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My husband always has his hand on his balls. It disgusts me. How do I handle it before it ends my marriage?

Itching them, scratching them, holding them, playing with them, adjusting them, whatever. Well, it's fucking gross! They sweat all day, he's overweight so I know they REALLY sweat and I don't want his stinky hands touching me. I wouldn't rub on my vag after a workout and then grab his hand or touch his face. It's just nasty. I've mentioned it to him before but he continues to do it. It's gotten so bad that mentally I cannot stand the thought of him touching me even fresh out of the shower. I've told him it's a turn off and he still does it and then wonders why I haven't had sex with him in 6 months. I can't even beat the thought of it, all I can think about is sweaty, nasty balls. I've also caught him smelling his hand afterward so I know he knows it stinks. How do I handle this? I'm dead serious when I say it will end our relationship. He's a great father and never used to do this in front of me, I guess he's just more comfortable now but I hate it with every part of my being. It's unsanitary and disgusting.
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Let me clarify, there has been a lot leading up to the breakdown of the marriage and we are "working" on it. This just doesn't help. It's the equivalent of me having swamp ass, running my hand up and down my crack and leaning in to caress your face to kiss you goodnight. It's NOT "just a guy thing". It's repulsive!
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Well, we are now separated. It came down to a respect thing. I asked repeatedly for him to stop doing this and he continued anyway. The marriage was weak and this was the straw that did it. He's been gone three weeks and we went to our first counseling session a week ago. It's disgusting and he can fondle them all he wants now, on his own time. If he wishes to come back home he will have to learn some self control.
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  • What? You're married deal with it. There's men cheating on there wives, not appreciating there wives & all your husband does is touch his balls? Like the man can't help that his balls sweat. How would you feel if your husband said ewww you're gross because you're on your period. I hate seeing your tampon in the trash can. The thought of even touching you while you're on your period is disgusting. Do you see what I mean? He can't help it like at all. Plus you haven't had sex in half a year? Lady, you need to stop being so uptight & give your husband a break. Do you really want to lose your husband because he touches his balls? Appreciate those balls before another woman does.

    • Presumably I would just start having my period, I've had it the entire time he's known me. Being rubbed on by stinky ball hands is not something I signed up for. Had he done this before I would have no doubt been repulsed and ended it during the dating phase of the relationship. It's also not something he cannot control, if he lost his arm tomorrow I would stand by him (then it wouldn't be an issue lol) and take care of him, he cannot control that. But fondling a part of his body that smells like what it's surrounded by is fully within his control. And hey, if he has to do it fine (I'm sure he always has) just not while he's sitting next to me and then reach for my hand. It's gross

  • Wow.

    I've never heard a relationship ending over balls.

    All you can do is continue to let him know you are at your wits ends.
    If he doesn't change... leave him.

    I know it's unsanitary but that wouldn't be enough for me to leave my husband and raise my kid in a single parent home.

  • Put a remote controlled zapper in his drawers. Every time he sticks his hand down there, zap the sh*t out of him. He'll learn pretty quick he doesn't want to do it.

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  • Sounds like a serious problem, and not one I blame you for. That IS disgusting. Is there anyone in his life who he respects and listens to that you could tell?

    • I think talking to someone else that he knows would be embarrassing for him and I don't want to embarrass him. Awhile back he had agreed to go to marriage counciling, the plan was that he would go the first two months on his own (because there are other issues that he has to sort out himself) and then I would join him. Well, it never happened, he went to three appointments and didn't go back. I had planned on addressing it again at that time.

    • Well, then you are giving in to him grossing YOU out CONSTANTLY, over HIM being embarrassed ONCE. And I was going to suggest you get him into a MC, but you have given away your power there too. I mean no disrespect, but you have the power to do as you see fit, yet refuse to force the issue. SO what have you left yourself, walking out on your relationship? Which I would and do wholeheartedly support if he can't stop this pedantic locker-room behavior, but is that taking your kids into account? Not that your own happiness must be forever tied to theirs like a prisoner, depriving you of any personal choices or desires. But you have a serious issue here now, and will have to make a choice one way or another. It's up to you, and you alone how you want to deal with your husband's indifference towards you, and to the kids, if he does this in front of them as well, and possibly embarrassing them in front of their visiting friends. All of which is a bit obvious, so is not new.

  • Indeed it is disgusting, punch his balls everytime he does so in front of you or just issue threats of it. 😁

    • That's actually not a bad idea. Except I don't want to hurt him. I just want him to fucking stop it!

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  • How did you talk to him about it?

    Don't end a marriage over this...

    • It got so bad that he yelled at me during an argument,"You won't even let me touch you anymore!" My response,"Well maybe if you didn't have you hands on your balls all the time and have them stinking like ass I would let you! Who wants to be touched by hands that smell like taint? NOT ME!" It hasn't subsided any! It would also be different if this was something he had always done, he didn't used to do it. And yes, his hands smell like sweaty balls. Several times when he's gone to touch me I've said,"Smell your hand" And off to the bathroom he goes because I'm right, it stinks like shit.

    • I don't know what to say. Try expressing it in a calmer tone? Tell him in calm tone why you haven't slept with him/don't let him touch u.. why it bothers you.. and how it makes you feel.. etc

  • Bleeehhhh I hate when I see a guy fondling his balls!!! I'd rather catch someone masturbating lol

    • *Unzips*, *starts masturbating and fondling the balls at the same time*. That better now? :D @sweetestxemily

  • End you marriage? Give me a break.

  • first world problems..

  • He might have crabs or scabies.

    • No crabs or scabies lol I would know. Like I said, he's very heavy, 350 pounds heavy. So I'm sure it's sweaty all the time down there. It just doesn't make it ok and certainly doesn't make it ok to touch me with it.

    • Have you been with him for over a decade?

    • Pretty close

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  • One's marriage is fragile if balls are putting it to the wall.

  • You need to end your marriage immediately! That is unacceptable behavior from a man living in a civilized society!

  • If you really loved your husband, your husband scratching his balls would seem really attractive to you. I think your relationship is over. Sorry. You could extend this marriage of unhappiness for longer or you could move on. Moving on may seem tougher, but will be worth it if it will make your happier.

    • Ball scratching will never be a turn on for me. Not ever, it's gross.

    • Okay, you're really funny. Thank for the laugh.

  • Sounds like this shit is doomed! How many marriages DONT end in divorce these days? LEAVE HIM BECAUSE HE TOUCHES HIS BALLS TO MUCH!!!

  • SAME! It repulsed me so much that I would end it too because it makes me want to gag.. Tell him your serious and that If he doesn't your not kidding about leaving him.

  • you're a prude and he's just a guy

    • so you wouldn't care if your gf/ wife was doing the same. being a guy doesn't mean he can be gross.

    • if my girlfriend played with her vagina and then touched me i wouldn't care i mean seriously you've had that penis in you and the sweat from it in you and pretty much every bodily fluid from him on you or in you at some point the sweat down there is the same sweat from his hands yet you wouldn't think it's gross to hold his hand if it had sweat would you? i mean i'd understand if he did it and just like rubbed your face all over but i really doubt that's whats happening kinda sounds like you're just being a wife yeah maybe it's gross but if you really think that the simple act of touching his balls would end your marriage you really need to figure out what else is wrong in the relationship

    • Like I said, there has been a breakdown leading up to this. Remember, he also never used to do this, it wouldn't even bother me so much but it's compulsive. Plus, if he told me I was doing something that bothered him so much I would surely, definitely not do it in front of him.

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