My girlfriend feels unattractive and has lost interest in sex

[Anonymous]

Me and my girlfriend are very close, we are living together and have been together about 6 months. For the first 4 months the sex was great and we were doing it about 3 times a week but recently she has lost interest and just puts on the TV instead and makes up excuses. When I talk to her she says its because she feels unattractive because she has put on weight. I haven't noticed her get bigger at all and she is very attractive. I try all the obvius things like making her feel sexy and telling her how attractive she is, and I cook and take her out to try and set the mood etc. but all she wants to do when we get to bed is go to sleep. We have sex about once a week now but it is always initiated by me. When we do have sex its good and she orgasms and I know she enjoys it. Its just she often doesn't feel like it in the first place. What can I do to make her feel attractive?

[Erika]

And you two only been dating for six months? That does sound a little strange… Some women have big sex drives, others don’t. Maybe you two are getting too comfortable together since you two live together? Try looking a little bit better (clean up a little). Talk to her about it, tell her how you feel. Honestly from my experience the two of you should still be in that ‘happy honey moon stage’ since you guys have only been dating for 6 months. I can understand if it was like 3 or 4 years down the road. Look take it from me (a girl) I’ve been dating this guy for 4 years! And we barley have sex like if lucky once a month (I know sad, right?) It’s not his fault at all, its mine! But I’m just not that sex crazy about him anymore and I believe it has a lot to do with a lot of things. Like for instance how long we’ve been dating for, US GETTING TOOO CONFORTABLE TOGETHER, and me just being straight up lazy. I don’t know if this helps but I can just tell you what might be happening from my own experience. Good Luck!

[meow-D]

next time your trying to set the mood and she doesn't want to tell her that it doesn't matter that she might not like the way she looks because you love it and have no problem with it. your obviously still physically attracted to her and want to be intimate. she's gotta get used to it at some point.

[l-hedoniste]

First, you can't make her feel anything. Don't even try.

Now, you're going to have a long talk with her, probably over a period of time. This talk will cover (in order):

*how much you care about her

*how attractive you think she is

*how her libido is affecting your relationship

*your openness to positive change

*your desire to her her feelings on your sex life.

Then, cross your fingers. Best of luck.

[Anonymous]

Just don't marry her.this is her real side.