My boyfriend wants me to get plastic surgery. Is this a bad idea?
Anonymous
I know it sounds weird, but my boyfriend suggested that I should get plastic surgery - implants. He even offered to pay for it. I'm flat-chested and have always wanted bigger boobs, but I'm not sure if surgery is a good idea. I have a few friends that have gotten implants (and lip injections) and they look amazing, but do you think it's a bad idea? If not, should I let him pay for it?
Yes, I would get plastic surgery for a guy!
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No way, I would NOT get plastic surgery for a guy!
If you want to get plastic surgery for yourself, that's another matter, but don't do it unless you know you want it!
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PsycheAndErosXper 5
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If he'd be willing to pay for them then get them for YOU If YOU want them. Don't get them just because he wants you to. Do it only if you think it would make YOU happier! Good luck 😊
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OarengeAeytXper 4
+1 y
I think it's important that this decision be yours and that it's not to be made lightly. This is completely about you and your view. If it's something you want and he's willing to pay for it, go for it, just be sure to do lots of research. If it's not for you or you're scared/worried to do it, he should respect that. Personally, I prefer small breasts. A and B cups tend to be my favorite, C's are nice, D's are pushing it, and larger than that is a turn off for me. It also depends on a woman's proportions. Regardless of anything, you need to do this for you. Not him.
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kittykatgYoda
+1 y
I said no because I wouldn't want to change myself for someone else. However there are a few things I would like done later on and probably will do. If my husband likes it that's great. If he doesn't them tough titties because I'm going to do it anyway. It's your body do what is best for you and what makes you happy
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sparkles10Xper 5
+1 y
Only get it done if thats what you want. If you feel confident and sexy the way you are then don't let him dictate how you should look.
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PopitonXper 2
+1 y
If you want it, it's a bonus he is willing to pay. If it's all his idea then dump him, he has no respect for you your body.
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pr3ttybr0wnMaster
+1 y
So he's telling you your natural looks aren't good enough so you should undergo surgery to please him? Hun surgically remove your boyfriend
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RawrzzYoda
+1 y
If it's something that you want that he would also benefit from, I don't see a problem. If it's something you're doing *only for him*, then that is not a good idea, in my opinion. As for letting him pay for it, sure. Why not? He offered. However, don't get too large of implants depending on how flat you are. That can be dangerous or at least not good, if I recall. Take the doctor's advise over the wishes of your boyfriend. Usually, for smaller sized women, they should only increase by 1 cup, 2 cups max. I say as a layman. I don't really know, but that's what I've heard.
My suggestion would be to tell your boyfriend exactly what you've said here. "I want bigger boobs, but I'm not sure I want to get surgery." In addition, it wouldn't hurt to get a consolation and learn everything there is to know about the procedure, so you can make an informed decision, yes or no.
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coolbreezeMaster
+1 y
Do it if it makes you happy and if it's something that you really want. It's your body and it should be your choice.
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Hannah591Editor
+1 y
NO. Don't you dare!
He should love you for who you are. Nowadays, many women with implants are opting to get their implants removed. It comes with so many hazards, it's painful and often doesn't go as planned. There's nothing wrong with you and he's an asshole for making you think you need to be changed. NEVER go through such things for the sake of a man. Change your body if YOU want that change otherwise you'll be a very unhappy lady. Forget the implants and forget him!
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Jonny_Guru
+1 y
Yep it's moronic, if you don't like 'flat chested' girls then don't date them and expect big boobs moron.
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Mekkalyn
+1 y
Honestly that's so true. I don't know why he would date someone that has a "flat chest" but then magically expect it to be different. That just seems dumb lol
sparkles10
+1 y
@Mekkalyn well said!
DivaMonaeGuru
+1 y
Yes honestly I do. I'm personally a big fan of plastic surgery but I'll keep my feelings/opinion out of it.
This is why I don't recommend it because he isn't accepting you as you are. If you wanted to get implants done and he supported it and wanted to pay then fine he's being supportive.
But to me the fact that it was his idea and you're not really fond of plastic surgery is a slap in the face in my opinion. It's like a back handed compliment you're beautiful but you'd be even more beautiful if your rack was larger 😒
What I would want to hear from him is "You're beautiful regardless and I love you the way you are but if YOU truly want this done then I support it I'll love you either way."
If it's not your doing then don't do it 🙅
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sjoes006Editor
+1 y
I don't think it is a good idea. Maybe after you have kids to give them back a little perk but once skin is stretched it is stretched and they get in the way.
I would have serious reservations about dating a man who would even suggest such a thing. He doesn't respect you, your body or women in general.
