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My boyfriend won't give me oral?

so my boyfriend and I have been together for about 6 months. I've pleasured him many times orally, but he has NEVER done it to me. I ask him and he says he doesn't like. after a while, I finally got SOME truth out of him. he said that he doesn't like the smell, nor the taste, and not really even looking at it. i know he's not gay because he has been with enough girls prior to me. he also loves my boobs and butt and the sex is great. it's just that ONE thing. my question is this. I know that some girls smell quite a bit down there compared to others, and I know that if you don't really scrub it good it could smell quite rancid. lately I've been REALLY scrubbing, and using some nice scented lathers in that area. I'm hoping that maybe he will smell that his you know what doesn't stink after sex and try to do something down there. does anyone have any similar experiences? i don't think I would ever consider leaving him because of it, but... would you?
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  • I am a Cunning Linguist of the first order and have licked perhaps 20 different valleys over time.

    Cleanliness is critical. If you are wet and closed tightly, fluid, including his leftovers) will build up all the way to the back (posterior fornix) and, well, ferment. If you do not flush out your Vag completely in a bath and just wash at the labia, some of that fluid will remain (sort of like sourdough bread or sour mash whisky) and contaminate new fluid. There are pH corrected washes to take care of this. Once you get sweet, it is easier to remain that way. A clean Vag should not have an unpleasant taste or smell. Don't bother with scented anything. fix your pH and clean out all he way to the back so all the fluid you will make is fresh. Once you are clean (as in ready to receive oral), you do not want to take a hissy pee (as in from behind closed labia) because it will backwash, stay inside and get gamy. Spread your lips and make a stream just like a guy and blot up well. At the moment he should do down, sample yourself for taste and smell. If it's OK, then he simply doesn't want to give you oral.

    Oral sex is the most intimate, nurturing thing a man can do for a woman. This closeness will show itself in other expressions of his character. As a test of love, as opposed to just a sexual benefit, whether or not a man is willing to do it may be a maker/breaker.

    • Oh my... I feel sick... But it's a very informative output...

  • Bacterial vaginosis is the cause for the tuna smell. You may need to take a course of antibiotics. Go to WedMD or the Mayo Clinic website to learn more then talk to your gynecologist about this and listen to his/her suggestions for staying fresh and clean. They will likely prescribe an antibiotic.

    Meanwhile, keep your bush trim or "go Kojak" and be bald down there. Drink lots of cranberry juice to avoid urinary tract infections. Eat yogurt, but that may not help much. Ironically, douching can actually contribute to the bacteria that can cause vaginosis.

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  • I know what you mean about smelling down there but you shouldn't use soap in that area, especially scented stuff, it messes up with the pH balance and hence produces smell so buy some soap free stuff like femfresh or something :) trust me you'll notice a difference.

    My ex was like that and even though sex was good, he just wasn't into giving oral. The guy I'm with now loves it and I;m not complaining lol so it differes from one person to the other just the same as some girls don't like giving head.

    Btw I didn't leave my ex because of that it just didn't work out but that was one thing which used to get to me cos I used to love pleasuring him but it just seemed like he couldn't be bothered.

    x

    • selfish...( had what was coming to him..) jerk..

  • Maybe you should ask him if he would try it after you took a shower together so he knows for sure that you are 100% clean down there. At least then he can't use that as an excuse. Why should you give him a BJ is he won't give anything in return. I mean, come on... come tastes disgusting! Maybe you should lay off giving him head for a while and see if it really bothers him. If he has that much of a problem with it it might prompt him to be more accommodating to your needs.

  • lol yea.. I was with my boyfriend for over a year and he wouldn't for the same reasons. it honestly probably has nothing to do with you. a lot of guys are just adverse to that kinda thing.. there are also certain foods you can eat to make your stuff taste sweeter apparently. I don't know how much he is against it, but you can talk to him about it.. or use dental dams or something. I wouldn't leave a guy for that though.. its not THAT big of a deal

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  • 1) you can't make people enjoy something and do it. You have to either accept this and just accept not having oral (don't be a bitch and not give him any though, unless you don't enjoy it either)

    2) Your boyfriend's a little bitch. Man up, fagboy, get down on that p**** and eat the hell outta it. Grow a pair of balls and deal with any discomfort so you can really please the girl you claim to love.

    If the smell/taste is a problem, I dunno, eat differently or get some flavored stuff for him to use while down there. I hear it helps. Your bf's a bitch though. Why are you dating a bitch? :P

  • Some men just don't like going down on a woman. All the scrubbing and scented soaps probably won't make any difference. To be fair, don't give him any more head.

  • I couldn't wait to go down on girls but I have some friends that don't like it. It doesn't help that a lot of us have smelled pad blood. It's unfair because that smell has nothing to with the smell of your organ, but these guys are probably never going to like it. I cannot imagine sex without it (I am into female pee as well) and I have quit seeing a couple of girls that would not let me go down on them.

  • If it's trimmed and recently washed, it shouldn't be a problem.

  • It can't be that bad if he can still fuck. It can't be the 'knock me cold' type of smell

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