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My boyfriend won't go down on me.

My boyfriend will not go down on me even if I beg him to. I'm more than willing to go down on him but he refuses to give me the same. He only has gone down on me once ever and he was drunk. He tells me that he doesn't like the smell of my vagina because its too strong and only goes down on girls if they have absolutely no smell to them. Now my vagina isn't putrid or anything. I bathe and clean it daily, I keep it very well groomed, and I have no stds or infections (I went to the doctor after he mentioned this just to make sure) absolutely none of the guys I dated before him had any problem with going down on me and never mentioned anything about my vagina smelling. Now I feel very self conscious about this. He also said he doesn't like it when my labia poke out and likes the more "clam" shaped vaginas. This is starting to hurt my feelings a bit.
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Most Helpful Girls

  • Girl, I know where you're at with this. My ex is the most sqeamish person ever and he refused to go down, too. It really pissed me off, especially when every damn time he turned around, there I was, giving him head. There is nothing wrong with your junk- there is something wrong with his HEAD. The big one, not the little one. Wanna know how I fixed sh*t with my ex? I DIDNT. I COULDNT. And if I said this was not part of the reason why he is my ex, I would be lying. And I don't have to lie, because I am posting all Anon.

    You know what? Eff your ex all to hell and gone and eff mine too. Assholes. Selfish, sqeamish ASSHOLES.

  • Ditch him. Or tell him his p*nis is strange-looking and you feel an urge to vomit when it comes near you, see how that takes his fancy. Seriously, he sounds kind of nasty, rude and selfish. Is this reflected in how he treats you outside the bedroom too?

  • Well give him a taste of his own medicine. He should smarten up pretty fast.

    And it sounds like he isn't very respectful of you.. You could do better.

Most Helpful Guys

  • Hes obviously a very shallow bloke, and is thinking that all vaginas look the same. So he has a preference as to what they should look like before he puts his mouth round it, well this is very shallow and shows a lot of inexperience, so you need to minimise his pleasure until you get yours, be as selfish as he is, although it might be hard, but no sex until he gives you some play, this will work a treat, and once he realizes that they are all the same just look different, because he is using the smell for an excuse, he will start to enjoy it,x

  • Ask him why if he thinks the smell of a vagina is so bad he is still willing to stick his penis inside of one. Tell him you don't want his penis to stink so it will no longer be allowed inside of you. When he says your p**** smells nice after that tell him to prove it by rubbing his face in it.

    • I like this idea lol

    • Really I don't get guys like him. For me a vagina smells like a vagina and a woman's vagina gives her so much pleasure and me so much pleasure I associate all smells from it with pleasure feelings so the smell is awesome for me and a big turn on.

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  • He is being selfish. If you are willing to go down on him, he should be willing to do the same. I believe the smell comment and the labia poking out are just excuses that he is giving you. If you don´t feel confortable with him, and is starting to hurt your feelings you should go separate ways. Imagine being with someone who tells you that all the time when having sex, it is not well worthy. There are more fish in the ocean.

  • Just dump him.

  • Your boyfriend is selfish. Vaginal scent excites most men. Your boyfriend is one of the few who does not like vaginal scent. Most women have outie vagina.(more than half). Every vagina has its own beauty. My wife has a large inner lips. I like that. It's exciting and I love to give her cunnilingus. After that, I like penetration.

    He said all that to you, because that you do not asked for cunnilingus again.

  • what's your question? he doesn't like eating you out. if this was a guy writing in, that his Girlfriend won't blow him, all the girls on these threads would say too bad, accept it

    • What I wrote was more a gauge to decipher if this type of behavior should be tolerated. Its not even so much of the fact that he won't eat me out, it's the way he goes about it. He made a comment on how the way my vagina looked and smelled. That I find very hurtful. He could've just said "I don't like to go down on girls" but instead it's "I only like to go down on certain girls". I would think it's pretty mean and pathetic of a girl who won't go down on her guy because of the shape of his penis

  • That's weak. Don't give him head then. Either he gets over it or you move on. Don't deprive yourself.

  • I love giving! It's a must do for me! Lol

  • BIN HIM! Seriously, this guy has no idea how to treat or talk to a girl. And he's getting all the pleasure and giving none!

    Get rid of him and find someone who appreciates you, pleasures you and doesn't keep saying hurtful things to you.

  • Well, if it's important to you, then you should break up with him and tell him why. Some guys don't like going down. But, even so, the comments he made about your genitals are clearly very hurtful and he shouldn't have said them.

    Since other guys have gone down on you, it's clearly that guy's problem and not yours.

  • I would say dump this selfish prick. This isn't your problem - you know from other guys that your puss is just lovely. This is his problem.

  • He's making excuses. He just doesn't want to go down on you just because.

  • Push his head down on you and hold it their till our satisfied. I kind of would like doing that lol.

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