My boyfriend wants me to masturbate for him?

[Anonymous]

I'm really excited because I have always fantasized about watching him touch himself too, but also kind of nervous about the logistics of things. First, I usually masturbate by either rubbing my clit or using a toy to penetrate myself. which do you think would be sexier to watch? It makes no difference in pleasure to me, it feels basically the same, takes the same amount of time etc. the only difference is that I've never mentioned I own a vibrator so that could be kind of awkward (its pretty small and I don't think he'd feel particularly threatened by it, but it's still a weird thing to share with other people). Also, I'm guessing he's not going to take as long as I will to finish... it takes a good 15-20 min for me to have an orgasm. how can I keep him involved? or do you think he'll try to last as long? basically I'm just not sure what to expect, we've had sex and everything so I don't know why I am freaking out so much about this... it just seems pretty intimate and I want it to be fun and sexy and I want him to want to do it again because the idea of watching someone and being watched is a huge turn on for me. Any tips or experiences would be appreciated!

[sa230e]

I think you're sort of missing the point here. The pleasure a guy derives (or at least I do) from watching a girl masturbate is seeing her in the throes of sexual arousal and ecstasy more than what exactly she's doing. It's about seeing a girl in her own sexual element, in the pursuit of her own pleasure for it's own sake without any self-consciousness or inhibition.

In other words, we don't want you to put on a show. That would be inauthentic. We want you to do it the way you would if we weren't there. That doesn't mean ignoring your partner, it just means you shouldn't feel the need to do anything different to keep him entertained.

Use your normal masturbation routine, there's truly nothing better. I don't think you'll have to worry about keeping him involved too much. He'll probably be focused on you like a laser. Feel free to throw in lots of dirty talk.

[ncsquirll99]

Okay -- SO short answer.. watching a girl pleasure herself is HELLA HOT! the fact that you own a vibrator is even better! DO both - with a toy and without. They are both super sexy to watch BUT start without and then when you are getting really hot switch to the toy and let him imagine sex with you. DONT let him touch himself - you can save that for a different day. Or tell him he has to keep it slow and he needs to save it for you - And then if he is getting really jittery then let him take over you. Watching you is more foreplay than anything else :) What a good girlfriend you are.

[Anonymous]

You are putting WAY too much thought into this. I do this all the time for my man. I am an exhibitionist of sorts, as in it doesn't turn me on to do it for just anybody, but for the right person I will do it as much as I can. Anyway as long as you are enjoying it he will LOVE it. Trust me on this. If anyone is an expert at putting on a masturbation show it is me.

[leximarie]

wow 15-20 mins? is that for both or just rubbing your clit? cus I usually just rub my clit and when I do that I come within 3-5 minutes, sorry this didn't relate to your question I was just curious to know

[jennhottie17]

just do what is natural and fun for you. I've done it for a lot of guys. never had one say he didn't like it, lol.

[nathanalbright]

Look, I don't think you have anything to worry about. Just you playing with yourself with the vibrator, and maybe a little moaning, and there is no question he'll have a good time. If he doesn't last all the way (which is pretty likely) you can have him play around with the vibrator to help finish you off.

[l-hedoniste]

"which do you think would be sexier to watch?" Whatever's hottest for you, is likely to be hottest for him.

"how can I keep him involved?" Again, what's hottest for you? Where's the best place a man can put his hands while you're masturbating? His mouth? Put him to some use.

"I'm just not sure what to expect" This ain't a game with rules. Improvise. Be inspired. Have fun.

[bioweapon154]

So, lemme get this right:

You are basically trying mutual masturbation?

Here is my help for ya.

Use the toy, and the vibrator. Make sure to penetrate yourself.

Let him get involved a bit. Maybe let him kiss you or touch you.

Who knows, maybe you should just let him lick you if you are cool with that.

Ever had sex? Maybe just have sex and try to last that long.

Or, you could suck him off while you are at it. That might help.

That is all my suggestions.

[Anonymous]

let him finger you while you masturbate. that way everyone wins :)

[Anonymous]

I would go the natural route and skip the toy. Just make sure you look at him all cutesy like when you're doing it. Guys vary as to how long they can last, so I don't know about him. I have the stamina of a p*rnstar, so I can last 15-20 easy.