My straight boyfriend is attracted to transexual women and I feel like I won't be good enough.

In other words, my boyfriend is turned on by women with d***s. I've known this for quite some time and I've been okay with it... until recently. I found his secret blog the other day when he accidentally followed me on it and all I saw was girls with d***s or very tiny women or the occasional obese woman. I am nowhere near small, I'm about a size 12 so I would say I'm big but not as big as the girls on his blog. I feel like I'm not what he wants... How can I satisfy him if I don't have a penis? We have a GREAT sex life, but lately there's been another flavor to it... He bought a strap on and likes me to wear it and f*** him and he also likes to f*** me anally (I do not like anal penetration personally). A) Is this normal? B) Will I be able to satisfy or will he need something more? C) Is his blog kind of saying he doesn't want me?
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  • a) Is it normal?

    Well, it's well within the bounds of normal human sexuality, yes. Pegging (as it is known) is common enough that it has its own name to describe the action.

    b) Yes, you'll be able to satisfy him.

    Porn helps a guy with his normal lusts for something different. Tranny women in this case. It's not something he will actively have to have in his sex life, especially if you're pegging him once in a while and he can fantasise.

    c) No, the blog is just his way of indulging in his fantasy. Like a p*rn collection, really.

    Lastly, your boyfriend is probably not bisexual. Most guys into transwomen identify as straight. It's still the female form they are attracted to, it's just the genitalia which is different.

  • A) No. Making you do anal, give and receive when you don't want it shouldn't be normal. As far as finding certain things sexually attractive, every guy is different.

    B) Yes. I'm in to transsexual women, but I don't need to be with one. I don't need a girl to wear a strap on or anything. They are just hot.

    C) Not necessarily. Could be just a fantasy that he occasionally wants to live out. Doesn't mean he doesn't like or want you.

    • He doesn't make me do anal, he knows I don't like it and he's okay with it (we only tried it once) but I don't mind f***ing him with a strap on. I just feel like he needs somethng more that I can't give. He also likes being f***ed. He likes me to be in charge and "likes to be my little f***-bag"

    • If you are fine with it and he's not making you do anything that you don't want to do, it sounds like everything is good. Surely, your boyfriend isn't the only type of guy that you are attracted to. Are you going to leave him when one of those guys comes along? It's the same thing in my perspective.

Most Helpful Girls

  • A) What he's into sexually is normal, but making you do anything you don't want to do isn't.

    B) Of course you're fine. Just because he's into qualities that you don't have doesn't mean he's not into qualities that you DO have. That sentence is unintelligible, haha. I have a thing for manboobs, does that mean I find my boyfriend's flat chest unattractive or wish that he was different? Nope!

    C) No. I see those blogs as a form of self-expression in a way. For me, at least.

  • there is no such thing as a woman with a d***. if she has a d*** than it is a MAN. he pretty much likes men there's nothing you can do about it. I guess you can just be happy using a strap on

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  • From what you describe, I think he is sexually attracted to men and women. He wants you to basically act like a man having sex with him.

  • its his version of p*rn. all guys do it so they won't stray. don't worry aobut it

  • Is this what sigmund freud meant when he talked about penis envy?

  • It's his fantasy you are his reality. Don't feel bothered or worried. You two are doing fine