Try not to directly stimulate the clitoris.
Let's take a step down in "directness". Try to stimulate the clit without lifting the clitoral hood.
Another step down would be for you to stimulate areas around the clitoris, like less than a quarter inch away.
** An alternate idea is to stimulate a different part of the clit. As you probably know, the clitoris is not just one tiny lump. It extends under the labia. (That's the main reason why penetration is pleasurable for women.) This means that stimulating the labia itself is almost equivalent to stimulating the clitoris. **
By the way, if she never had an orgasm before, it is normal for her to be a little nervous about the new sensations that arise when you stimulate her. If that is the case, calm her down, and ensure her that it is normal. May be she can take a little more that way.
try rubbing the whole region flat handed using 3 fingers. Use plenty { make her sloppy wet there} of water base lotion. Rub in fast circles with random reversals. The slickness will permit pressure and mition without irritation and chafing.
mine is really sensitive too where I can never directly touch it so I rub it on the side which brings me to orgasm. just rub around it rather than on it
If direct contact hurts, try indirect contract(on and around her clit hood)
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not really she rarely does it herself and has never had it done
So in other words, she has no idea how to have an orgasm.
Try touching her through her hood rather than on the exposed clit itself or you could try stimulation her g-spot but really if she can have an orgasm during sex, which many women cant, then she doesn't need to come from oral sex or masturbation
when you go down on her you don't need focus on her clit suck on the edges of the labia or tounge her vulva or just generaly lick the area of the vagina it works great whenever I do it
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