My boyfriend told me that he jacked off not to long ago. I don't know why but I felt a little hurt,

like I wasn't doing something right. Is he not being satisfied by me? I tell him things to make him get aroused when I'm around like watching porn with him or watching him jack off but it seems like he would rather keep that to himself.why?
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  • I don't blame you for feeling hurt especially if you thought you were doing everything right with him. Sounds to me like you want to share everything with him and that's great because that's what successful loving relationships are all about. Since he told you rather than keep it to himself like most guys might do, ask him to let you give him a hand-job whenever he gets the urge to jack off. He's not wanting to keep it to himself and that's why he told you. So just be aware now that he jacks off and try to see what you can do so that he's left more satisfied when he leaves. That doesn't mean you start catering to him all the time, just that he's left in a satisfied manner and that can be from just a really fun night together out. Like an awesome date. But make sure he knows that you have needs too and that it's not just about him and porn and jacking off. Tell him you need him to go down on you and love you up that way because once guys start that it's something they'll always want to do. Like pleasure you that way until you reach orgasm. Afterwards he should be really horny and you can relive him with a quick bj and he won't have to go home and do it on his own. Good luck.

    • I meant to say "... and you can relieve him with a quick hj and he won't..........."

    • Thanks so much! I thinks that's what it is I just want to share everything with him.. but this helped .. thanks again! (and I had to kinda keep asking for him to tell me because he wouldn't at first. lol)

    • You're welcome. So good to always share with each other.

  • You aren't doing anything wrong necessarily. Guys masturbate. Actually, so do many women. I have been married for a number of years and have sex with my wife one to two times a day and I still masturbate. It has nothing to do with you. Sometime we just need to focus on ourselves. I think it is actually healthier.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Well my boyfriend pleasures me orally to orgasm on a regular basis in my room before my mom gets home from work. He's so good at it and usually just moves my undies aside and starts eating me out. This always makes him very horny so I know he jacks off at his house whenever he feels the need to relieve his being blue balled. We're not into my giving him a hand-job or blow-job and won't for quite awhile yet so it wouldn't bother me if he kept it to himself. However, he does tells me when he does sometimes especially when he's left with a big hard-on that I noticed just so that I know how he's handled it. I usually giggle when he leaves in that condition and several+ times he's jacked off in our bathroom and several+ times he's jacked of in from of me but it only takes him like a minute or two to come when he'd done it at my house becaise he's that turne on. haha!

    • LOL! that sounds so sexy!

  • you're not doing anything wrong it's completely normal for guys to jack off. I'm pretty sure the average amount of erections guys get per day is like 10 or 11, so if you're not with him all day that's what's going on when you're gone. he might not want to do it in front of you cause some people are shy about it, I guess it really depends on the person. but I'm sure he's being satisfied by you. if you're having sex he might even be jacking off beforehand so that he can last longer and satisfy you more, but either way you really have nothing to worry about

  • I went through the same thing for a long time. I have learned that guys just like to wack it alone. Think about when you are with your guy. You are worrying about how your but looks and what is moving that shouldn't be and if he is liking it or not. Well your man is worried about the same stuff. Maybe not about his butt but sometimes a guy needs a break from worrying about pleasuring you or about how you feel and just focus on the "job at hand".

    • Very true never thought of itlike that. Thanks!

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  • omg, you sound sexy! would love a girl like you hahaha

    i think perhaps he is just like that, he isn't so open about those kind of things. I don't know.

    i think most guys would prefer their girls there next to them when they are having a wank. I think all guys would!

  • You probably felt left out. You were like, "Why couldn't I be the porno flick?", or, "Why couldn't I bee the vaseline?" Maybe you should jack him off, see what he does. Before he can exclude you, get involved.

  • if he told you that he does, he shouldn't keep it to himself. he should ask you would you like to join him.

  • That's normal don't let it upset you here's what you do, when he's aroused sit on his lap or do something sexy like strip for him or try different sex positions he enjoys

  • Maybe he's not as comfortable as you are. Or its just something he wanted to do and be alone. Its not a bad thing we do it all the time. Also don't feel hurt unless he never has sex with you and all he does is play alone.