My boyfriend keeps telling me I've corrupted him (he means sexually)...yet I'm a virgin still..I don't get how

[ildskf2005]

He jokes around a lot...but I know he isn't joking because of his tone...he's not angry when he says it...just serious, but I don't know how I could be corrupting him, when I'm still a viegin, but he is not. He is actually celibate, and all we've done is make out in his bed, he initiates it...then we dry humped...again, he initiated it...I tried to remind him that he said he wants to slow down physically, but then he tells me that he can't control himself around me... And he is the one that put his hands in my pants and fingered me... I'm serious, I just sit there...and he starts at it...he is the one that even starts moving my hips to initiate momentum...I'm not blaming him...once he initiates, I comply and willingly participate, But how can I be the one corrupting him if he is initiating it...and by the way, he was the first guy I ever kissed too...so shouldn't it be the reverse..he's corrupting me? (although, no I would never say he is).

[LJHam]

Perhaps his choice of words in not accurate. I don't think he actually means 'corrupting'.

I'm curious about something here... when you two make out and start petting do either one of you end up climaxing? If this is not happening for him then after a while it will start to wear on him.

When you start making out he is going to get very excited no matter what. Him initiating stuff with you is a natural, instinctive attempt to try to get you to have sex. He wants it, period. He wants it badly. By fingering you, it's in hopes that you'll get turned on enough to want him just as much in return. Understand that if he's touching you but you aren't touching him (I'm talking no penetration, just petting) then he's gonna feel a little gypped. And THAT I think is what he means by corrupting, he's just using the wrong word. You're not corrupting him, you're giving him blue balls probably. Give that boy a handjob already. :-)

[ildskf2005]

I've already asked him about blue balls...he said that doesn't happen to him. He told me flat out that he does NOT want sex. He made me promise not to have sex with him...and this was very recent...after we did stuff... I'm confused as to what he wants because he says one thing and then does another.

[LJHam]

One BIG thing I recently learned when dealing with people in relationships, you gotta pay attention to what they say AND what they do. People are great at talking the talk, but don't always walk the walk. When actions don't match the words, you're gonna have problems with that person. Sounds like he's expecting you to keep him from having sex with you because in the heat of the moment he's gonna really want it. Probably doesn't feel like he's got total control over himself so you gotta do it for him.

[itslo]

Oh his body sure as hell wants sex. I think he just doesn't wanna be the one to corrupt you. He can't help himself when his around but mentally he doesn't wanna do it. But in the heat of the moment he will do it without thinking twice about it. That's why he made you promise.

[TheStupidPerson]

Your virgin? XD Your a fucking idiot.

[Anonymous]

Yea I would say he is. I would just shoot back with " well you're the one who just can't keep your hands to yourself" ;)

[MSamu3l]

It's called denial. Just go with it. He is probably having moral conflict about it all, but I doubt that will stop anything. It happened to me, though I didn't blame the girl, if any thing I would say I corrupted her, even though I wanted to stop, I couldn't. If it's disturbing you, just tell him to accept the fact that he enjoys your sessions and stop trying to find excuses for why he does.

[AllDay]

I think he's using it to blame you for it.

Seems like if you two don't aren't celibate anymore and he feels guilty, he's going to blame it on you...