My relationship revolves around sex. help

[Anonymous]

Me and my boyfriend have been going out for a year and a half. All we do ever is lie down and have sex and sleep. When I wanna do something else he says he is too poor. And after sex he gets so tired (I get that's a guy thing) so he usually leaves my house right after or goes to sleep. We never have good conversations. I feel like we have no emotional connection. But he really loves me and we have fun together, he always texts me to ask how my day was. And I have brought this problem to his attention and he tried to fix it for a week, then it went back to normal. What do I do! I'm sick of feeling like our relationship can't survive without sex. I might be moving soon and it can't go on like this.

[diosadelanoche]

Question - if he doesn't do anything with you other than have sex and ask how your day was, what is it you "have fun together" doing? If the answer is just that the sex is good, this relationship is only about sex. As someone else said, not everything costs money. He's too poor to watch a movie before/after? Is there food in his/your kitchen? He's too poor to cook it and eat with you?

Meh. If you want more from this relationship, you should leave. The only good thing you've said about him was that he asks you how your day was, and that does not a good boyfriend make. I ask strangers in the elevator how their day was sometimes. It doesn't demonstrate affection for you or effort in your relationship. If you've told him how you felt and he's unable to provide what you need romantically, find someone else.

[toulouse]

he leaves your house after sex because he's 'too tired' to do anything with you-including sleep?

there are myriad things you can do for free that do not involve sex.

the fact he changed for a week means he's perfectly capable of doing ore than just sex.

why does he choose only sex?

you can't do more than talk to him about it. if he's not inerested in a relationship the way you are- then leave.

stop having sex with him until you guys start spending time together while you're conscious.

[Anonymous]

Just don't have sex when you don't want to. Do something else (cheap), watch movies, play games, talk, go for a walk together, stuff like that.

I think you'd probably be better with someone else. Sex is fantastic and important in a relationship, but it shouldn't be ALL you two do together.

[Racez]

It seems that he got in a relationship with you so that he can get laid every time he wants it.

Simply move on from the guy. You're better off with a guy who will care, understand, and communicate with you.

[alexxu]

You have the wrong man. I've had men that only want sex and that's all right sometimes, when I'm in that mood. I've had others that give me a lot more. Match your man to your needs, there are plenty more fish in the sea.