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My boyfriend wasn't fully erect, is this normal?

Today my boyfriend and I lost our virginity, we were both virgins. He told me now that he wasn't totally erect, is there a reason for it? Is it normal? It wasn't extremely painful for me or anything and he ejaculated. But he wasn't completely erect, is there a reason for it? Is there anything I can do? PS: I already made this question but it was hidden because someone flagged it. Pls don't do that. I really want other opinions on this
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Personally, I wouldn't know about an actual experience (I never had sex). But apparently it's not far from the norm for guys to suffer this. Most guys start watching porn during puberty, which kind of fucks their mind causing them to have a bit of trouble with the real thing.

    or he was nervous. That's also a thing, apparently.

    • Yes, I figured he was more focused about the sex and me not being in pain than the pleasure it self.

    • A lot of guys do this... but I wouldn't go ahead and jump the gun on him. It was also his first time, and like the others say, being nervous does that. Guys have more to lose, generally.

    • Yes, you are right. I'm not blaming him or anything. I was just wondering if this also happened to other guys or if is something I did or something that I can do. But I guess experience will help Thank you so much 🙂

  • It's totally normal!! If he was nervous, it won't go up all the way. Most likely he was so focused on "If he was doing it right" that it took the focus off of the experience! It doesn't mean your not good in bed don't worry! It will get better every time :)

    • Thank you for your answer 🙂 I guess you are right, he was always asking if I was ok and if I was enjoying it.

    • Yea, don't worry :) just make sure to tell hin he was incredible. The ego boost might improve round 2 ;)

    • Yeah, I told him I didn't notice and it's true, it was so much for me that I didn't notice. And I also told him that I don't mind it that much, as long as we both are pleasured Thank you

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Most Helpful Girl

  • Just nervous, honestly. You should talk to him about it if you are so concerned.

    • I already did, he said he doesn't exactly know why that happened and he thinks it is normal

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  • It was chase he was nervous. First time and not being sure of himself.

    • Thanks🙂

  • Yeah, I was about to answer the first one when it was flagged.

    • You can answer here ☺️

    • I think the others pretty much answered the question. It was likely just nervousness and should settle over time. I'd suggest going slower next time and having a buildup. Don't make penetration the goal. If he is hard then and only softens if, if at all, you bring up penetration, well, there's your answer then.

    • Thank you I think he was more focused about sex it self and if I wasn't in pain then the actual pleasure

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  • You'll both get more comfortable with each other the more you have sex, so it will get better. He was probably just a little nervous.

    • Yes you are right We talked about it and he thinks he was more focus about doing it right and if I wasn't in pain than in the actual pleasure of it. And the nervous too, we have been waiting for this moment for a while

    • Yeah, I think you'll be fine.

  • possibly nerves i imagine. the first time can be stressful

    • Thank you 😁

  • You guys are so lucky!! I'm virgin and will probably be virgin forever! But it answer your question, yes it is normal because it was your first time.

    • Oh Don't say that, if you want, you will find someone you love and that you feel comfortable enough to do it. But hey, thank you for answering 🙂

    • Your welcome. I wanted love for so long but it never came. And I wanted to experience sex for so long too and intimacy but I would never be the person who would pressure the girl into it. I'd want to lose it to someone I love and trust too and if want her to be happy. But I was bullied severely in the past and horrible comments still eat me up that were said 4+ years back. Like I remember on Feb 23 2017, I wrote in my journal my feelings, etc and one thing i said was i am certain that one year later (Feb 23 2018) i will still be virgin. I said I would say if I was right or not on that day and i guess i am. Less than 2 months to go. I was 16 and 9 months at the time and that's when a lot of teens have lost their virginity. I admit, I met one really amazing girl on here actually but we never met in person and she's American and I'm Canadian. I want to keep our relationship but I have to be careful what I say cause I worry I'll scare her off.

    • Bottom line, im just so jealous of you and your boyfriend and reading posts of teens having sex makes me feel so useless and low remembering my past and girls hating me. And sometimes suicidal.

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