My wife does not get turned on by me anymore?

[Anonymous]

My wife and I are going on ten years we were each others firsts, I can not even remember the last time she was horny for me. Not to be conceited but I am a good looking man, In shape, always have women flirting so I don not think that is the issue. About three weeks ago we talked about having a threesome, long story short we had one. Well now things have gotten a little worst because she has been seeing this guy fooling around with him, not behind my back and she tell me everything that happens. Well the other day she asked if I would be OK with them having sex alone with out me, at first I said no but she went on saying that it is just sex and means nothing, she just wants to experience other partners so I ended up letting her do it. She tells me that our sex is way better but she just get horny when she is with the other guy and does not know why she does not with me. All I can think about now is what she did with the other man and I regret letting her do it. She has since not talked to the guy or asked to see him again so I do not think she has a thing for him. I just do not know what to do

[Glamgoddess]

How do you guys go from being each others firsts to having threesomes? I guess that's not really the issue @ hand but the point of the matter is, I find it odd that your marriage has went from a beautiful, sacred relationship to a damn free-for-all. Are you sure she isn't having sex with other men on a regular basis? I guess what I do not understand is how you go from there to here. And now you're agreeing to allow her to have sex with other men? For some reason, you two have lost focus of what you mean to one another. Now, I don't mean to come off sounding judgemental. I just want you to be aware that bringing people into your bedroom does not bring you closer together. It only creates a wedge. I understand however, how she could be curious about other men in the bedroom. Don't you fantasize about other women in the bedroom? I think it might be somewhat important to sit down and "debrief" one another about the threesome and your level of connection with one another from here. Ask her if she wants to be able to sleep with other men regularly and what she foresees for your relationship. Also, try tantric sex. That is a great way to reconnect with your lover after having major issues or interruptions in the normal routine. I think it might be time for you two to gather your bearings. The best way that, that can be achieved is to sit down and communicate. Good luck, doll. Hope this helps! :)

[Asker]

no she's not having sex with other people I know that, things have just started to be routine, she say were are not spontaneousness and the threesome and then later with just him was, but when I try to be spontaneousness I get shot down, like today she was showering so I sneaked in to give her a little kiss and basic asked me what I was doing and that she was showering, she basically killed my mood and I walked out even tho she was calling me to come back.

[Glamgoddess]

Maybe you can ask her if she'd be willing to go away together. You guys need to communicate & fast. Otherwise this thing will spiral out of control & even worse things might be ahead for you two. Did you think about the repercussions when you gave her the green light to sleep with this other man? I guess what's done is done but I think the door to her curiousity is wide open now.and honestly, I don't think it'll be closed for a long time to come.

[nice_lil_sprout]

The best thing to do is let her know how you feel...if you're not open with her, how can she be open with you?

[jwbjimmy23]

Many ways to get her turned on maybe if you let her fuck another man she likes
or she might be already fucking someone man or woman

[Letsbereal]

Check the post above yours and see if you can relate