My ex boyfriend who is my baby's father wants sex and I said no?

[Anonymous]

I don't know want to do anymore, I refuse to have sex with him because we have been broken up for a while and he has a girlfriend. I am in my 30s and so is he but he keeps acting like a child. I asked his mom to talked to him about the sexual comments and when he comes buy he forces himself on me to kiss me. He grabs my hands against the wall, to kiss me and it is scary. I want him to have a relationship with his nine month old baby but now he has been creeping me out. I was a victim of date rape before so you see why is it so scary to me. I am afraid to tell someone because then everyone would think that I am making it up so he doesn't see the baby. He has been getting more aggressive since the state issued child support. I have been getting over him and tired of him and lies. Should I tell his girlfriend of his behavior? He is my child's father and I don't want to get him in trouble with law but I also have post traumatic stress disorder because of the rape that happened early in my life and it has been getting worse. What should I do

[gummybear888]

he has to grow up. he doesn't sound like he's grown up.

he needs to respect your boundaries.

if she asks then tell her.

doesn't matter if he's the father of the child, he has nothing to do with you now. he has a girlfriend.

if I were in your situation I would directly tell him not to be within a 10 km radius around me or I'd get a restraining order.

you yourself need therapy or someone to talk to. he should have no right to force you to do anything. tell him, he needs to get help if he's that much of a perv and that you have rights. this guy is bad news for you and the child, get him out of your life.

legal issues? I wouldn't care what legal trouble I'd get a guy in if he's forcing him on me, I'd be calling the police, I don't care if he's an ex or not, that gives him no right to force himself on you.

[elements]

You need to get the police involved. As much as you want your child to have a father in his/her life, it's not fair to you. Besides, do you really want your child to be exposed to that kind of behavior ? Overall, it's bad for both of you.

Seek help, and get a restraining order against him.

[diamond3]

do not tell his girl that will make him angry and could cause him to get more violent. that is their relationship don't get involved. but you need to only meet him in public for now on so he won't pull that any more

[TheAnswerer]

Listen. As important as it is for the baby to have a father, it is even more important for her to have a healthy and stable mother. You are as important (if not more important) as the father is. You need to think about yourself a little bit, because if you are not in good condition, then it is harder for you to take care of a baby.

Therefore, you SHOULD get the police involved. What if he gets worse, and one day sexually abuses you? Or worse? You can't allow this. The more you stay passive and not react, the more he thinks he can do whatever he wants and get away with it.

If you react (get the police involved), he will have to stop.

[TsubasaCorrupted]

Do what is best for you. I would have him arrested.

[sunmonster]

You need to let his girlfriend know. What he's doing is wrong.

[jwbjimmy23]

Tell his girlfriend or go back to him

[Anonymous]

First tell his girlfriend , second tell his parents to talk to him or
he going to jail ,3rd tell him to please stop that he dicuss you I am
asking you nicely giving you a chance to stop or you going to put him in jail
was your husband the one that raped you do you still see the guy that raped you
plus you need help cost nothing to ask for it