My wife is interested in having a 3 some with another girl. How do I find another girl discretely?

[zappa]

We are well know in the area in which we live and we need to be extra discrete.

[Anonymous]

I have to agree with the guy that said let your wife do the work. I have a feeling that if this is truly your wife's idea.she probably has a preference of what she is looking for anyway. And even though you probably want to pick out some hot 18 year old college girl from the playboy collection.trust me, it is better if you let her find someone that she is not going to be jealous of. A couple things to think of:

1. If she picks the girl, she can't accuse you later of just wanting to have an affair with some other woman.

2. If she picks the girl, she can't critisize your taste in the woman.

3. You still get two women

4. Chances are, your wife will pick out someone hotter than you because you will try not to pick out someone too hot just to protect your wife's feelings.

Talk to your wife about it. See what she thinks. She may have a girlfriend in mind for this already, but doesn't exaclty know how to bring it up to you. Ask her if she knows anyone that might be up for it. If she is at a loss too.I suggest an out of state trip.and I do mean out of state.

[archer86]

There is a smorgasborg of swingers websites and magazines to use in looking for a bi-woman for a 3-some. The problem is that such women are in so high demand that you may have problems getting one in a short amount of time. I wasted lots of time and money on those sex sites looking for a woman, I can tell you that EVERYONE wants a woman: men, women, couples, animals, even aliens! The problem with most of those sites is that everyone goes on them which means somebody will recognize you. If you can travel, then some of those swingers events are good places to look such as Hedonist Camp in Jamaica that is held every year.

If all else fails, hire an escort. Very discreet this way abeid a bit expensive. You would have to shop around to find an escort who is bi, best places for success would be the major cities. DO NOT go to NYC! The prices there are atrocious!

[Anonymous]

There's not really a def sure fire way to be discrete about this, because it can come off as a very intrusive question if asked to the wrong person in the wrong way. However, as far as I know, there are really only a couple ways to go about this.

#1 going to local bars/clubs and talking with the person you both choose. I would also have your wife do the talking because that can be less intimidating. She could bring it up like, "what do think about blah blah blah" and get the girls reaction. This way, you are able to feel the person out before necessarily asking her.

#2 There are swinger clubs that are for this specific purpose, but are typically found only in bigger cities.

I am not a swinger, so I may not be the BEST person to give advice on this. But I have been approached several times by couples, and there are definitely better ways to go about it than others. And, if this is what you and your wife are into, I say more power to ya and good luck :)

[The-lady-]

TAke a trip to a sexy place like Vegas, What happen in Vegas Stays in Vegas. Post an add before you leave ask for pictures or simply go into a bar and start talking to a girl have your wife start flirting with a woman and go from there. But whatever you do don't do it close to home is that is such a concern!

[AJtogo]

I agree. Take this out of your backyard if you want to be discrete about it.

[dakadan]

You can always go to a swing club. There are a lot of women who are bi-curious who show up to those types of places and there will be no judgment around it. You can do a search for swingers to find directories for you area.

[dave216]

Well your wife is the one interested according to your question, let her do the finding. My guess is since she brought it up she already has someone in mind, and has probably discussed the situation with her. Women think different than we do. I would be surprised if a lot of thought and planning had not been done before you ever heard of this possibility.

[mav0502]

I would suggest ur wife do the work as it would be easier for her to find someone.if you asked they may find it offensive. also looking further away from home, say in the next town or something might help. also searching through some ad's on the internet might also be a way to find someone. hope you have fun

[adat1408]

craigslist.

say somethign like "we are a couple looking for a female to join us in sexual activity"

that way no one sees your name unless theyre really interested, plus you find them in your area.