My boyfriend wants me to go on hormonal birth control?

He wants to stop using condoms so it feels better and for me to go on the pill. But I don't want to. I don't think it's healthy. It can't be good for your body to take a hormonal, unnatural drug everyday. I think I am healthier without it, and I don't want to loose my nice figure. All my friends on it got fat. It also cause some bad health side effects. I think I would rather not have sex if he doesn't want to use a condom. Why does he want me to go on it so badly? Doesn't he care about my health?
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  • he is being very immature. to just experience some pleasure he is asking you to swallow drugs and medications. you know...drugs and medications should only be used if its necessary and you can't do without them. many people just pop in any drug even if they have a minor headache which can be cured by a nice sleeping session. bill control pills have man side effects. higher dosage of them can even cause breast cancer. other side effects are weight gain, weakened immune system, bllod clotting in veins, irregular menstruation, reduced sex drive etc etc

    so its better to use condom. it has no harmful effects on you or your partner. and if your guy goes on with arguments like "many girls do it..."...then tell him that you are not willing to take any risk with your body. I strongly advise you not to.

    • Thanks :) yeah I'm not comfortabe taking drugs, I didn't even take many painkillers when I got my wisdom teeth out! I prefer natural things... at least a condom won't hurt anyone.

    • Not trying to be rude or anything, no offense, but... The pill wouldn't be allowed if it wasn't safe. I'm taking it and I'm average weight, it's been my savior since I was unnaturally often menstruating and really heavy. I wouldn't call it a drug. But if you don't want to take it, don't. Just saying, it's perfectly safe and whatever you've heard, they're ghost stories. Two of my friends are taking it to, for menstruating, and none of us ever had problems with it. Nor any one else we know...

    • of course. I am not saying the pill is awful and take it at you won risk. I am just saying that if a lot safer and natural alternative is available to you in the form on condoms then what is the need to stuff yourself with pills and medications? its always better not to have drugs then have them (if you have a choice )..won't you agree?

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  • it's your body, you are the one who will have to deal with the side affects relating to your health, not him. the only reason he wants you to go on the pill is so he can go in you raw, it's purely a selfish motivation and he's not being considerate to your feelings. f*** his feelings, you are the one in control and you make the desicions. if you don't feel comfortable using hormonal BC that's your right! personally I don't like putting all these unnecessary hormones and drugs in my body either so I completely understand why you feel that way. some women don't mind it but you're not one of them so don't take it to please him, he's not worried about your health you are.

    • Thanks :) yeah I'm gonna tell him I'm not going on drugs just for him and if he wants to have sex he can wear a condom, at least they don't harm anyone. The sensation can't be that bad otherwise no one would use them!

  • I personally didn't have any changes when I started taking it other than being a little irritable for the first 2 weeks, that's it. Imo if your having sex and you don't want a kid you should be on bc. The more methods you use the safer you are. You man wants you to go on it for the wrong reasons though, selfish ones, you should make this decision for reasons other than it just feels better...I would recommend going to your Dr. and just discussing the pros and cons of the pill, you may be surprised, its really not bad, at least not for me...

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  • You could always get that new kind of birth control the they insert into your arm and defuses into the blood stream and lasts for about 3 years if you don't trust the birth control pill.

    As far as health is concerned doctors always tell people to stop taking the pills if there are negative side effects.

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    "Why does he want me to go on it so badly?" Pick one:

    He wants sex to feel even better with you.

    Condoms cost more money then some other alternatives if you add the costs over the years of use.

    "Doesn't he care about my health?" have you told him about your concerns that the pill might make you fat? If you told him bluntly he would rather want you looking good and healthy then fat and unhealthy.

  • another important thing to consider is that your sex drive will be reduced if there is extra estrogen present in your body(a side effect of this type of birth control)

    I love unprotected sex, and if you are in a committed relationship, perhaps you should consider an IUD, they are more effective than oral birth control with no hormonal changes

    • my sex drive is low without being on anything so it would be really bad if I was on the pill. I'll let him know. I'm sure he would rather have sex with a condom then no sex at all...

    • nooooo! don't get the IUD! I thought that was the answer too but boy was I wrong. I would take the pill anyday over the IUD. Plus drs are pushing the IUDs with hormones these days and the copper ones have their share of problems too.

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  • He is a loser. Dump him. Find a guy that is interested in what you think. Imagine if this continues and this relationship continues. His wish is the way of the relationship.

    He doesn't respect you, your body or your feelings.

