Sleeping together is very intimate, and sometimes forces you to become privy to certain bodily functions that you might not feel ready to share with the other person... thus it can take a while before people feel ready to sleep together. Maybe he just isn't prepared for that level of intimacy yet.
Maybe he really is concerned that if he stays over he won't get a good sleep, or it will interfere with his other obligations (work, school, etc).
You can't really know unless you talk to him about it.
We go to the same university. So we almost have the same schedule. He said I'm not the sharing kind of guy! But it makes me feel cheap when we just have sex and he leaves. I'm not his booty call :\
Well, tell him how it makes you feel, and see if you can come up with a compromise.
So, what happened? I'm in a new relationship and same situation now. I asked him when I could spend the night and he said "we'll talk about it." Guys are just weird now. He does have to wake up early for work, and I have to drive 2 hours to school, so I could leave when he does. I don't get what the big deal is. His friends live right next to him and they can see everything, but they already know we're dating, so that shouldn't be an issue.
Mine is fine now. He wants me to stay. He wasn't used to it before. I'm sure yours will get used to it soon. But don't push him. In my case I just left a couple of times and the next time he was like why are you leaving? So I stayed!
okay, thanks. I'm glad yours worked out for you! :)
True, learning to sleep together and have a good rest is difficult...but this guy is way too strange. Try getting a bigger bed!
to be honest I'd rather try and get another guy instead of another bed. This isn't the only thing that's wrong with him unfortunately. and this thing alone is a big deal for me. I've spent the night with other guys, even on a single bed, but we never had any problems. I don't know why this one is so weird.
If he's never stayed, how does he know you don't let him sleep?
What happens if you have sex during the afternoon on a weekend? Does he stay and take a nap with you?
I have stayed at his place before. But then he told me you can't stay. In the afternoon once he fell asleep while watching a movie, but that doesn't count. I think telling to my face that I can't stay, is weird!
It may not be a big deal, but it could be. You'll need to discuss it further. Personally, I'm a huge fan of falling asleep naked with the person I've just had sex with. And quite possibly waking up to more sex. :)
Me too :\ To be honest sometimes I just have sex for the hugging part that comes after and he's taking that away from me. This is kind of a deal breaker for me.
Chip in for a futon at his place. You spend the night there, he sleeps in peace--problem solved.
The bed is big enough! He says it's about his privacy and space and stuff! This is what I don't like.
Um, you're in HIS HOME. If he wants privacy and space in HIS OWN HOME, he's pretty much entitled. You can make a *graceful* request that he accommodate you, but that's about it.
That's kinda the problem! He doesn't want me in his home? He just wants me to drop by a couple of hours to have sex and then get up and leave? To me that seems a little insensitive. I love falling asleep with someone I've just had sex with and it's important for me. But I don't want to ask him because I know he doesn't want to and it's a deal breaker for me. He was begging me to become his girlfriend and now he's kicking me out of the bed!
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Of course I let him sleep. I don't know what his problem is!
I can only go by what you say he says! lol
Lol you're right! But what he says makes no sense. He said you're taking my space and I told him you snore like a drowning elephant! haha! :D very mature relationship you know! :\
maybe he's embarrassed because he wets the bed? or snores loudly?
He snores a bit. But I'm the one who should be complaining not him.
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