Plastic surgeons should even be allowed to let husbands in the room for an initial consultation. I have less of a problem with them coming in later.
If your friends have them ask to grab one of their tits. Many guys don't like fake boobs because of the feel. If you have at least a B cup and go up no more than a small cup size and buy the implants that start around $7-9k before the surgeon fee and facility costs they feel a lot more real but you are easily looking at $15k total.
ALSO they don't last forever and need to be replaced in 15 years or so. They are placed under muscle and the recovery is long and painful. Every time you lift anything overhead your pecks and implants will flex which real breasts don't do. This is how I know a woman has fake boobs.
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Brelee625
+1 y
Also it can hide cancer. My mom is a mammographer and implants are dangerous.
sjoes006
+1 y
@Brelee625 that's why they place t under the muscle now so it doesn't distort a mammogram.
Brelee625
+1 y
But it is hard to do the mammograms. My mom hates doing them
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sjoes006
+1 y
@Brelee625 no one likes getting a mammogram.
CatalieEditor
+1 y
Don't do it unless YOU want to do it for YOURSELF.
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theatreguyXper 6
+1 y
If you're going to do it, do it for you. Don't go get breast implants just because some guy wants you to. If YOU want them, then why not? Remember to weigh the pros and cons, and make sure it's what will make you happy.
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lumosEditor
+1 y
Looking amazing doesn't guarantee that it'll feel equally amazing. I would never get plastic surgery because I'm perfectly happy with how I look. And if my boyfriend suggested something like that I would seriously consider breaking up. That's so rude. If I'm with a guy, it means that I have accepted all of him. His looks, his personality, is flaws. I would never suggest that he'd change something like that, especially not for ME. If someone wants to change themselves, they should do it because THEY want to. Not because their partner, or whoever, wants them to. And if I didn't accept a guy for his looks/personality etc, then I wouldn't even be with him in the first place. Or I'd dump him. Why is your boyfriend even with you if he wants to change you? Why are you with HIM?
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dragonfly6516Guru
+1 y
I voted B, but if YOU want the surgery, you should do it.
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MinxxieYoda
+1 y
No just leave him, tell him to go find a cow to date if he wants a massive udder!
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SundykoXper 3
+1 y
I am a man who loves all sized boobs, both big and small. If you have a flat chest, no boobs, that might be not fun thing to have, since the size of boobs nowadays seems to be the woman's pride or something.
However! You should not consider getting bigger boobs coming from a guy who is your boyfriend or whatever, and who is so desperate to make you look good (for himself) that he offers to pay for it even. Seems like the guy is only after one thing in you, but hey! I do not know anything about you two, so...
Do it only if you truly want it yourself. Also research and know the risks involved in it, and listen to people who have done it before and how they feel about the change. (Long term)
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vishnaMaster
+1 y
If he sees you suffering and offered to help (no sleazy look in his eye)-sure, if you guys are comfortable with money like that-go for it.
If he seems unsatisfied and adds to your negative feelings regarding your body-no.
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145 116If you want to get plastic surgery for yourself, that's another matter, but don't do it unless you know you want it!
If he'd be willing to pay for them then get them for YOU If YOU want them. Don't get them just because he wants you to. Do it only if you think it would make YOU happier! Good luck 😊
I think it's important that this decision be yours and that it's not to be made lightly. This is completely about you and your view. If it's something you want and he's willing to pay for it, go for it, just be sure to do lots of research. If it's not for you or you're scared/worried to do it, he should respect that. Personally, I prefer small breasts. A and B cups tend to be my favorite, C's are nice, D's are pushing it, and larger than that is a turn off for me. It also depends on a woman's proportions. Regardless of anything, you need to do this for you. Not him.
I said no because I wouldn't want to change myself for someone else. However there are a few things I would like done later on and probably will do. If my husband likes it that's great. If he doesn't them tough titties because I'm going to do it anyway. It's your body do what is best for you and what makes you happy
Only get it done if thats what you want. If you feel confident and sexy the way you are then don't let him dictate how you should look.
If you want it, it's a bonus he is willing to pay.
If it's all his idea then dump him, he has no respect for you your body.
So he's telling you your natural looks aren't good enough so you should undergo surgery to please him? Hun surgically remove your boyfriend
If it's something that you want that he would also benefit from, I don't see a problem. If it's something you're doing *only for him*, then that is not a good idea, in my opinion. As for letting him pay for it, sure. Why not? He offered. However, don't get too large of implants depending on how flat you are. That can be dangerous or at least not good, if I recall. Take the doctor's advise over the wishes of your boyfriend. Usually, for smaller sized women, they should only increase by 1 cup, 2 cups max. I say as a layman. I don't really know, but that's what I've heard.
