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My boyfriend's... fetish?

Hey guys. I've noticed recently that my boyfriend watches a lot of MILF porn. Is this a common thing for guys? To be honest, I'd rather him not watch porn at all, I would be more than happy to "be his porn"... If that makes sense. However, I have come to terms with it. I masturbate with out him, so he should have the freedom to do the same. Getting back to the real question here.. Is this normal? It kind of weirds me out. Especially because I am younger than him. Also, is there anything I can do to have him stray away from the porn, and maybe get him to act out any of those particular fantasies with me instead?
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  • MILF porn usually involves women with big breast implants. I'd say likely he is getting off on that because likely you don't have such large breasts and he may really not want you to. sometimes guys go to porn to get something different from our girlfriends. it just adds a little variety. I don't see the big deal. it is better than cheating or trying to change you or get you to get breast implants.

    i think it is perfectly normal to look at porn and masterbate to it. people did it for centuries by imagining things in their heads, now we just have a nice visual to stimulate us. let the guy get off, why would you want to spoil it for him?

    i had my girl suck me off while I watched porn and it was so hot. we have done it a bunch of times. I say do whatever makes the sex good. don;t think about it too much and analyze it. if it gets you off it gets you off (as long as it is legal/moral of course).

    she has even given me head while I look at naked pictures of her, or look at her in the mirror to get a different view. we even tried her giving me head while I looked at sexy pictures of friends of hers and other hot girls I know. it was great. I say run wild with it. big eal if it gets him or you off to look at pictures of other people. you aren't having sex with those people, so what is the problem. stop being so insecure and stop thinking that your mate should only get off to you. that is ridiculous. take part in it with him, he will love it. it was great to share that with my girl. I loved the fact that she just wanted me to get off and didn't mind if that involved me jerking it or getting head while looking at other girls, including her friends. don't make him feel ashamed for the sexual gratification and horniness he naturally feels beyond his control. if he stays loyal to you, then let him get pleasure from whatever he wants to look at.

    • HAHAHAHAHA!! Once again, Nice Guy7 proves himself to not be such a nice guy!! You're cool and all, but you're name is SERIOUSLY false-advertisement, dude.

    • Hahaha, you're funny! hey I'm honest and straight forward about it, and I am never mean to anyone. I seriously don't think it is mean to do these things. I have never disrespected a woman.

  • Start out by hinting that it's something that you want to do. I wouldn't feel insecure about it. I'm kind of the same way, in the milf thing, and I can't really see myself being with someone older like that. My girlfriend says the same thing about her wanting to be my porn, and I try to explain that she's enough for me, and that I don't want anyone else. But what I really want, but don't have the courage to ask the girl is to strip for me while I watch & do my thing! Maybe that's just me, but who knows.. Try it with your guy. It could turn interesting and better for the both of you! Hope this helped..

    - Tyler 18

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  • this is one I will never ever understand men are pigs that's it. I don't care how many people hate my answer. but here's how I feel. WHY would you MASTURBATE to porn? Its seriously literally HAVING SEX WITH A COMPUTER or PAPER. If God wanted us to have porn sex, he would have made a vagina next to the insert button for the discs. There is NO justice for men and being so despite to masturbate to porn. NONE. WHEN YOU HAVE A GORGEOUS woman you can PHYSICALLY see hold touch and have sex with, why waste your time trying to imagine a sex scene, fantasy etc when you have the very same woman to preform this all with? Hate my answer all you want, I think you are all gross and there is no excuse for looking at porn behind your womans back. Have fun having sex with your computers!

    • Um, guys like porn because we sometimes want to look at girls who have different features than our girlfriends. we stay loyal but we want to jerk off once in a while to a girl with much bigger boobs than our girl. it allows us to get things we want without changing our girl or cheating on her. I don't see what is wrong with it.

  • Think of it this way, he could be jacking off to animal porn or kiddie porn. Let it go. My boyfriend loves lesbian porn, but there's no way I'd nosh off another girl. Its just a quirk, nothing more.

    One of my exes explained things to me like this...A wank is the equivalent of a macdonalds to a bloke, its quick, easy and there when you want it but an hour or so later you wish you had gone for something better as it doesn't quite hit the spot. Sex with your girlfriend is like a steak dinner, you've wanted it for ages, it just how you like it, it hits the spot and you're gonna feel good after having it.

    Don't sweat it babe. x

    • That was one of the best answers I have ever saw on here. You nailed it!

