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My boyfriend expects blow jobs when I'm on my period?
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He always gets upset and says I should be willing to blow him if I can't have sex with him? My period only lasts 4 or 5 days... I don't think it's too much to ask for him to just wait. Does anyone else have this problem? Or if you're a guy do you expect this... if so, why?
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15 17As a guy I still have sex anyway
We girls feel like absolute crap during this time of are lives
As a guy, i would wait it out until she's happy too. I do not know if other guys think like that. revolting.
Do you expect him to go down on you normally?
Do I expect it? No. Does he do it? Yes.
If he stopped doing it, would it bother you?
For 4 days, once a month? No.
OK so let's say he couldn't use his dick 5 days out of 30... every month. And you happened to be super horny... you wouldn't be upset if he didn't want to go down on you? I have never met a woman who wouldn't mentally or even physically punish a man for refusing not to service her when she wanted it.
... he's not a fucking slave? If he can't fuck me then he can't fuck me. If he doesn't *feel* like going down on me then so be it? Even if I WAS upset about it, which I might be, I have no right to demand it from him... that's borderline abuse.
Exactly Asker!
It is abuse. I agree. But that doesn't stop the vast majority of women from making a guy sleep on a couch or some other passive aggressive abuse, because he shoots her down. But I don't see anywhere in your post where you stated that your guy "demanded" you go down on him.
I'd never do something like that... Ok.
So much for doing something to make him happy during those times ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ , you can't be miserable the whole time on your period, and you can have period sex, so I take it that you normally don't like to give bjs, what if it was the other way around? Would he take care of you if he couldn't? If he would then I don't see a problem with it
I feel like shit the 2 days before my period until the last day of my period. And, generally, I still have sex with him the 2 days prior. I'm not a sex robot. My job isn't to get on my knees when ever he wants me to. But, yes, I do enjoy blow jobs when I'm not on my period. Men really underestimate the toll a menstrual cycle can have on a woman. It's different for everyone.
I know all to well about periods since I was married 17 years and also have 3 daughters so I've been experiencing the the other side of it longer than you have had them so I know how it affects different people, there are good days and bad so you obviously don't want to do anything while on it , so I guess he has to resort to jerking off I guess during that whole time, I'm just glad my wife at the time didn't care if she was on it or not
Periods vary dude. All women are different, and lots can't have period sex at all. But Asker has a right to choose anyway.
Yeah, be glad then I don't know what to tell you. Period sex is disgusting and a dick is the last thing on my mind while I'm fucking bleeding on myself.
@SovereignessofVamps I have known that longer than both of you have but sometimes couples do things that they don't feel like doing when in a relationship , really depends on how you feel about them, I'm sure you still go to work on your period even though you're not up to it or women wouldn't be in the work force being out so much
It really boils down to how do you really feel about that person , we are always going to do things we don't really like to do to satisfy the other
I think it really boils down to how your partner feels about you as a woman. Yes I HAVE to go to work while I'm on my period, even though I really don't feel like. So why would he add to my stress by borderline demanding a blow job? A massage and a nice cuddle would benefit him a lot more... men only think of themselves.
But it sounds like you're only thinking of yourself from what I've read, anyway him demanding it will never work, you have to want to do it and you don't do much of what you don't like to do so I guess he is out of luck in this relationship with more than just sex, you'll learn later in life that it's a give and take type of thing with relationships, always compromises and it's takes work to keep it going
I've been in this relationship for long enough to know how it works. I know what give and take is and it's always required for a healthy relationship. However this is where I draw the line. When I'm on my period I just want a little compassion and understanding. It isn't something I asked for and I can't help it. And it only lasts 4 days!!! 4, that's not even a whole work week. So I mean... he can wait. It's really not killing him. We might have a baby one day and that'll put me out for 6 weeks (probably longer), then what? he needs to grow up a little in this aspect.
Yeah I agree everyone has their limits and yes he will have even longer waits if you ever have kids so hopefully he will be understanding by then
If he doesn't care she hurts, he's only thinking about himself.
@SovereignessofVamps yeah it sure sounds like it
he is so selfish
He shouldn't expects anything in sexual ways. Honestly can't he wait 4 days? he can stillmasturbing...