My current girlfriend has slept with 7 guys before me and she is only 19 is that bad?

Well I have slept with 25 women and she knows it, but what kills me is that she just turn 19 years old and she already had sex with 7 guys 8 including me....She doesn't seem to care about my past..but for some reason her past kills me. She tells me that I should not care about her past, but I do I would not care if she was 25, but she is freaking 19 years old!!!!! Please anyone out there what should I do???
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  • I think people that even discuss this in a relationship are setting themselves up for problems. I don't see what the big deal is. A girl that has slept with a handful of guys is going to be more apt to know what it is she wants and probably less apt to sleep around on you. A girl that knows how to enjoy sex without feeling guilty or having hang ups about it is a great girl in my book any day.

    I think you would know a tramp if you saw one and if you are dating her then I'd take a guess that you don't think she is a tramp. Girls have as much right to enjoy sex as guys. Double standards are unfair. 19 is how old I was when I was a sophomore in college. After high school and a year in college I'd say 7 is nothing. Let me ask you this. Is it some how worse if she slept with 7 guys once or a few times or if she slept with one or two guys like 200 times?

    I can appreciate that you feel jealous but if you don't get past that you will never enjoy a relationship. She is with you now and that's all that should matter. If she can be ok with your 25 I think you should pay her the same courtesy.

    I have to ask. Why even count? It's not like they are giving out prizes. That tells me you spent an awful long time making a list or you think about it a lot. If your goal is to impress your friends or have some kind of personal conquest I think you are in it for the wrong reason. The reason I slept with the girls I did was to learn about them, trying to find someone into the same things, and above all because it's one of the few great pleasures in life that's free.

    I think you need to forget the past and start living in the present before she moves on.

    • You are so right. I think a guy likes a girl with a little experience but to get that experience she has to sleep with someone

  • I think you are over reacting a little to the whole thing- If you are at 25 girls- think of where you were at when you were 19... You have to apply the same standards to her as you do for your self. If you are confident in her and the relationship it shouldn't matter about the past... You have to be secure enough with yourself to not let that bother you...

    • Really thanks man...Well you do have a point when I was 19 I was the same dude, but the thing that kills me is that she is a girl and she is bloddy gorgous, but thanks man your right it should not bother me. Thanks for ur answer...

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  • I'm 19 too and yes if I did have sex with 7 guys - I don't think it would bother me - the fact that you have slept with 25 women - if mine slept with 25 too it wouldn't bother me either because I know that for the time being he was a horny teenaged boy and a horny man and I would forgive him because I know he loves and cares about me. That I'm the only one in his life at this stage and if our bond is strong as hell I wouldn't care for life with who and how many he slept with...does that make any sense to you at all? oh and by the way seriously dude mr f***y-f*** come one pick something else just saying...I mean my opinion no offense though....

  • I'm shocked that you having slept with 25 people, could fault your girl for having slept with 18 less people then you.

    How long did it take you to sleep with all these women 1, 2, 3 , 4 or 5 years, How many women did you sleep with per year? How long has she been sexually active 1,2,3,4 or 5 years? 7 guys in 4 or 5 years is not so bad. But 7 guys in 1 year is nasty. Same for you though.

    My question to you is would you have been happier if she would have lied to you? Is it more important that her numbers are low, or is it more important that she trusted you enough to tell you the truth about her numbers.

  • I think you're overreacting a little bit. Yea 7 guys is a lot for a girl her age but how old are you? Imagine if she had been the one who slept with 25 guys, how uncomfortable would you feel then? If she's comfortable with forgetting about you sleeping with 25 women, you need to get over the fact that she's slept with seven guys. In a relationship, you have to learn to compromise, even if it means forgetting about the past and not letting it get to you. If it bothers you that much then you should talk to her, maybe she's having this same dilemma about you and those other females you've been with.

  • Hehe I had slept the same amount of guys when I was at that age and I only once told that to one guy who totally freaked out.. ever since I have been ekeping the number secret.

    You should not freak out, she is with you now and you both have your past, so calm down :)

    What matters is the present and be lucky she has some experience, it is more enjoyable for both of you this way.

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  • Well how many people have you slept with? If you number is similar, should you really be judging? Sometimes girls make mistakes when their younger. They grow out of it. As long as she is committed to you and only sleeping with you, her past shouldn't matter.

  • I'm 19 and I've slept with one... I guess it depends on the girl. Sometimes they regret it sometimes they felt it was right.

  • 7 is above average for a 19 year old (unless of course she's a professional). If her experience made her a "better" person -- as in, if it made her more careful (or conservative) about how she interacts with other guys, then you should be grateful and forget about her past.

    If she seems like it hasn't changed her for the better -- as in, she's a major flirt and she has more guy friends than you, then consider yourself forewarned and touched by the hand of easy predictions.

  • No you have a right to know her history, and that is scary, she needs someone to stop her, before she burns out

    • She's going to get hurt

  • Past is not the issue its the present and future. People make mistakes, people change things happened. You should never judge someone by their past. If I had a bf that was so bugged on my past I would dump him. Your girlfriend is right.