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My Virgin boyfriend and I had sex for the first time ever last night, he didn't last very long, is this normal?

We are both virgins, and regularly play around with eachother, he can usually last well over 20+ minutes. He also doesn't have a hard time keeping an erection. Do you think he just got excited? I think so, I just want a guys perspective. Oh and we are both insanely sick with the same illness so I'm surprised he initiated it, he was actually in the ER two days ago. So he's not very snuggly right now, which is understandable.
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Guys generally don't last long without some decent practice and developing a mental technique (mentally getting confidence around physical and eventually mental control over 'the point of no return'), you practice by having sex in a comfortable position where he isn't doing some insane push ups just to keep the sex motion going.. Maybe doggystyle with you both kneeling, or you propped up on bolsters/cushions under your butt so he can kneel on the bed without crouching too much.. This is important, cause he has to be very at ease when training stamina... He has to learn how to regain composure after building close to the point of no return.. Which means he has to communicate for the sex motion to stop, while he regains himself while still inside you (if you try to regain composure by pulling out the change in feeling in so extreme, most guys can never handle this as a beginner that's still developing his stamina). After enough practice, eventually you won't even need to ever slow down, he can be mentally in control enough to go for hours... But this takes time to train.. First you need to practice and stopping all motions when he needs to, then after he totally regains his composure (recharged his distance from the point of no return), might graduate to practicing with him just asking you to slow the motion down while he regains composure, and eventually he might not even need that..

    • My first time I lasted a long time, like 40mins, and had a second round.. But even for me this was unusual for my early sexual activity.. I am used to masturbating with a tight grip, and so sex in comparison was much lighter than the sexual stimulation I was acclimatized with... So I was just lucky enough that I was visually, psychologically sexually stimulated, and with the bear physical stimulus needed to keep a really strong/excited erection... That became a small issue later on, because condoms cut down on stimulation even more, and she made an exception on my first time, but as I became more sensative to how sex feels, I stopped having the problem of losing my erection inside the condom (which would happen whenever there was an interruption in the sensation from re-positioning, or her taking a breather while she was ontop).

  • Penetration isn't the same thing for a guy as other stuff.. its way more intense.. he probably just liked it way more.. and sometimes our body reacts different depending on our emotions, stress, fatigue etc.. if he performs or not is normal.. dont be alarmed by it and most important dont let him think he did something wrong

    • I told him I'm not upset with him, he seemed a little relieved after that.

    • Of course thats normal.. everyone wants to perform and please... and when we feel we dont it annoys us right? If you both talk and let each other its no big deal and keep going at it cause its fun then everything will be allright ;)

    • And when we dont * Sorry typing error

Most Helpful Girls

  • It is normal for virgins to last she it periods o time. Sex and fooling around feel different.

  • Yeah. It's normal. He's never had his dick wet before, so of course it ended fast.

  • Perfectly normal especially if you two are sick makes even more sense.

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  • Losing your virginity is an awkward, and frankly fast experience. Nobody has ever lost their virginity like it's protested in the movies, or books. It's normal. He'll build up stamina, and as you continue your sexual relationship you'll find your rhythym.

  • That's extremely normal my dood

  • Normal. The feeling of the penis in the vagina is much better and intense than the foreplay leading to it. Combined with the excitement of advancing to that level of intimacy, a guy will usually come very quickly. Add to that he was sick (as were you) which can knock things out of whack, and not surprising at all. You probably should have waited till both feeling better.

  • Yes, it's normal.

  • Lmao. Forgive my laughter but yes this is normal. I lasted maybe 2 minutes my first time. No matter how much you practice with " mr right hand" nothing compares to a vagina lol. Be patient and give lots of love. Complain to him and it could hurt his confidence making it worse. I had a x that made me feel like a pornstar and i could go a hour at least with her lol giving that confidence does it ALL the good.

    • Yeah I definitely didn't complain, he was really concerned about me which is really sweet.

    • Good ! It shows he's all for your pleasure. 😁 give him time and keep a open mind

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