My coworker has a girlfriend but we're having sex. Is that bad?

So my coworker and I have been working together for 2 and a half years. He's had a girlfriend for 2 years. She recently moved to England for school. We have gotten really close since she's left and he told me that she is a virgin and won't have sex until she's married. We would stay after work and talk about our sex stories. One day we were leaving and I called him back to the office and asked if I could have a kiss. We started making out pretty heavily. Next thing I know his hand is down my pants and we ended up having sex on his desk. He tells me how much we have in common and how alike we are and I'm the opposite of his girl friend and he likes that. I don't know what to do. Help!
Updates:
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So his girlfriend came back 2 weeks ago and she wanted to surprise him by showing up at his apartment (she knew where he hid his spare key) and lets just saw she was surprised when she saw me on top of him LOL.
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He apologized and she went back to him. I was sad of course but his brother was there to console me and now we've been dating ever since.
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  • You don't have to ask if this is bad - you already know it is.

    Not for him because he doesn't seem to care about how his girlfriend would feel about this, but for you because you're making an emotional and physical investment that you will get no return on. He's telling you what you want to hear in order to continue sleeping with you. If he truly cared for you then you guys would be an item. If your feelings were important to him, then there would be no reason for him to cheat - he would just break it off with her and be with you. If her feelings were important to him - then he would have broken it off to spare her the humiliation of being cheated on. No one's feelings count to him but his own.

    I'm sure you already know this or you wouldn't be asking. If you needed some addition clarity - here it is. He's going to hurt everyone but himself.

    Good luck.

  • You are clearly...um...not so smart. Honey let me put you on some game, guys (the asshole player type you seem to be familiar with) work together. This guy got caught messing around with you, he is going back to his girlfriend and pretty much passed his brother off to you. His brother was conveniently there to console you, hope you don't think he truly likes you or cares. Most likely his brother knows what type of woman you are and is using you for as long as it suits him (just like his brother did). Guys talk just as much as girls do. His brother knows what's up hopefully you do!

  • First of all... put yourself you his girlfriends position... Now how would you feel if it were happening to you? This is really about morals... In my opinion, the fact that you know he has a girlfriend, not only is he in the wrong, but you are too. Now, let's say he ends up breaking up with his girlfriend to be with you. Will you be able to trust him? Or will you constantly be wondering if he is cheating on you like he did his girlfriend? Is all of that worth it? You need to go find you a good man who isn't already taken.

  • OMG that's like totally good! Keep sleeping with this guy that has a girlfriend honey! Good job that's a marvelous thing you're doing, you're totally not a whore and your morals are superior! The guy seems like a wonderful chap too!

    • Lol... no sarcasm intended ;)

Most Helpful Guys

  • I'm probably a bad guy for saying this, but your main problem is that you worry a bit too much. Chill out, ride it out.

  • He's just using you, and you've pretty much ruined a relationship. Yes he's responsible too, but it takes two.

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  • once a cheater always a cheater. if he really liked you he would have dumped his girlfriend before he had done anything with you. kinda seems like a piece of a$$ really.

  • All is well that ends well! These things usually happen when someone is in a long distance relationship so don't beat yourself up over it. One or both partners end up hitting it off with someone local where you have lots in common. Sparks fly... it leads to a fun night 🌙 of passion where it tends to continue on longer if the sex is great.

    We all have our sexual needs and I'm glad you enjoyed your hot 🔥 and naughty rides on his pole 😉😈

  • stop banging him? don't expect a relationship for sure cus if he's willing to cheat for you he'll cheat ON you too

    • Totally agree. +!

    • Way to go slut high five