My boyfriend slapped me in the face during sex, is this ok?

I like rough sex sometimes, when he's dominant. But last time he slapped me few times in the face. I honestly don't know what to think about it, I can't say if I enjoyed it or not .. I like to try new things , I like facial or when he slaps my butt.. but I've been always thinking that slapping face is just disrespectful. I want to know if others do it/ would do it ? and if it's ok?
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  • Forget about what OTHER people think, because that really doesn't matter. What matters is what YOU think.

    In the context of rough sex that you LIKE, IMO it's fine AS LONG AS you're okay with it. I've been with girls who LOVE that, and girls who would have gotten up and walked out, and either opinion is acceptable. When you are having sex with your BF, what you do is between him and you, and as long as the two of you are okay with it, that's all that matters.

    From my own perspective: it would be hard to imagine a situation where I would ever slap a woman's face in the real world. Not because I didn't want to sometimes, but because I would never let myself get that out of control, nor let some else get to me that much.

    And in the bedroom, if the girl I was with was "vanilla" and would have gotten offended, I would never, ever do that, because sex to me is about pleasure and excitement, and if it didn't make her feel that way, there would be no point. BUT... with a girl who likes and wants rough sex and gets turned on by it, I can do it and even enjoy it because she does so much. And because there is trust and respect between us, we can cross those boundries and not offend each other or anything like that.

    Not everyone has a relationship with that level of trust and respect, though, and not every girl, even girls who life rough sex, want to be slapped, and that's OKAY. When you engage in "non-vanilla" sexual behavior, it's up to you and your partner to discuss limits and agree to them, whatever they are. And it's okay to agree to push each others' limits sometimes too. But you need to talk about it and you need to come to an understanding with each other, and then, whatever you've agreed to is all good, even if other people might not understand it.

  • If you don't have one already, you should sit down with your boyfriend and discuss having a "safe word". For instance, like, Pickles as your safe word. Lets say he slaps you, and you don't like it. If you say Pickles, he knows right away to stop what he's doing because he just did something that you DID NOT like.

    Safe words are mostly used when people are having rough sex. Such as a "rape fantasy". In this example, the woman saying stop would be something that you would say "in character". But if you yelled out Pickles!, then he would KNOW that he needs to stop immediately and find out if your OK. Hope this helps you a bit.

    And to address if its OK to slap your face during sex, well, that its up to you to decide. Perhaps some women like it, I would say most don't. But it comes down to what YOU like and don't like. And this is something you need to address with your boyfriend. Perhaps he thought that you liked it since your into rough sex. Since you don't, then you need to talk to him about it so that he doesn't do it again. Hopefully you also talk to him about having a safe word that you will remember. Good luck!

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  • Everyone will have different opinions about it but our opinions can't justify it for you, only you can decide what your OK with. It sounds like you didn't really enjoy it because if you did you wouldn't have to question it. Just because your into experimenting doesn't mean you have to be OK with everything. Keep the lines of communication open and let him know how you feel.

  • There's nothing wrong with it on it's own. Personally it turns me on. If it's too much for you then you should say something, but I wouldn't hold a grudge. If you like it rough he's probably trying to make you happy.

  • ya that's a no, no.. just tell him how you feel about that because even if you like it rough.. that's over the boundaries imo..

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  • Slapping face can be a part of his idea of rough sex. He may not have any disrespectful intention.

    But its only you and your boyfriend can discuss and find out.

  • It's okay if you told him you wanted him to. I think it's wrong to just do something like that without the other person's consent. If you find it disrespectful, then it's disrespectful to you. You don't need someone else to tell you it's okay or not okay based on their opinion, it's all about your own.

    • Because you couldn't possibly talk about your sexual boundaries outside of the bedroom.

  • that's...this is...what? that's not even kinky that's just being a d***.

  • Think for yourself?

  • It find many people like to slappe on face when they enjoyed it, if you don't enjoyed by it and think it's disrespectful, so tell him you do not like. and ask him that he could slappe only your butt.

  • just be a good little girl and dont disobey your boyfriend while he's fucking you. he's stronger than you so in the end its best to just do as he says and take his cock. if he slaps you and then dont disobey him. i taught my girl well. she knows not to disobey me. one time she slapped me back and i tied her to the bedpost and fucked her in the ass. she kept begging me to stop at first but then realized she liked it. she started disobeying me on purpose after that so she'd get "punished". the slutty little whore she is. mm. i wish i could fuck her right now.

  • It's okay. You say you like it when he's dominant. Face slapping is a way of showing you that you're his bitch basically. Just go with it and don't over think.

  • If YOU feel it wasn't okay and YOU didn't like it and felt like he went too far, just let him know! People are different, some people (your boyfriend) like that and some don't (I probably wouldn't)

  • that's not my thing personally but I've heard about people doing it. I don't like to take it so far that I might hurt her because I would never want that. but it's OK if you feel comfortable with him doing it and if you don't, let him know you think that's a little bit too much for you and he'll probably be fine not doing it anymore

  • If you like rough sex, maybe he got too into it and thought you would be okay with it. Some girls are into choking and slapping stuff. If you don't like it, tell him that he shouldn't cross that line again.

  • That is pretty disrespectful. Let him know in the future that he should exclude that from any future romps.