always be on the bottom. If you care however then don't do it. I didn't mind it.

[Anonymous]

Some guys like that.

[Anonymous]

You know, my girlfriend feels the same when she is on her period, even if I don't mind, she does, so all I have to do is get her relaxed and feel nice... There has been times I even got down to her, and gave her oral.
Disgusting? Well depends on pov. I love my girlfriend so I don't mind, I wouldn't do that to just anyone.

[Anonymous]

Dude take anxiety pill and shut up. Yes most men will not like it and shame you but he didn't. so shut up and be thankful you have a man that appreciates your body and what it does. Grow up a little or don't have a relationship

[samhradh_leannan]

If "most" men will shame a woman because of her period, that's pretty sad.

[Opinion Owner]

@samhradh_leannan dude the world is sad but its what we live in

[samhradh_leannan]

If that's really what "most" guys are like, I'm even better at picking decent guys than I realized. But honestly, I think the male gender deserves a little more credit. I can't believe that "most" guys would be THAT cruel and ignorant.

[Opinion Owner]

@samhradh_leannan well most guys don't care and yeah your really good at picking good guys because most will act like they care only to get some thang thang. They will even go as far as to have a relationship have plenty of sex and then fine a really good excuse to dump you or cause you to cheat by being such an asshole or very whiney or wimpy

[samhradh_leannan]

You have a very poor opinion of men.

[Anonymous]

I've never been bothered by it. I think girls care more than guys do about the blood.