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My boyfriend's constant sex drive annoys me?

For some reason, I'm annoyed that my boyfriend is horny 24/7. I like having sex, but I work 50+ hours a week and it sometimes bothers me that he wants to have sex 3 times a day every time I see him and that I'm obligated to get him off whether I feel like it or not. That "MUST HAVE ORGASM" caveman insistence of men really gets on my nerves ... but he is a good guy so I also want to accommodate him. Any tips for removing the annoyance? It's not that I don't like sex, I just don't want him on me every second I'm near him and I get tired of having to get him off before he act think like a normal human. We're in our mid twenties, by the way ... If we were teens it'd be a little easier because he'd get off in .5 secs!
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  • This sounds familiar, but the situation is (oddly) reversed for me. My girlfriend gets SO horny when we're together. I really really like her and I try my hardest to accommodate her. We're about the same age as you two, maybe a bit older. It's hard for me to get off 2 or 3 times per day. Like when I get off from a bj or hand job, it's nearly impossible for me to get off having sex 20 minutes later and she has gotten a little disappointed. It in turn makes me a little bit anxious. I sympathize with you because you said that your boyfriend is a good guy, just like my girlfriend is a wonderful girl. I tried talking to her about it and explained that I'm not going to get off every single time we fool around since she's so horny. She said that she feels like she isn't doing her job then if she's the only one getting off (she's all about having orgasms too when fooling around). So I think in time things will settle down and we'll find more balance. I'm actually a little disappointed in myself since guys are typically the super horny ones. It's also a great complement that your boyfriend and my girlfriend get so horny around us. Would you rather not turn him on at all? So the only advice I really have to offer is just try and talk to him about it and make sure he understands you'll do your best to accommodate him but that you're not quite as horny as he is, but that you also really care about him.

    • Thanks for answering! I feel a little better hearing that other people sometimes feel this way, because I feel bad about being annoyed by it. Guess it's just one of those things you have to learn to deal with to have a great relationship.

  • You need to slow his labido down, because this is actually no heathy for your relationship, because if your not left to build up an appetite for sex, then you will never really want it, and eventually go off it completely, and that is when you really will begin to dislike him and his approaches, which will eventually spell doom for this relationship, so try and start saying no and make him knock one out or something, because although its good to have a healthy sex drive, its not good when its all one sided and he begins to see you as a sex object instead of a person he adores and wants to spend time with,x

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  • It annoys me too that men think about and want sex 24/7. They are just wild animals on heat. It's like they don't care about anything else. They are very selfish & childish, They only think about themselves. This is why I love being single. You'd be happier alone.

    • wrong.

    • this is true of some men, but not all just as it is true of some women. since yesterday there are 7 billion people in the world. we should be mature enough to shy away from generalizations

    • @ Answerer: And women like you are why I'm scared to death of even TRYING to get a girlfriend.

  • Living the single life has its advantages and among them is getting the sex when I want it.

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  • It's clear that you really need to talk to him about this, and NOT in bed. Go out for dinner and calmly explain to him a simple fact: fatigue is a huge libido killer in women. A woman who's tired just doesn't feel sexy but more important, sex takes energy and if you don't have any, sex isn't much fun. If he cares for you, he'll make an effort to be less sexually selfish. He may have to date his p*rn collection but that's okay too. If you can find a job that'll pay the bills in 40 hours a week, that'd probably go farther to solving this problem than anything. Good luck.

  • Request him to share a good evening with a drink and dinner and give you a massage to get you relaxed and in the mood.

    • I like this idea. full body massage and then sex? win.

    • Lol ... or sex and then a guaranteed nap, instead of sex and then sex again. :P

  • You should talk to him. When you have constant sex, it stops being special and meaningful. Tell him it makes you feel no better than a f**k buddy.

  • Yeah he needs to understand that two people's sex needs don't usually match up..sometimes the female wants it more...i don't see where he can complain if he is getting it once a day..he should be able to go jack off if he needs it more...

    • Do you think it will settle down after we've been together 6 months or so? We're only at 2 months, so I think part of it is the novelty of sleeping with someone new... It's not his fault I'm so busy, so I want to be positive about this because I DO enjoy good sex!

    • Yeah that is very possible...I think most males go hog wild at first.. <3 =D

  • Leave him for a while and live alone for sometime .

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