My boyfriend won't satisfy me?

Me and my boyfriend have been together a good few months now, and we have mostly regular sex, but I'm exremely adventurous in the bedroom (i.e Roleplay, domination, fetishs and so on) and he's really not. We have a great relationship and I have managed to sit down and talk to him about it and it took me a while but I told him the things I liked and that the sex isn't boring me but I like to do it differently too. He took it well and straight after that conversation we had great sex it involved hair pulling and pinning me down and stuff I liked. That was about a month ago and straight after it went back to the boring sex routine again, I have a pretty big sexual appetite, and I normally enjoy it at least twice a day but now I don't want to have sex with him at all. I talked about it to him again the other night over the phone and he said he wanted to try new things for me but I know that when I see him next it'll be dull and same old. Can anyone please give me some good advice that doesn't resort to rape or me murdering him? Thanks x
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  • Well, I had this girl once I really was into but she thought of me only as a brother/Best friend type. But I didn't care I wanted to play with her so bad. So I got her into letting me spoil her with gifts and cash and helping with bills once I got her addicted to this we turned it into a big time roleplay online where she pretended to be blackmailing me and forcing me to learn lessons that woman was the dominate species and deserved to be worshipped by men. We also pretended I was forced to give her cash, gifts and pay bills or she would castrate me if she I didn't continue to obey her and learn her lessons. Most people you will meet probably will be boring compared to your needs. Prehaps you need to be a dominatrix like this and enjoy the thrill of being empowered and taking from a man and controling him in a roleplay thing like this and keep your bf too. It might balance you out if you would like to take ownership of a sub money slave let me know.

  • You just need to get with a real man with a strong d*** to give you what you need. I don't know your boyfriend but obviously he is not satisfying you sexually. You need something else.

    • no its not that he's not satisfying me sexually, I still have orgasms and he still turns me on. But its just that he's not open enough to try new stuff. I think you kind of got the wrong end of the stick there love.

    • If he satisfies you and you get orgasms stop bitching then, wtf?

    • tell me, why are you awnsering this exactly? If you think the solution to being more adventurous in the bedroom is getting a stronger d*** then what would you know about any of the topics I'm asking about? clearly nothing.and if you feel the need to awnser this anonymously too, that also says something about you. So if you think my man needs a stronger d*** then I think I'm entittled to say that you need bigger balls.

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  • And what exactly is wrong with a girl jumping a man? I mean, as long as he doesn't mind being 'raped' as you called it. I have to do that with the boyfriend from time to time... he's pretty vanilla himself anyway. The thing is, if YOU want something different, then YOU have to ask for it when it happens, not lay there like a log going omg vanilla... again... mother eff!

    Maybe you don't like being the dom but maybe with your vanilla man, you have to be... or you tell him, let's try it this way or member when you did x y z, my god that was hot! Whatever...

    some guys just like doing normal stuff because it's easy and they know how to do it well or at least how to do it. It's up to you to teach them new tricks if said tricks is what you want. He can't read your mind... hello!

  • Slowly work into it? You could give domination a try? Bring in some blindfolds. It's still fairly tame but the loss of sight will strengthen all the other senses. I almost know how you feel, I've been with guys like that, but my current boyfriend wants nothing but to satisfy me. It's a nice change.

    • Lucky you :P I'm really submissive and I know it sounds selfish but I'm used to the guy being the dominant role and coming up with all the ideas, and I tried to be dominant-ish before and it failed miserablly, cause I have no idea what I'm doing , sad as that sounds

    • No, I totally know what you mean. I used to be almost completely submissive, but then I started experimenting with domination. Then I tied my boyfriend to a chair and blindfolded him. Basically, I was in control, he couldn't touch me, and I felt like it didn't matter if what I did didn't LOOK sexy because he couldn't see me. I felt more comfortable with it that way. I still love being thrown around a little bit, but you never know until you try! Also with the blindfolds you don't HAVE to be

    • dominant on either side. Just little things might open his mind to being a little more adventurous.

  • Keep on tring is going to take time for him to do what you like...try finding something that you both enjoy

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  • Rape sounds like a pretty good idea. Some how tie him up. Get a strap on. And do your thing. When your done tell him that's what you want to feel every time XD

    • somehow, though I am loving the idea, I don't think he'll be too into me if I leave him in a broken heap on my bed :P

  • I have heard that you play with yourself while he is watching you. While he is watchin you he will get turned on and also find out what you like.

  • I'm afraid this relationship won't work for you. He won't be able to catch up with you sexually. He has to want this and its moving too fast for him.

  • does he seem embarrased when you guys roll play or uninterested?my girl and I go through the same thing.im the adventerous one and she could take it or leave it.i know how you feel.have you tried to get him talk to you about his fantasies?hes got some,trust me!is he a insecure person?

    • we haven't gotten to the roleplaying stage yet, I think he's nervous cause he said that he doesn't want to dissapoint me, but we have talked fantasies and what his fave outfit would be stuff like that and they have all come up blank, I didn't think I'd have to physically threaten him to get him to tell me what turns me on ?_?

  • lol!the last sentance is hilarius!are you always the dominating one or does he sometimes play that?most of the time,guys need to feel like we are ultimately in charge...even if we arnt.

    • Haha, its getting to that :P I'm really submissive, but even though he's very neutural about the whole whose dominant thing, I always treat him as the dominant which is probably what makes it so hard for me to talk to him about it. I'd like him to be in charge, but he just won't take the reins, he's not inexperienced sexually he's been having sex and long relationships since he was 15 and he's nearly 20, but he's never been adventurous.

  • Try to hire him a costume from Gandalf. He's the icon of manlyness and he will feel that way once he wears the robes and wizard hat.

  • As a very wild and adventurous man in bed... I'll tell you, you'll never get to what you want if your with someone who just isn't that way.. you'll always be yearning..

    find someone like you :P

  • I will. Cut the zero and get with a hero. It sexual darwinism.

  • sorry...I have the same problem with my man, but if its that bad in a few months then its not a good sign. Find out what he likes, every guy has something and then build off that. My man likes the business girl thing but is very vanilla, so I incorporate that and push it further.