My boyfriend is disappointed I'm not a virgin?

So we were talking about something and he jokingly said "what would you know about it you're a virgin". So there was silence and I said I'm not. And he was a little sad and said "you're so innocent I don't want to believe that". He isn't a virgin and then after a few hours he was totally fine. But I am hurt that he reacted like that.
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Most Helpful Guys

  • No offense, but your BF was an idiot.
    Smart guys tend to make certain assumptions in the dating stage of a relationship, like understanding you have your own sexual history. To think otherwise is naive, at best. Secondly, no guy in their right mind wants to know your sexual history. It has no real place being brought up & discussed. Just like he's not going to be inclined to disclose his to you.
    He either gets over it & learns, or he can kick rocks. You did nothing wrong, don't think otherwise.

  • Reality: Men don't like the idea that other men have fucked you.

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  • I don't know it just sounds like he sees you as innocent so he got this idea in his head that you're a virgin and was disappointed that you're not.
    Seems like he got over it though, so I wouldn't worry about it.

    If you really want to know though, ask him if it's an issue You'd rather want to know sooner than later

  • He needs to get the fuck over it. And if he can't, that's his problem. He's not a virgin so why is he disappointed that you aren't one either? Makes no sense at all. Men constantly complain about double standards that women often have against men, well this is one that men often have against women.

    • Still his right to judge. So much hostility from your comment. Women can do what they wish but men have a right to judge

    • @dudeman: I never said he's not allowed to pass judgment. But if he's going to stay with her, then there's not much else he can do except deal with it. It's not like they can go back in time, unfortunately. My answer only seems hostile since I don't sugar coat everything like most other people on this website. This is only my brutally honest opinion.

    • No you used profanities and thats hostile. By saying its his problem sounded lime he should stay with her and just deal with being unhappy

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  • ask him the same question, and react the same he did. so that he can understand how it hurts... if he isn't a virgin he can't expect others to be

    • It won't be the same because men are not women.

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  • How long have you been dating?

  • Gotta love hypocrites.

  • Young guys can't handle women's sexuality. You have nothing to worry about.

    • No they were just led to believe they would find a princess

    • @dudeman, then those guys are idiots.

    • No they are human. Its a growing up process you love is conditional and frankly relationships are a bussiness deal.

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  • he should be proud basically

  • Life is full of disappointments. The sooner you jump over them, the sooner you start livin' again.

    Not everything always goes your way.

  • Its ok he just realized he's never going to love you fully. Like fairy tale love. Its life lots of men simply just lose interest in women when they find out their true nature

    • Why? I am very loving and kind to him.

    • Because you have given yourself to other men. you're damaged good basically. In a perfect world you would be a virgin. Thats his ideal and you're not it. He may be ok with going with you but if he could turn back the hands of time and meet you before he would.

    • Oh shut up, you are embarrassing yourself ;)

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  • Sounds like a double standard to me. Might be you should look some where else for a BF.

    • Lol sage advice

  • Sounds like a dumb situation.

  • Tell him to fuck off with his double standards.

  • That is his problem - and his alone. You have nothing to feel bad about, it doesn't make you any less worth not being a virgin.

    • Not as a person but she has less value as a women. If it werent so guys wouldn't care. Market value is down

    • No she doesn't thats bullshit. Only ignorant and old fashioned guys like you, who can think like that - and your type are not keepers. Market value is not down, it remains the same. A womans worth, is not based on how many dicks have entered her vagina. It depends on her as a person. Only a misogynist, objectifying bastard would judge a woman by her genitals. If no woman will fuck you, then poor you. But don't blame the woman who can actually have sex. @dudeman

    • No its what it is. I dont make the rules I just acknowledge them. All of what you said is feminist rehtoric which fails to view men as equals. Men have different biology and different wants. Deal with it. Also I said her value as a person is unchanged juat her value as a women

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