    He is a pig.

    Maybe you should suggest he have a vasectomy.

  • Nothing happened to me when I started taking it. I think you're being selfish, you want sex but you don't want to use because but you still want him to use a condom. Just go on the bc. It's not a big deal, you need to do your part, why should he be the only one taking steps to prevent pregnancy? That's not fair. If you think you'll get fat, just work out and eat better. Millions of women take it so I doubt it will affect your health but if you're concerned with that then talk to your gyno.

    • I don't think I'm being selfish I just care about my health. Condom's give no side effects and aren't a drug. So I don't think I'm being unfair wanting him to use them, they aren't harming him like hormonal drugs could do to me. They are the best for safe sex in my opinion.

    • Hormonal BC isn't harmful! Seriously you're overreacting. Also, BC is a lot more effective in preventing pregnancy. Condoms can easily break, the percent effectiveness for condoms is way lower than BC. Do some research.

    • It is harmful. There are pleanty of side effects you can get from it. I am better off without it. I would only take drugs if I needed them to survive. Plus I will probably have next to no sex drive if I went on them, they are known for lowering womens libidos, mine is already low.So what's the point on going on something to stop pregnancy when I won't even want sex if I'm on it.

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  • I can see that, but you should use something, condoms aren't fool proof. And they don't feel good either. Try the depo shot. I know some people say you can gain weight, but I did not . And you won't either if you are healthy and take care of yourself now, you will then too. You just need to take a calcium supplement, which you should now anyway. It's excellent. Once every 3 months & no period. Very nice. You won't lose your figure.

    Just using condoms, you can, because you can get pregnant.

    • I know girls who got really sick on the shot. It's not healthy. I don't care if it stops you from getting a period. I want my period, it shows me I'm a healthy, normal young woman and apart of life. I would rather get pregnant then go on hormonal drugs. Condoms do their job well if used properly.

    • Women should have a period every month

    • I sure hope that you would not rather get pregnant. Poor excuse. I also think that maybe, given your admission that you have a very low desire for sex, this is all just an excuse to just not have sex with your boyfriend at all or not very much at all.

  • Ive used every form of birth control there is. Vasectomy has been the best so far XD.

    Birth control hormones suck. You are much healthier without it and I applaud you for going natural.

  • your boyfriend sounds like a d***

    • well I think it's a bit selfish of him to put his pleasure before my health. Condoms can't be that bad? otherwise no one would use them.

  • all your friends on it are idiots. birth control causes 2-3 pounds weight gain maximum.

    • why are they idiots? and they gained more then that

    • then they were using it as an excuse. hormonal birth control does not cause a ridiculous amount of weight gain; that's a myth.

    • It causes people to have a bigger appetite, so they gain weight. I'm not just worried about weight gain though, because I'm only skinny so it wouldn't matter. But I don't agree with taking drugs, especially if I don't need to.

  • He probably figures you're over blowing the risks.

    • what do you mean?

    • You should definitely go to a doctor first. We always get some hormonal birth control pills from website too. But we arranged everything with our doctor. And everything is totally ok

  • you don't gain weight from the pill.thats a myth.you may get the munchies more but it's up to you to act on it or not.when I got on the pill I didn't gain a pound.i was still able to keep losing weight even

  • That's stupid women have been taking BC for years and are fine

    • they are healthier without it. Condoms are better.

    • I was on birthcontrol for a while and I was perfectly healthy

  • Every female that has ever been with me was on the pill. I don't like condoms. If you did not wish to go on the pill that is your decision...we just wouldn't have intercourse...plenty of sex besides intercourse...

    • so you've never used a condom? that's pretty bad. Condoms are the only birth control that also protects against stds. I prefer to use them, becuase they aren't harming anyone and are safe if used properly. Unlike hormonal drugs that will mess with my body...

    • I used condoms for one brief stretch when one of my girlfriends wanted to "rest her body" I am married and I haven't had sex with any but steady girlfriends for years & years...I will let YOU worry about STDs..as far as the pill...that was my females' choice...

  • The pill is very unhealthy for your body. Your system will be flooded with hormones and this will affect every part of your body, even your organs. Your boyfriend is being very selfish and inconsiderate. I was on the pill for a few years and I gained nearly 40 pounds and developed very bad acne. Once I went off it, I dropped weight and my skin became beautiful. Next time your boyfriend brings it up, ask him if he wants you to balloon up to 200 pounds? Stay strong, girl!