  • in my experience, my boyfriend was turned on by the fact I let him watch it happily.

    even bought him a few mags.

    don't let him feel he has to hide this from you.

  • I know how you feel, I'm younger then my boyfriend and he recently told me he would like to do someone older then him. Its just a fantasy and yes, its normal.

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  • obviously tell him you're not comfortable with him watching porn.

  • If he likes porn, and you want to be his porn in a sense, then ask him if he wants to make his own porn with you and see where it goes from there.

    • As in a sex tape? what if it gets out?

  • Doubtful. He is male. He craves variety. You are lucky in that his desire for variety is met by looking at some porn instead of going after other women.

  • If it really bothers you, get him the book "Every Man's Battle" link

    I think the MILF thing comes from desires to be perused by an experienced yet unsatisfied women.

  • 3 things.

    1. Most (by that I mean ALL) guys like porn, whether or not they watch it.

    2. There are different kinds of porn that guys like for different reasons.

    3. It's probably a GOOD thing for you to know what kind of porn he watches. If you can figure out what it is about that particular kind of porn that turns him on you can take that information to bed with you... and him. ;)

    Is that a picture of you? lol. Anyway... from your perspective... the porn he watches is "research material." That's valuable information.

  • MILFs tend to realize that it's now or never if they want to get some sexual satisfaction in their life. They may not be young and fine but they are sexually uninhibited. Can't blame a person for having interest in that.

    • You have the worst answers known to man.

    • O rly I think I just challenge your futile view of the world. So much the better, peck.

  • There's no subtle way to do it. Your going to simply tell him that his watching porn bothers you. Don't conform to something your not comfortable with.

    • Ahem, ultimatums are not a very good way of resolving an issue.

    • Who is this kid? I did not say an ultimatum was in order. I merely meant for her to state her case. Just like watching porn is a choice, so is her decision to want it out of her life, either entirely or to watch with him. There is no ultimatum in that.

  • Porn is sometimes interesting, but in general I don't like it because most of is hideously fake. Its natural to stop and take a look, but I would find it odd to want to watch it all the time. I I would not feel threatened by it, he is not after a relationship from them. I would not even assume he actually even wants any like the porn.

    One thing that would end my desire to view the material...

    You mentioned you masturbate without him, that's great. Try then maturbating with him. Tell him, either this, or the porn. Those actions would have unquestionable actions on my part...

  • don't worry... you are pizza I am sure... pizza is always good but everyday? What he is doing is picking something to turn him on that's not you. everyone does this it is natural. that's why most people close their eyes during sex. If you are worried buy some sexy clothes maybe some stocking my favorite ;) and surprise him! :)

  • surprise with a video of yourself doing something..thats what my girl did and I haven't looked at porn since..i just turn to her and wink and we f*** like animals

  • Have you tried watching with him? Separating yourselves by masturbating separately is probably a bad idea. It just serves to put more space between you.

    • It might actually be hot if you got insanely jealous of him watching porn. Just do it in a half-serious way.

  • believe me girl just give him a blowjob. I'm pretty sure that he'll never interested in watching porn ... rather he'll b with you for that live porn.

  • not to common. my girlfriend is the reason I'm not into porn. why jerk off when I have somebody to share that intimate moment with. my fetish is I like arms (The part of the arm from the wrist to the elbow) try using ur arm to get him off with it may work

  • Even if you have sex every day, he will still watch porn / masturbate. MILF is nasty to most guys, except for Angie Lopez (LOL, its true). Just ask him if he has any fantasies he would like to try (That would make him think you're the best Girlfriend ever).

    • MILFs are nasty to most guys? You're an idiot


  • ask him honestly
    what are his unfulfilled erotic fantasies. If you are able to meet one of them, he will be very pleased. Remember don't do anything against your will.

  • at least its milf rather than tranny! lol

  • guys like milfs/cougars because they take charge sexually and go after what they want. there is nothing wrong with liking that. however if it was granma porn, that's an issue. guys like porn because its variety, something to "just get off too" vs a girlfriend who they'd rather make love to (for the most part, every relationship needs a good f*** now and again)

  • tell him what you said "I would be more than happy to "be his porn""

    if my wife (i'm waiting not married lol) said that to me I would be so happy

    =D

    good luck =)

  • lol put some porn you know he wouldn't like on his compuyter and rename it something hot he'd like. maybe then he will get hte hint if not its fine he isn't cheating on you so id be happy lol

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