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My girlfriend refuses to do oral.?

My girlfriend refuses to do oral, she said she thinks it would be gross and would not even let me give her oral. Have any guys had this problem with their girlfriends? Ladies, what would you say? I am not going to force her to do anything she doesn't want, but I really, really want to know what it is like ;)
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She says she thinks oral is way more intimate than sexual intercourse, so I guess she doesn't feel ready for oral but she is up for sex. is this common?
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  • Like no oral yet, or no oral ever? I can't imagine a guy staying with a girl who was refusing to ever give oral. Not in this era when most girls are fine with it. Really I've got girlfriends who are on every level from prudish to slutty, but they've all given head. And even the prudish ones don't totally hate it. Plus wouldn't a guy take it as kind of an insult? Like she was saying "I know that pretty much every other girl does this for her boyfriend, but I won't do it for you." That would bug the hell out of me. Like when I was (briefly) with a guy who wouldn't give me oral. I'd look around at all the other woman and think about how they were getting licked and I wasn't and it drove me crazy. Like I knew I was just as sexy as any of them so why the hell was I with a guy who wouldn't go down? And I fixed that situation before it went on too long. Life's too short to stay with people who don't satisfy you sexually. And people who try to make you feel bad for wanting something that it's totally normal to want, well they can just go die.

    • You totally hit the nail on the "head" here!!

    • Heh, thanks.

  • ok I may not know everything but I remember at that age I thought that way too. I watched movies where women were giving head, and was like " eww I would never do that , that's nasty". then one guy ccame along that I really loved.he never asked me to give him oral.but I loved him so much and he was such a great guy . I knew he wanted it.and I wanted to please him ( he had given me oral plenty times).so one day in the car while driving I just unbuckled his pants and gave it to him GOOD. He was shocked. But he liked it. Now, I love doing it for a guy that I love. I mean I won't do it for any old body because that would make me want to throw up.but I guess when you really care about someone .you do thinkgs you NEVER thought you would do. How long have yall been together? give it some time and don't be so persistent. If she still doesn't come around , just leave.

    • Also I remember thinking of giving head as being disrespected by a guy. I mean in the media they make as if putting your dick in a female's mouth is the ultimate disrepspect. You hear things like " I want this bitch to suck my dick" and etc and you think " man, I would never want a guy to do that to me. Once I got older , and because I had a guy that was understanding, I learned differently. Like I said just be understanding and talk to her. See exactly why she thinks it is disgusting etc.

  • i would never do it. I think it is gross. and I wouldn't receive it either [ha! maybe never that.] what makes me not want to do it its basically your eating your own shit too.cause after they kiss you.

    one night I was drunk and my boyfriend was takin' care of me.i was pretty gone.i was like umm! whatd we do. than he did a hand motion I was like excuse you& walked off. I thought he said I done sucked him up.i was like hell naw. he was like naw nasty ass.i don't wanna be kissing my own dick.so I guess it differs.

    and if its her first time[ur girlfriend case] she's not gonna feel comfortable because she doesn't know what's she's doing.so if she does something once you like be like oh I like when you did that or that

  • I love giving oral! Especially when my man is reallly hard:) When two people love each other there is no feeling gross about anything sexual between the two of you. It is about enjoying each others body and making each other feel good. I find that most of my friends don't like to. One friend has been married for 6 years and her husband only gets birthday head. The only advice I can give is make sure you are always clean and trimmed up. If that area smells and/or looks like a jungle no girl is going to want to explore. If she already knows you really want it there is nothing more you can really do. Make sure you don't pressure her and maybe one day you will receive a nice birthday gift:)

Most Helpful Guy

  • Well if your girlfriend refuses to do oral because she thinks it would be gross, then if I were you ,I wouldn't try to convince her otherwise since you're both still young. If you're as curious as you say, then you probably need to find another girlfriend that wants to do it as much as you do or some slut that's been doing it with everyone. Aren't you satisfied with your relationship like it is or does it require doing oral for you to be happy or satisfied?

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  • A flat out refusal to try it is outrageous! I personally have a try-everything-once rule. You never know what you might like when it comes to your sexuality until you try it. If she won't do this, think of what else she won't try. She better be a killer girlfriend in all other aspects or get a new one. I don't say that just so you'll get some action but you should be with someone who is willing to experience and try the same things you want to.

  • Not for me. I probably do oral more than just regular sex. But I do however understand what she means, saying it is more intimate and everything.

  • It's fun. She's missing out. Both ways. It is not nasty, it's the human body. Appreciate it's features. Why not do it? She probably doesn't trust your stuff, or hey, maybe hers isn't "up to par" and doesn't want to get embarrassed.

  • no. she's a prude. for me, oral (to a guy and receiving) is a huge turn on. its part of foreplay

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