My suggestion would be to tell your boyfriend exactly what you've said here. "I want bigger boobs, but I'm not sure I want to get surgery." In addition, it wouldn't hurt to get a consolation and learn everything there is to know about the procedure, so you can make an informed decision, yes or no.
Do it if it makes you happy and if it's something that you really want. It's your body and it should be your choice.
NO. Don't you dare!
He should love you for who you are. Nowadays, many women with implants are opting to get their implants removed. It comes with so many hazards, it's painful and often doesn't go as planned. There's nothing wrong with you and he's an asshole for making you think you need to be changed. NEVER go through such things for the sake of a man. Change your body if YOU want that change otherwise you'll be a very unhappy lady. Forget the implants and forget him!
Yep it's moronic, if you don't like 'flat chested' girls then don't date them and expect big boobs moron.
Honestly that's so true. I don't know why he would date someone that has a "flat chest" but then magically expect it to be different. That just seems dumb lol
@Mekkalyn well said!
Yes honestly I do. I'm personally a big fan of plastic surgery but I'll keep my feelings/opinion out of it.
This is why I don't recommend it because he isn't accepting you as you are. If you wanted to get implants done and he supported it and wanted to pay then fine he's being supportive.
But to me the fact that it was his idea and you're not really fond of plastic surgery is a slap in the face in my opinion. It's like a back handed compliment you're beautiful but you'd be even more beautiful if your rack was larger 😒
What I would want to hear from him is "You're beautiful regardless and I love you the way you are but if YOU truly want this done then I support it I'll love you either way."
If it's not your doing then don't do it 🙅
I don't think it is a good idea. Maybe after you have kids to give them back a little perk but once skin is stretched it is stretched and they get in the way.
I would have serious reservations about dating a man who would even suggest such a thing. He doesn't respect you, your body or women in general.
Plastic surgeons should even be allowed to let husbands in the room for an initial consultation. I have less of a problem with them coming in later.
If your friends have them ask to grab one of their tits. Many guys don't like fake boobs because of the feel. If you have at least a B cup and go up no more than a small cup size and buy the implants that start around $7-9k before the surgeon fee and facility costs they feel a lot more real but you are easily looking at $15k total.
ALSO they don't last forever and need to be replaced in 15 years or so. They are placed under muscle and the recovery is long and painful. Every time you lift anything overhead your pecks and implants will flex which real breasts don't do. This is how I know a woman has fake boobs.
Also it can hide cancer. My mom is a mammographer and implants are dangerous.
@Brelee625 that's why they place t under the muscle now so it doesn't distort a mammogram.
But it is hard to do the mammograms. My mom hates doing them
@Brelee625 no one likes getting a mammogram.
Don't do it unless YOU want to do it for YOURSELF.
If you're going to do it, do it for you. Don't go get breast implants just because some guy wants you to. If YOU want them, then why not? Remember to weigh the pros and cons, and make sure it's what will make you happy.
Looking amazing doesn't guarantee that it'll feel equally amazing. I would never get plastic surgery because I'm perfectly happy with how I look. And if my boyfriend suggested something like that I would seriously consider breaking up. That's so rude. If I'm with a guy, it means that I have accepted all of him. His looks, his personality, is flaws. I would never suggest that he'd change something like that, especially not for ME. If someone wants to change themselves, they should do it because THEY want to. Not because their partner, or whoever, wants them to. And if I didn't accept a guy for his looks/personality etc, then I wouldn't even be with him in the first place. Or I'd dump him.
Why is your boyfriend even with you if he wants to change you? Why are you with HIM?
I voted B, but if YOU want the surgery, you should do it.
No just leave him, tell him to go find a cow to date if he wants a massive udder!
I am a man who loves all sized boobs, both big and small. If you have a flat chest, no boobs, that might be not fun thing to have, since the size of boobs nowadays seems to be the woman's pride or something.
However! You should not consider getting bigger boobs coming from a guy who is your boyfriend or whatever, and who is so desperate to make you look good (for himself) that he offers to pay for it even. Seems like the guy is only after one thing in you, but hey! I do not know anything about you two, so...
Do it only if you truly want it yourself. Also research and know the risks involved in it, and listen to people who have done it before and how they feel about the change. (Long term)
If he sees you suffering and offered to help (no sleazy look in his eye)-sure, if you guys are comfortable with money like that-go for it.
If he seems unsatisfied and adds to your negative feelings regarding your body-no.