My girlfriend told me her ex an her had a threesome?

well they are obviously not together any longer. I'm not OK with this I fell I'm pretty accepting in the sense that I don't expect a girl to be a virgin however this is kinda crossing the line. she said she won't do this again but I fell if I'm with her she should do it at least more then once just to make it fair and I don't even want a threesome but the fact that she would do it for another man and not myself makes me kinda, I don't know how to describe it I fell insulted, cheated I fell a lot of things. I think I'm going to break up with her not right away because I still have feelings for her but maybe in a few months when I have gradually stepped back to ease my way out but I don't know is this a dumb thing to break up over I know its not an std or anything like that but its in my mind and has been for a while now and I really don't want to live like this I don't know what do you think have any of you been there how did it play out .
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  • She did it with the other guy because she didn't have self-respect and clearly didn't respect him. Hence why they have both wound up parting ways for the better. Consider it a crucial stepping stone in the maturing process of a young woman.

    Be happy she refuses to invite other variables into the relationship. It shows how much she has feelings for you. But I completely understand where you are coming from. What she did in the past makes you feel like you've missed the bus, and to no fault of your own. It's aggravating, because you feel that you deserve a seat on that bus, so you can continue a perilous trip into a pit of flames while laughing away your sins. She knows that this experience leads to nothing good, and that's why she refuses to make the same mistake twice.

    • no I've turned down many threesomes but it bugs me that she refuses to be my slut when she was another mans slut that she doesn't even talk to now

  • I feel the same way man. If the girl I really liked talked about a 3 some she had before I'd be upset. But you have to understand its the past what happened in the past is not now. I would be in a serious relationship with a girl if and only if she promised me not to bring it up or want another 3 some.

    • well if I could kick the guys ass and cut his d*** off it would be OK but I can't so I'm stuck

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  • it sound like it was something she tried once and didn't like, I think totally fair to not want to do it again, its not like she would do it with any other guy...she just doesn't like threesomes

    • i understand this but if I'm to maker her my wife she would have done things for other men she won't eve do for her husband I don't think it should be that way and it really makes me second guess everything

    • when she did it with th other guy she didn't know she wasn't going to like it...now that she know she not willing to do it again I think it fair

    • yeah but she still did it with another man do you not at least see why I'm upset

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  • i can understand why you would be grr about it

    • well at least you can see why I'm upset

    • i had ex that did the same thing, but kept bringing it up

    • what do you mean he had a threesome or you did

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  • Is the problem that she had a threesome in the past? Or is the problem that she won't have a threesome with you?

    • both

    • 1. It's in the past. If you like her, it shouldn't matter. 2. Just because she did it in the past, doesn't mean she "owes it to you" to do it with you. Maybe she didn't like it. Maybe it caused problems in her relationship and she doesn't want to jeopardize her relationship with you. Maybe she didn't really want to do it, but he pressured her into it. Regardless, there is no rule that if a person did something in their past relationship, they have to do it in every relationship.

    • yeah I just don't feel that way I feel like I would be getting cheated and her past is part of her it also reflects on me so it does matter I don't know why people say that and I understand if she ddint like it but it doesn't change the fact she still did it with another man so I feel if I'm going to commit to her she owes it to me just to be fair

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  • i think relationship is right next to sexuality when your picking a catagory mabye it was just a slip, also sometimes you see questions in multiple catirgories

  • Definitely agree with you. She doesn't respect you enough to do that for you but will for other exs & most likely "good guy friends" too from my experience. I'd say leave her or cheat on her & get what's yours. Don't listen to these bitter sl*ts in the comments who you know dog their men daily.

  • Well you obviously never really liked this girl in the first place if you would dump her over having a threesome in the past. Do whatever you want, just be aware of your own actions and feelings.

    • thats not true at all thanks for you help though

  • Stop being such a f** dude. She did this in her last relationship, you aren't entitled to a threesome because she had one in her last relationship.

    • why not

    • Every relationship is different.

    • i understand that but if she did this with him she does this so she should do it for me its just its insulting